jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
What I learned from this site... I learned to recognize and track down my sister behaviour.
Let's say that 5 or 6 years ago, I was a total nice guy.
I lent her some money, which she never repaid me as agreed, but instead paid me back in full three years later.
Then we repeated ourselves.
But a little while ago, she asked me for more money, a down payment to buy a house.
Now, however, I clearly see the red flag.
I told her I could lend her 8k, and I wrote a contract in which she promised to repay it.
So she talked to me like the down payment was 16k and gave me a whole speech about convincing me to give it to her.
I have that money, but this way I wouldn't be helping the girl.
She's not making an effort to save the money, not even to find other sources of financing.
But I'm missing something... Perhaps the most important one... is what I learned right here... and I was right.
She lacks gratitude. She doesn't even realize I'm lending her money, and what I'm doing is a huge favor.
And she should be grateful, but instead she wants to convince me to lend her 16k.
She tells me every day, "Is it possible you don't have it? I'm sure you have more."
Rather than seeing the glass half full, she looks for the full one and spills it out.
So I learned to close my ears and sharpen my eyesight.
Don't follow what she says, but see what she does.
My sister isn't grateful. She doesn't deserve my respect nor attention.
Now, this is my sister, but it could happen with any woman in your life.
Let's say that 5 or 6 years ago, I was a total nice guy.
I lent her some money, which she never repaid me as agreed, but instead paid me back in full three years later.
Then we repeated ourselves.
But a little while ago, she asked me for more money, a down payment to buy a house.
Now, however, I clearly see the red flag.
I told her I could lend her 8k, and I wrote a contract in which she promised to repay it.
So she talked to me like the down payment was 16k and gave me a whole speech about convincing me to give it to her.
I have that money, but this way I wouldn't be helping the girl.
She's not making an effort to save the money, not even to find other sources of financing.
But I'm missing something... Perhaps the most important one... is what I learned right here... and I was right.
She lacks gratitude. She doesn't even realize I'm lending her money, and what I'm doing is a huge favor.
And she should be grateful, but instead she wants to convince me to lend her 16k.
She tells me every day, "Is it possible you don't have it? I'm sure you have more."
Rather than seeing the glass half full, she looks for the full one and spills it out.
So I learned to close my ears and sharpen my eyesight.
Don't follow what she says, but see what she does.
My sister isn't grateful. She doesn't deserve my respect nor attention.
Now, this is my sister, but it could happen with any woman in your life.
