"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I feel envious of those who have find their lifetime career

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Hi! I've recently started considering career paths.
In my 20s and 30s, I experimented and studied, but I still haven't found my daily life.

However, having worked with lawyers, accountants, notaries, builders, fishermen, merchants, etc., I find their careers truly fascinating and envious, because they've succeeded. Even though their jobs have pros and cons, I know people who've been doing it for 30, 50, or 60 years.
They've always done that one job/profession, and they've become increasingly expert at it. (They're also rich and successful.)

So I asked myself: how did they choose?

Most of them had no choice: they inherited it, or they had to follow their parents' advice.
Others, however, focused on studying "safe" subjects (e.g., lawyers).

In the end, it was easy for them; they were "thrown" into it, while for everyone else, like me, looking for something for life is incredibly impossible.

Your experiences?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I geuss you gotta know what's out there: you've already done that.

Next step is to make a firm decision and stick with it. The best advice I've ever got was to specialize in one specific area so you know absolutely EVERYTHING about it and thus you'll have the opportunity to start your own business or be a one of a kind specialist.

I'd say follow the money on a level that's good enough for you. Yeah, sometimes you study X and up working Y. But times keeps moving on...so don't waste too much time contemplating what to do.

Work will always be somewhat dull ,regardless of your occupation. But tbh I wake up and enjoy what I'm doing every day and I get better and make more money on top of that...
 

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do not be afraid to make a massive change. if it is not working for you its ok to try something completely not related.

look closely at the personality testing. square pegs do not fit into round holes.

make it a priority to manage money. spend less than you earn, always. in this way you are not a slave to a paycheck. only then can you choose.
 

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look closely at the personality testing. square pegs do not fit into round holes.
Did you find it really relevant?

The best advice I've ever got was to specialize in one specific area so you know absolutely EVERYTHING about it and thus you'll have the opportunity to start your own business or be a one of a kind specialist
Tell us more, please
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Did you find it really relevant?
Yes, its well known world wide. Organizations use it for input to personnel development investment choices. I used it in the past for that also. Only later did it become clear that its really useful for relationships and self introspection.
 

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Hi Jhonny,
I grew up respecting Winston Churchill one of whose favourite quotes was..
"If you find a job you love, you'll never work again."⁠ Coming from great wealth and opportunity it was easy for him to say...For you?I see you finding your true vocation in some form of teaching.
 
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