Girl ghosts Guy on Date when he told her to Dress Casual, but she Dressed Frumpy

[BeExcellent]

Women in North America by and large have a terrible sense of style. They buy spandex pants from Lululemon and Alo and wear them every wear thinking that they look sexy. In reality, they look trashy and lazy.

Agree 100%. Makes it much easier to dress elegantly as so few women do. Italian or French women do a much better job of this, but in US all the girls look naked in black leotards. Leaves very little to the imagination, and sexiness arises from allure rather than vulgarity.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

She had every right to bail on him asap.

Back in the old days, that would have been an appropriate and common response.

And then maybe tell the story once in a while to friends.

But today, anything that can be possibly spun into a heroic tale of achievement is blasted all over social media in a desperate attempt to get as much attention as possible.

This lady acts like blocking him qualifies her for Jedi Knighthood or something.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

I have no idea what he was trying to accomplish.

He tells her to dress down and then takes her to an upscale restaurant.

She had every right to bail on him asap.

This. The girl was right.

 

[Slowhandluke]

This. The girl was right.

what happens if 10 years from now, after losing her looks she's sitting home with her cats complaining "where have all the good men gone?"..

Men should not give women the idea that there's plenty of fish in the sea. There isnt. Men are as important as women. Blowing people of because of a misunderstanding or idiosyncrasy is stupid. this did not happen in the past. people coupled up more in the past and were happier.

 

[OngBak]

It depends: did the guy dress fancy? If no then there was not much of a real problem at all, but still bad decision making

Did the guy dressed fancy, but wanted her to dress down?

If the latter one, Congrats it’s either a narcissist or someone with a big ego trying to get an ego boost and by embarrassing her. As far as I’m seeing she also mentioned that she kind of felt embarrassed so i assume it’s very likely the case that it was a narcissist or someone with a big ego she got invited from

conclusion: the girl was right either way, the guy on the other hand bad decision making, narcissist or big ego

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It depends: did the guy dress fancy? If no then there was not much of a real problem at all, but still bad decision making

Did the guy dressed fancy, but wanted her to dress down?

If the latter one, Congrats it’s either a narcissist or someone with a big ego trying to get an ego boost and by embarrassing her. As far as I’m seeing she also mentioned that she kind of felt embarrassed so i assume it’s very likely the case that it was a narcissist or someone with a big ego she got invited from

conclusion: the girl was right either way, the guy on the other hand bad decision making, narcissist or big ego

The biggest problem to begin with is that he took her to an upscale restaurant in the first place on a first date

 

[OngBak]

The biggest problem to begin with is that he took her to an upscale restaurant in the first place on a first date

Yeah I agree, it was a red flag to begin with.
The crazy part though is, let’s say the guy is indeed a narcissist or someone with a big ego, in that case he probably even expected her to leave so he can enjoy his meal while indulging in the thoughts of the entertainment the guy created. It’s like having a great meal and at the same time watching a funny movie for them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah I agree, it was a red flag to begin with.
The crazy part though is, let’s say the guy is indeed a narcissist or someone with a big ego, in that case he probably even expected her to leave so he can enjoy his meal while indulging in the thoughts of the entertainment the guy created. It’s like having a great meal and at the same time watching a funny movie for them.

Yeah I guess...sounds like the type of person that is secretly a sociopath as well...

Apparently there are a lot more "serial killers" among us, in terms of personality, they just don't have whatever trigger that causes them to become one.

 

[OngBak]

Yeah I guess...sounds like the type of person that is secretly a sociopath as well...

Apparently there are a lot more "serial killers" among us, in terms of personality, they just don't have whatever trigger that causes them to become one.

Yes could be.
Yeah humans can be more then capable in those things then they let on in general. Part of it is society and the rules that keeps us on check and adapt so it would be really chaotic without them.
Are you familiar with Stanfords prison experiment? It can actually be linked to your premise that people over time in authority position misuse their power creating a feedback loop of where these sociopathic, narcissistic tendencies get amplified and reinforced. It’s one of the reasons I believe a strong identity is really important, so while certain things can indeed trigger what you mentioned, they can also create one. Crazy right?