Thinking about money and women

[Askaladd]

We all know that rich men get play. Women love to be bought things and they expect it. I have started thinking: what is the benefit of even having a gf if all you get in exchange for bleeding your pockets dry is endless drama and the equivelent of cracking the Bolzmann formula just to balance out her emotions. It just seems far smarter to spin plates and crack a lot of women instead. What do you guys think?

 

[Askaladd]

I have spent a considerable amount of money helping and meeting my gf and still I get the classic bullcrap nearly every day. I am getting so tired

 

[Askaladd]

And now she sent me a message saying she wants to take a month off to "think about our relationship". What to even think of this? Tho I am quite sure this could just be something said out of a combination of emotionality in the moment+a certain phase of the month. Still I think about breaking up more and more.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

I am getting so tired

About f0cking time

And now she sent me a message saying she wants to take a month off to "think about our relationship". What to even think of this? Tho I am quite sure this could just be something said out of a combination of emotionality in the moment+a certain phase of the month. Still I think about breaking up more and more.

She´s giving you an out. Take it.

It just seems far smarter to spin plates

Yes, specially for someone as young as you.

 

[plumber]

where is the best place or spot in your environment to connect with and have date/meeting with some woman that might be available ?

 

[BaronOfHair]

@Askaladd "I have started thinking: what is the benefit of even having a gf if all you get in exchange for bleeding your pockets dry is endless drama and the equivelent of cracking the Bolzmann formula just to balance out her emotions"

If that's ALL you're getting, go snag another SO.... We're all(in theory, anyway)free folk under The Constitution

 

[Manure Spherian]

We all know that rich men get play. Women love to be bought things and they expect it. I have started thinking: what is the benefit of even having a gf if all you get in exchange for bleeding your pockets dry is endless drama and the equivelent of cracking the Bolzmann formula just to balance out her emotions. It just seems far smarter to spin plates and crack a lot of women instead. What do you guys think?

With that logic, just get prostitutes.

What’s fascinating on this site is some posters whining about how bad women are while wanting them. Bizarre.

 

[zekko]

We all know that rich men get play. Women love to be bought things and they expect it.

Men shouldn't be simps, you don't need to buy women's affections. My girlfriend and I buy each other things fairly frequently, but it's mostly practical stuff or treating for meals or whatever. Honestly, I'm sure she spends more on me than I spend on her. She just has that giving personality.

There are wealthy men who get taken advantage of, but there are also wealthy men who are attractive. Not so much because they're rich, but because they are successful and self sufficient, and can stand on their own two feet. Being able to take care of your own needs is great for giving you confidence and self respect.

 

[Tiguere]

where is the best place or spot in your environment to connect with and have date/meeting with some woman that might be available ?

Gym

 

[Solomon]

Spinning plates can get expensive too. Once you meet a girl they will be cool with you cooking dinner but you still gotta buy the groceries, and make the food etc or she has to buy the food etc. The most expensive thing is time, time is something that you can't get back.

IMO I would rather have a girlfriend that meets my basic critiera i.e. looks, personality, effort etc. Than deal with 2-4 different women. I've done it before and it gets tiring and exhausting trying to manage them all i.e. texting, seeing them etc

 

[plumber]

Spinning plates can get expensive too. Once you meet a girl they will be cool with you cooking dinner but you still gotta buy the groceries, and make the food etc or she has to buy the food etc. The most expensive thing is time, time is something that you can't get back.

IMO I would rather have a girlfriend that meets my basic critiera i.e. looks, personality, effort etc. Than deal with 2-4 different women. I've done it before and it gets tiring and exhausting trying to manage them all i.e. texting, seeing them etc

exactly this. doing it and getting it to be stable is the challenge. as soon as we (men) go to just one woman we then no longer are hunting... we get soft and slower. have to put in the same amount of work as for spinning, just in different ways. not always clear what is needed to do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's called being a simp. Plenty of guys do it, but you shouldn't be.

 

[Travel memoir21]

I agree with Zekko, you shouldn’t buy a woman’s affection and should be a mutual sense of giving on both parties. You’re still young, you should be using this time to go after your goals and mission. Use this time to learn basic social skills to learn to connect with all sorts of people. Use ChatGPT and have a social connection bootcamp where you’re at. Learn to have fun and let go brother. Aim for Quality women too and learn how to screen for red flags. That’s an art within itself that’s not talked much about here.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Do YOURSELF a favor and leave-her-alone. There's a great deal of mechanical thinking in the redpill/manosphere circles. eg... "She does this - it means this." "She said this, therefore that." etc. The reason why people keep saying "spin plates" "move on" or suggest to go find another lady is so you grow your relationship skills. You're doing yourself a disservice by attempting to round peg square hole with a chick who you know is more effort than you'd like.

Even if you don't snag a LTR with your dream girl and it is just a fling or a few dates, you have REALATED with the opposite gender. You're building relationship skills even if you don't know it. If you just "settle" you're not learning anything other than how to take cr@p from a woman who doesn't like you in that way and you being resentful of women because of your limited scope of experience with women who level dung heaps at you.

What you need is adaptive thinking and not mechanical thinking. This tendency to think this way isn't limited to men trying to oversimplify things either. I'd like to think I'm the author of following, though I might not be; "Show me a man that says 'all women care about is money' and I'll show you a man that doesn't know anything about women. Show me a woman who says 'all men care about is s3x' and I'll show you a woman who doesn't know anything about men."

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Askaladd,
As you age,developing Mechanical or Handy Man skills can be useful...A bit after Christmas I put together a flat pack drawer unit for a Lady,sod of a job,but she payed in Scarra currency plus a Steak and Kidney Pie....A Mate is into swing Dancing offers likely Lasses personal tuition at their place,does quite nicely thankyou.

 

[Dash Riprock]

And now she sent me a message saying she wants to take a month off to "think about our relationship".

She just broke up with you but wants to keep you around in the event the new guy -- and there is a new guy -- doesn't work out while "she's thinking about it." Don't fall for this.

My recommendation: F-that. YOU officially break up with her. NOW. Tell her you're just not feeling it anymore, etc. But once you do this you CANNOT be a p*ssy and take her back when the tears and pleading start, which they probably will. Be man enough to preserve your self-respect, worth, and dignity and just MOVE ON.

Men of value don't wait around until their woman decides whether they want them or not.

Good luck.

 

[Lotus Effect]

She just broke up with you but wants to keep you around in the event the new guy -- and there is a new guy -- doesn't work out while "she's thinking about it." Don't fall for this.

Truer words have not been spoken