Why Marriage in its current form is largely broken

[jhonny9546]

For every man I know in truly happy marriage

And I'm pretty sure their life is better in a relationship than alone.
Those are rare exception, and it usually depend on the woman

 

[inquisitor]

To fix the "hardware" issue, we have to move away from a one-size-fits-all state contract and toward a modular, intent-based partnership. If we want to keep the valuable parts, namely stability, shared building, and family protection, without the "projector" overheating, the system needs to be updated for 2026 and beyond.

Here is how a modernized version of marriage could look:

1. The "Renewable Term" Marriage

Instead of a "till death do us part" contract that encourages the "roommate" slump, marriages could operate on 5 or 10-year renewable terms.​

• The Logic: At the end of the term, the couple must actively choose to "re-up."
• The Benefit: This eliminates the "auto-pilot" that leads to roommates. It keeps both partners "on their toes", so to speak, to maintain the relationship's quality, knowing the contract isn't an infinite safety net for laziness

2. Mandatory Binding "Pre-nuptial" Transparency

In the current system, you sign a contract without seeing the fine print of the exit clause. A modern version would make Prenuptial Agreements the default, not the exception.​

• The Logic: You decide how assets are split while you love each other, not while you hate each other.
• The Benefit: This removes the "financial ruin" fear for men and the "poverty trap" fear for women. It turns marriage back into a transparent business partnership with clear exit strategies.

3. The "Parental Partnership" vs. "Romantic Union"

We currently bundle "raising kids" and "romantic passion" into one document. A modern update could separate them.​

• The Logic: A legal Co-Parenting Contract focuses on the stability and financing of the children, while the Romantic Union remains a private matter of the heart.
• The Benefit: If the romance dies (the "roommate" phase), the parental contract stays intact, providing the "good of the family" stability without the legal mess of a romantic divorce.

4. Financial "Opt-in" Modules

Instead of the state automatically merging all assets, modern marriage could function like a Joint Venture.​

• The Logic: Couples choose which "buckets" to merge (e.g., a house or a college fund) while keeping their individual "hardware" (retirement accounts, pre-marital assets) separate by law.
• The Benefit: It rewards the "power couple" model of building wealth together without the "all-or-nothing" risk that makes men hesitant to sign the paper.

5. Emotional "Maintenance" Credits

Just like a car needs an inspection to stay on the road, a modern marriage could require annual relationship check-ins or counseling as part of the legal standing.​

• The Logic: You can't let the "projector" gather dust for 20 years and then wonder why the film snapped.
• The Benefit: It shifts the focus from legal endurance to emotional health, ensuring that "roommates" are identified and helped before they become "litigants."

Ultimately, if we want to save the institution, we have to stop trying to force modern relationships into medieval structures. We need a "Marriage 2.0" that replaces the blind "till death do us part" gamble with a transparent, modular, and renewable partnership; one that protects the financial autonomy of the individual while securing the stability of the family.

By detaching the legal "business deal" from the high-pressure demand for eternal romance, we can finally stop living as roommates in a broken system and start building partnerships that actually fit the way we live today.

There is, however, something that remains the same since time immemorial. All of this logic sounds unromantic to a quality woman who actually wants a loving partnership, not a business model with economic and legal concepts as pathways for romantic longevity.

Women are still emotional beings. Doesn't matter what contract you two sign if you're not buying her flowers on your anniversary, or working out to make your body look good and increase your stamina during sex, or letting her know your perspective on things such that she won't stray from both of your dreams, or playfully tickling and negging her (do men still know negging?), or spicing up the bedroom only for both of you, or communicating your needs to her, or conducting spontaneous, tension-riddled dates, or correcting her while letting her choose to be humble enough to listen to you, or cooking her favorite vegetable dish for absolutely no reason.

Still can't logic one's way into someone's heart, unless that way is into someone's heart, which in this case means flourishing emotional activity.

Anyway, Number 3 has probably been going on in marriage long before modern times.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There is, however, something that remains the same since time immemorial. All of this logic sounds unromantic to a quality woman who actually wants a loving partnership, not a business model with economic and legal concepts as pathways for romantic longevity.

Women are still emotional beings. Doesn't matter what contract you two sign if you're not buying her flowers on your anniversary, or working out to make your body look good and increase your stamina during sex, or letting her know your perspective on things such that she won't stray from both of your dreams, or playfully tickling and negging her (do men still know negging?), or spicing up the bedroom only for both of you, or communicating your needs to her, or conducting spontaneous, tension-riddled dates, or correcting her while letting her choose to be humble enough to listen to you, or cooking her favorite vegetable dish for absolutely no reason.

Still can't logic one's way into someone's heart, unless that way is into someone's heart, which in this case means flourishing emotional activity.

Anyway, Number 3 has probably been going on in marriage long before modern times.

That's the entire point.

The "business model" IS marriage and has been since it was invented.

Just because we try and give us some new meaning doesn't change that.

You can put whipped cream on a giant pile of sh!t and pretend it's fancy chocolate pudding, but at the end of the day it's still a giant pile of sh!t.

 

[jhonny9546]

All of this logic sounds unromantic to a quality woman who actually wants a loving partnership, not a business model with economic and legal concepts as pathways for romantic longevity.

Have you ever been married?

 

[sevbucmash]

It's something else. We are under attack in multiple countries across the globe. Namely in North America, Europe and in Russia. Less so in South America. Our institutions such as marriage are being destroyed, so that our birth rates fall to rock bottom, all the while illegal immigration is on the rise and being actively promoted. This is done so that we are replaced.

I can not provide you links to videos, nor talk a lot here. Because once you go down a bunny hole eventually you discover stuff that is not widely accepted. Think Epstein type of material, but on a larger, global level.

Transcript from video one.

(0:00) At the end of days, you're going to need the iron of Esav, which represents Edom, (0:07) which is the West, Europe, and the Americas, to get intermixed with Ishmael, (0:15) which is basically Arabs and Muslims. How in the world was this ever going to (0:19) happen if not for this refugee crisis? At the end of days, you're going to have this (0:23) intermixing between Esav, Edom, which is the West, and the East, which is the (0:29) Muslims, and the Arabs, making this through this influx into the world. (0:35) They're going to have a far larger birth rate than the indigenous people there, (0:40) and they're going to sort of conquer by number.
There are many different sources (0:44) for this, where there will be many, many people killed, and so on and so forth. (0:47) So the idea of having these refugees come into Europe, it's no longer a matter of (0:53) whether it's right or wrong, it's just simply a fulfillment of what it was (0:56) meant to be all along. It's a fulfillment of the hazaal and the prophecy.

Transcript from video two.

(0:00) You can't really argue that the Goyim are going to be annihilated. (0:02) That's not really an option for all the nebuas, all the prophecies. (0:06) And not only Goyim as individuals.
(0:08) You could say that we broke down their nationalities, (0:10) and they're all a bunch of yechidim running around. (0:13) No, as nations even. (0:15) As Goyim, they're gone.
(0:17) Their personality, as they exist befnei atzmam, (0:21) as they would exist independently of khalis, (0:24) no, they don't exist. (0:25) They're done. (0:27) In modern terminology, (0:28) in modern terminology, (0:31) they call it cultural genocide.
(0:34) There's a term for it by the progressives. (0:39) It's called cultural genocide. (0:40) The opinion who says that karka kobanei sheis (0:43) that they'll be annihilated, vathlentazai, (0:45) they basically learn there's going to be cultural genocide.
(0:48) You know what? (0:48) The Goyim as they exist, as Goyim, (0:51) befnei atzmam, that's done with. (0:54) Votluma votl. (0:55) That's why it says kobanei sheis.
(0:56) Every individual, those survivors, (0:59) not only as a nation they'll cease to exist, (1:01) even as individuals. (1:02) It has to be gone. (1:05) The first way, yeah, in other words, (1:07) you have to be totally nullified (1:08) to the Jewish people, (1:10) and there's no redemption for you as an individual, (1:14) as you exist in your own existence, (1:17) in your own personality.
(1:18) That independent existence itself (1:20) wants to serve the yidim, (1:22) wants to serve Hashem, recognizes Hashem. (1:25) Our G-d, who Asad Lava, (1:28) is also going to be the G-d of the Goyim. (1:30) Hashem Echad.
(1:31) All the Goyim, that everyone's going to serve Hashem together, (1:34) and transform the tongue of the Goyim. (1:36) This is the concept. (1:38) And the Mammoth and the Rebbe said, (1:38) we have to work on the Goyim.
(1:40) And we have to understand that the Goyim (1:42) have to recognize Hashem and start keeping them. (1:45) And there's ways to bring Mashiach. (1:47) Get in the Goyim to keep Hashem.
(1:49) V'bizaikha anoha 2800 abadim. (1:52) Mashiach comes. (1:53) Whoever's there and sits there will have 2800 abadim.
(1:57) 10 people will hold on from all the Lashenis of the Goyim. (2:01) V'hachaziku b'knaf Ish Yehudi. (2:04) These are the words of the Passover.
(2:05) They will grasp onto the corner, (2:07) the kanaf of an Ish Yehudi. (2:11) Leimer saying, (2:11) Nelche Yimach.

As you can see, this type of stuff can not be shared on YouTube, on Facebook, or other type of mainstream online platforms. It will get deleted in an instant. It does exist on telegram in private chat groups, though. Frankly, even sharing it with you here, I am unable to say certain things.

But this is the bottom of the rabbit hole.

Our society, our marriage institution is being destroyed deliberately by popular culture, by economic conditions, by mainstream music, by our environment. We are being fed gay culture, child free culture. Men are unable to find mates. Women are not interested in having children. There is a full and systematic destruction being perpetrated.

All the while immigration is being promoted unchecked. Less so under Trump, but none the less, damage is already done. People with healthy birth rates are among us, and they are replacing us.

You are unable to marry a chick because you are under attack, the world is changing. Certain people want you wiped out and gone. Soft-kill genocide is happening.

 

[sevbucmash]

Let's try this. Just click the links, but cancel out of open in Telegram dialog if you get it, unless you have telegram installed and want to open these in telegram. You cancel out and play the videos right inside your browser.

Video 1, of which we have transcript above, https://t.me/DPAchat/1092975
Video 2, https://t.me/DPAchat/1092976

I hope this will clear some things out for some of you.

 

[inquisitor]

Have you ever been married?

Do you think I need to have been married to conceive my own understanding of marriage? Everything I have seen from my parents and relatives, and everything I've researched and learned, led to these conclusions. I have done my due diligence. What do you think?
Should you wait until marriage before you have your own understanding of marriage?

Which of those five contracts do you think Lana Del Rey could have signed with Jeremy Dufrene, a Cajun swamp tour boat operator in Louisiana, her new husband, with three children before her?

Our society, our marriage institution is being destroyed deliberately by popular culture, by economic conditions, by mainstream music, by our environment. We are being fed gay culture, child free culture. Men are unable to find mates. Women are not interested in having children. There is a full and systematic destruction being perpetrated.

You are unable to marry a chick because you are under attack, the world is changing. Certain people want you wiped out and gone. Soft-kill genocide is happening.

Need I say more?

 

[BaronOfHair]

@sevbucmash "We are under attack in multiple countries across the globe. Namely in North America, Europe and in Russia. Less so in South America. Our institutions such as marriage are being destroyed, so that our birth rates fall to rock bottom, all the while illegal immigration is on the rise and being actively promoted. This is done so that we are replaced"

If this is so, The Evil Overlords you speak of have a strange strategy for achieving such a goal https://www.migrationpolicy.org/article/biden-deportation-record , the likes of which may be even more boneheaded than Hollywood's campaign to pass Sansa Stark off as a credible Tomb Raider


"Women are not interested in having children"

We've already established that a large percentage of our species is afflicted with serious disturbances and/or unfit to raise offspring they might produce into well-adjusted human beings... Let's stop pretending that fewer people reproducing is a tragedy, and instead

-Rejoice in the knowledge that AOC and her ilk are remaining child free

-Lament the fact that yet another failed comedian turned pundit like Konstantin Kissin has bred a fresh batch of imbeciles, who'll one day join him in sh-t-ng the bed

 

[inquisitor]

If this is so, The Evil Overlords you speak of have a strange strategy for achieving such a goal https://www.migrationpolicy.org/article/biden-deportation-record

Brother, this is not about Biden versus Trump anymore.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Brother, this is not about Biden versus Trump anymore.

Yeah, this "debate" was already farcial back in The 2000s

Now, it's just become more trite and pathetic than learning your parish priest chows down on statutory cooter, a few dozen times per week

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's something else. We are under attack in multiple countries across the globe. Namely in North America, Europe and in Russia. Less so in South America. Our institutions such as marriage are being destroyed, so that our birth rates fall to rock bottom, all the while illegal immigration is on the rise and being actively promoted. This is done so that we are replaced.

I can not provide you links to videos, nor talk a lot here. Because once you go down a bunny hole eventually you discover stuff that is not widely accepted. Think Epstein type of material, but on a larger, global level.

Transcript from video one.

Transcript from video two.

As you can see, this type of stuff can not be shared on YouTube, on Facebook, or other type of mainstream online platforms. It will get deleted in an instant. It does exist on telegram in private chat groups, though. Frankly, even sharing it with you here, I am unable to say certain things.

But this is the bottom of the rabbit hole.

Our society, our marriage institution is being destroyed deliberately by popular culture, by economic conditions, by mainstream music, by our environment. We are being fed gay culture, child free culture. Men are unable to find mates. Women are not interested in having children. There is a full and systematic destruction being perpetrated.

All the while immigration is being promoted unchecked. Less so under Trump, but none the less, damage is already done. People with healthy birth rates are among us, and they are replacing us.

You are unable to marry a chick because you are under attack, the world is changing. Certain people want you wiped out and gone. Soft-kill genocide is happening.

Marriage is destroying itself because unlike everything else that has changed with the times, it has not.

The reason it came into existence is no longer valid anymore. That is simply factual and not really disputable.

Might as well be riding a horse around instead of driving a car with this mindset.

 

[jhonny9546]

Need I say more?

Your speech is very useful, feel free to do so.



Regarding the "experience" factor, however, I always prefer the lived one to the simulated one.
I say this to myself, and to you too.