jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
We were talking about this very thing at dinner last night.
My 30-year-old sister, who has a career and travels a lot, was lamenting how her relationship with her boyfriend of five years had ended. She explained that nowadays, women want their independence to feel secure in case relationships end badly. Independence means a good job, a home of their own, and a great social circle. Therefore, a place to return to and feel good about themselves when the relationship ends.
On the other hand, my 40-year-old sister, married for 12 years, has had only one relationship, three children, a part-time job, and her husband is wealthy and has a high-paying job.
She talked about how staying together requires sacrifices, which modern women don't like. For example, giving up this independence and accepting the fact of being dependent but included in a functioning and prosperous system, precisely the wealth her husband provides.
So, my 30-year-old sister points out to him how this perspective is outdated and that many women are actresses just to stay in these relationships because they're comfortable.
She points out that if the relationship ends, she'll find herself moving back home to her parents, working a part-time job.
Now, these are two worlds, completely opposite, both viable, and I believe that women in the first are also more likely to want companionship relationships, rather than transactional ones like the second, and that they're better.
Also, let's get him on our men's side.
Nowadays, would you really be willing to put your accumulated, current, and future resources in the hands of a woman, making her dependent on you in this way? Sure, you'd have the power of the relationship, and you'd be basing the relationship on the fear of loss and abandonment, all things women would remain faithful to for life, especially after they've lost their prime in their 40s.
It's an important decision to make, especially when you know full well that your suitcase must always be packed, and in the second case, doing so will be more difficult.
The sister who complained that women don't make sacrifices is simply projecting the fact that she wants to be recognized for her sacrifice, but that she isn't truly happy.
Of course, one might think that for a period during maternity leave and when the children are small, a woman can look after the children at home, but afterward she can't do so indefinitely.
The objectively striking thing is that dependent relationships are longer-lasting, but they involve more violent partners who base their relationship on pre-aggmatism and fear. While in the first case, it's a relationship between friends; you can explore the relationship differently. To return to the topic of the post, there are many women who, at 30 or in that phase where they need to settle down, if they find a wealthy man who can afford their lifestyle, will do everything to make it seem like a "fairy tale" and will settle down even though they know full well that they don't want that, only the lifestyle he can afford. This is the case with those relationships that dissolve when the man loses financial stability. And it's also the case with these women who desire other men who might cheat. A woman doesn't cheat on the man of her life.
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My 30-year-old sister, who has a career and travels a lot, was lamenting how her relationship with her boyfriend of five years had ended. She explained that nowadays, women want their independence to feel secure in case relationships end badly. Independence means a good job, a home of their own, and a great social circle. Therefore, a place to return to and feel good about themselves when the relationship ends.
On the other hand, my 40-year-old sister, married for 12 years, has had only one relationship, three children, a part-time job, and her husband is wealthy and has a high-paying job.
She talked about how staying together requires sacrifices, which modern women don't like. For example, giving up this independence and accepting the fact of being dependent but included in a functioning and prosperous system, precisely the wealth her husband provides.
So, my 30-year-old sister points out to him how this perspective is outdated and that many women are actresses just to stay in these relationships because they're comfortable.
She points out that if the relationship ends, she'll find herself moving back home to her parents, working a part-time job.
Now, these are two worlds, completely opposite, both viable, and I believe that women in the first are also more likely to want companionship relationships, rather than transactional ones like the second, and that they're better.
Also, let's get him on our men's side.
Nowadays, would you really be willing to put your accumulated, current, and future resources in the hands of a woman, making her dependent on you in this way? Sure, you'd have the power of the relationship, and you'd be basing the relationship on the fear of loss and abandonment, all things women would remain faithful to for life, especially after they've lost their prime in their 40s.
It's an important decision to make, especially when you know full well that your suitcase must always be packed, and in the second case, doing so will be more difficult.
The sister who complained that women don't make sacrifices is simply projecting the fact that she wants to be recognized for her sacrifice, but that she isn't truly happy.
Of course, one might think that for a period during maternity leave and when the children are small, a woman can look after the children at home, but afterward she can't do so indefinitely.
The objectively striking thing is that dependent relationships are longer-lasting, but they involve more violent partners who base their relationship on pre-aggmatism and fear. While in the first case, it's a relationship between friends; you can explore the relationship differently. To return to the topic of the post, there are many women who, at 30 or in that phase where they need to settle down, if they find a wealthy man who can afford their lifestyle, will do everything to make it seem like a "fairy tale" and will settle down even though they know full well that they don't want that, only the lifestyle he can afford. This is the case with those relationships that dissolve when the man loses financial stability. And it's also the case with these women who desire other men who might cheat. A woman doesn't cheat on the man of her life.
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