Even Conservative Christian Men whose got wholesome Christian wives arent safe from Monkey branching

[Travel memoir21]

Okay this is a given based on our fvcked up cultural climate we got here. So yesterday night I went to a Filipina community party of all the people I met and grew up with in the past. Some of these people I haven’t seen in years, I didn’t want to get noticed so I dressed up casually for the event. Then I saw and said hi to one of the girls there whom I grew up with and she’s married now and she’s got a reputation of being one of the wholesome goody girls in the community because she’s always participating in programs and happens to be a great singer. Now mind you, Im schizophrenic so I was a little agitated and couldn’t wait to leave the party within two hours. So I left, I meditated back in the house to recover from that bullcrap and the today, guess who texted me, ‘ it was great seeing you at the party yesterday night?’ …yep her. It’s like she wanted to start something with me, we had a nice playful exchange but let’s just leave it at that. Will I take advantage of the situation, probably not because I got Christian morals.

But dude, this is a nice Christian chick we got here texting me out of nowhere, can you imagine a loose heathenistic liberal loony have done compared to her? Probably a crap load worse….thats why you gotta learn the art of screening for a good quality woman with flaws because no one is perfect but they can be a decent partner. The art of screening for a good woman is not talked about enough in here, it needs to be emphasized more.

 

[Clockwerk50]

If this were a research study and this were the evidence being presented for peer review, the conclusion would be that there’s no way to determine with 100% certainty that this woman is willing to leave her husband to enter a relationship with you.

Maybe she was just being friendly because she hasn’t seen you in years and wanted to be polite.

 

[Travel memoir21]

If this were a research study and this were the evidence being presented for peer review, the conclusion would be that there’s no way to determine with 100% certainty that this woman is willing to leave her husband to enter a relationship with you.

Maybe she was just being friendly because she hasn’t seen you in years and wanted to be polite.

Lol yeah that could be the case but I barely said hi to her. What she did seems a but stalkerish lol

 

[Travel memoir21]

true you maybe right, but it’s these type of interactions that could lead to something more sometimes

 

[eli77]

Okay this is a given based on our fvcked up cultural climate we got here. So yesterday night I went to a Filipina community party of all the people I met and grew up with in the past. Some of these people I haven’t seen in years, I didn’t want to get noticed so I dressed up casually for the event. Then I saw and said hi to one of the girls there whom I grew up with and she’s married now and she’s got a reputation of being one of the wholesome goody girls in the community because she’s always participating in programs and happens to be a great singer. Now mind you, Im schizophrenic so I was a little agitated and couldn’t wait to leave the party within two hours. So I left, I meditated back in the house to recover from that bullcrap and the today, guess who texted me, ‘ it was great seeing you at the party yesterday night?’ …yep her. It’s like she wanted to start something with me, we had a nice playful exchange but let’s just leave it at that. Will I take advantage of the situation, probably not because I got Christian morals.

But dude, this is a nice Christian chick we got here texting me out of nowhere, can you imagine a loose heathenistic liberal loony have done compared to her? Probably a crap load worse….thats why you gotta learn the art of screening for a good quality woman with flaws because no one is perfect but they can be a decent partner. The art of screening for a good woman is not talked about enough in here, it needs to be emphasized more.

True some men learn that the hard way

 

[plumber]

reply to her and be friendly, polite. no need to think romance unless she makes a clear clean move on you. just accept it as a welcome from one of the social leaders of the group. if its more than that, let her be the one to make the move. you can always refuse if you want. don't filter your social contacts based on eliminating all the friendly ones.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

"Safe" is a very relative word. Usually relative to how "Safe" she knows she is from him being a 'good boy' while at the same time he feels "safe" enough to backslide into "niceguy" territory. Not natural is not natural is not natural. If it can't be a mutually enjoyable experience where you both tell others to 'shag off' when they flirt or observe the agreed upon boundaries of your relationship, it's on borrowed time.

You can basically expect these "tradcon" ladies to monkey branch just as a "looney-lefty" would. 'Familiarity breeds contempt' may sound cliche, but it has a ring of truth to it IMHO. If you become too comfortable or let slide your habits that allowed her to 'fall in love' with you, you could place bets a conversation including the phrase "You're not the man I ____." will rear its ugly head. Although I do admit that a more liberal minded lady is much more likely to outwardly display random pickiness and predictable unpredictability.

Most of the women who have displayed cues of curiosity or blatant flirting toward me while committed in an LTR have actually been these "good Christian women." I was a late bloomer and many of these women I knew as teenagers just knew me as a skinny quiet kid who was a switch flip away from being too logical and boring to being too emotional and weak. (Think of a real life Hayden Christiansen as Anakin from Episode II minus the cool lightsaber and force abilities.) Guess the marriage to their HS sweethearts they turned me down for make them imagine things about this newly jacked and charismatic edgy biker.

I can't count the number of times I've received messages, gotten more than friendly looks from, or received friend requests from these same ladies. Most of them are still married. It's amusing sure, but I could care less about it. That's the key difference here. There are other women out there who will likely make you believe that this Filipina is just a drop in the bucket compared to another lady. It could be the next one you meet even!

In my early 20's I was jealous and probably would have dated them at the first opportunity and hung on for dear life. I could care less now, because I know I can gain the favor of women and there are better out there who will pick me out of a hundred guys. I think that the more a man can honestly say "If she broke up with me today or filed for divorce I'd be ok. Man, it would REALLY svck, but I'll be ok." the better off he will be. Even in his current LTR (if he has one), the more a lady knows he's just as capable living without her, the more she is reassured. She might admit this only under penalty of law, (maybe not even then) but the 't0xic' trait of honest and stoic reaction to what life throws at you is very attractive to women.

I agree that more effort should be taken to "screen" a woman. This comes from the unfortunate scarcity mindset. It's all too easy to forget there are a good 1 billion out there waiting for someone to come along. A woman, even if she is not good for you, shows outward and obvious interest can make a fool out of any man. ^This man. I'm not so sure there's any man with a swinging d1ck that hasn't fallen for it at least a few times, Don Juan or no. Cheers man, keep your head up.

 

[corrector]

true you maybe right, but it’s these type of interactions that could lead to something more sometimes

Exactly. Put yourself in the other guy's postion. If your girl started chatting up with a dude she met from a party on her phone the next day and said the same thing, and you caught it on her phone, would you still trust her or feel undermined/insecure in that relationship?

 

[Aguirre]

women are women. The only difference I see is that some Christian women may settle for a beta male at an earlier age, possibly marrying a high school sweetheart. She’ll likely grow bored of their idealized life together and have regrets about not partying enough in her youth and may have an affair or divorce her clueless good guy husband.

or if she was a hoe at any time, she now can undergo a midlife crisis epiphany and get right with god, reinventing herself.

 

[Travel memoir21]

women are women. The only difference I see is that some Christian women may settle for a beta male at an earlier age, possibly marrying a high school sweetheart. She’ll likely grow bored of their idealized life together and have regrets about not partying enough in her youth and may have an affair or divorce her clueless good guy husband.

or if she was a hoe at any time, she now can undergo a midlife crisis epiphany and get right with god, reinventing herself.

True, But I believe there still some good ones, and their the ones who gets snatched up fast like a good deal in a grocery store lol….we really are a product of our environments and ultimately our own decisions.

 

[Aguirre]

True, But I believe there still some good ones, and their the ones who gets snatched up fast like a good deal in a grocery store lol….we really are a product of our environments and ultimately our own decisions.

maybe unicorns are real, but the unicorn you see might just be a painted pony with a horn glued on her forehead, advertising scarcity.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Now mind you, Im schizophrenic so I was a little agitated and couldn’t wait to leave the party within two hours

A yearning no doubt shared by the other dozen or so "people" within you

 

[Clockwerk50]

A yearning no doubt shared by the other dozen or so "people" within you

I totally missed OP was schizophrenic. I guess some things make sense now.

@Travel memoir21 Do you get a lot of hallucinations?

 

[Travel memoir21]

I totally missed OP was schizophrenic. I guess some things make sense now.

@Travel memoir21 Do you get a lot of hallucinations?

Yes, I get some. But my medication, my health regimen and my meditation/yoga practice keeps me grounded for the most part. Those healthy practices that I recommend time and time again in this site does wonders for me, imagine what it can do for you who is slightly consciously normal lol.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's because many people use religion as a facade to cover their tracks and avert suspicion from what they are actually doing...really not that much of a surprise when you delve into the psychology of it all.

They essentially are tricking others into seeing them how they want to be seen, not how they actually are, not really all that different from how people show the side they want a person they just started dating to see within the first few months and it takes a while for them to show them the "real person" they are dating.

I mean they go to church, they talk a good game, they read the Bible...everyone thinks there is no way they could be doing that! And typically "that" comes in the form of stealing money, sexual improprieties, drugs/alcohol/gambling/sex addictions, etc...

Like Travolta's character in Swordfish talks about to Stan how Houdini was able to make an elephant disappear in a room full of people and nobody could figure out how...by misdirection.

What the eyes see, the mind believes.

That's why I believe the more outwardly and over the top religious someone tries to appear to others, the more likely it is they are doing it to hide in plain sight, so to speak.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Crazy Betty was one of the most "religious" girls I have ever known.

Crazy Betty

When I was about 20 years old I started dating this HB9. There were some good things about her (parents still together, religious family, likes to clean & cook, etc), things that are not easy to find today. But boy, were there cons, a lot of them. Unfortunately the cons outweighted the...

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