"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

The gervais principle

jhonny9546

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 17, 2024
Messages
2,623
Reaction score
552
Location
Italy
Hi guys! This is gonna be a bit lenghty

If you've ever worked in the corporate world, you've experienced this: The Gervais Principle



In short, it is a theory of corporate organization that despite its humorous tone, it's applicable to real world scenarios.
According to the Gervais Principle, organizations naturally sort people into three groups, Losers, Clueless, and Sociopaths, and companies survive because of the interaction among these groups.



1) The Sociopaths (leaders) charateristics are that they operate with cold, utilitarian logic, they see the company spuriously as a tool for personal gain and they rise to executive positions by understanding and manipulating the system.
2) The Clueless (middle management) are given operational authority, and they sincerely and naïvely believe in the company's mission and culture, but they serve as a buffer between top leadership and workers to enforce orders without questioning the broader strategy.
3) The Losers (the actual workers) are not "losers" in the everyday sense, but they work out of financial necessity, not ideological commitment. They try to maximize the ratio of pay to effort to survive, or the "hourly pay rate," and those are the people who actually perform the work that keeps the company running.

So the System Works with Sociopaths gaining power by manipulating information and distributing rewards; the clueless maintain organizational stability and hierarchy while the Losers do the real work.

Now, do you want to know how this translates into human relationships?
Just observe. Observe and understand how these people, depending on their traits, will end up in life.

I'm speaking from a man's perspective:
Sociopaths are those who gain power by manipulating people, and they often end up in unstable relationships because their qualities naturally lead them to create insecurity, and therefore not the perfect breeding ground for a long-term relationship. But they are very attractive, and will be seen as such by (insecure) women.

Now, I could say that losers and clueless people are very similar because they both believe in the "blue pill" of corporate life. They're manipulated from above, but to them, everything seems "real."
In fact, they put their true commitment, respect, and heart into their work. You can see this among small artisans, employees, etc.
One thing that distinguishes them from sociopaths is that they have no malice or malevolence, which is why they're what we might call those who lose themselves in oneitis.

Now we need to make some distinctions: there's another category that the theory doesn't take into account. Namely, those who have awakened: they know their strengths and are aware of the system and the manipulations at work. Those who are aware of the red pill. These people can choose. They're the best category. They can decide their role, but they usually won't continue to be clueless or losers for others unless the company is their own, and then they'll give it their all, be confident leaders, and help shape themselves into mature individuals.

I have many examples of this type, including some restaurant managers in my town (they all started as workers and worked their way up to managers).

This discussion can help you understand how we've reached a point in life where we have to decide whether to continue creating a lot of unproductive (insecure) land or invest in a few productive (safe) land, simply by adjusting our attitude to life.

Tomorrow I could open my own company in my specific field of expertise and start being a sociopath, becoming successful, without doing anything (professionally speaking).

I would like to understand how many of you were able to see these similarities between sociopathic people and how they managed their lives, as men of high status, but perpetually insecure and immature, while those who had a much lower status than them were instead excellent examples of life.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Travel memoir21

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2020
Messages
2,026
Reaction score
1,153
Age
40
Location
Rio Grande Valley, Texas
It's very bad to be worker bee, I prefer to be leader bee.
I'm a retired Disabled Air Force Veteran living comfortably with a pension and Social Security. I don't need to work again, but I wouldn't mind doing a part time job, heck I wouldn't mind be a custodian or a janitor, beats being in the house all day. It really depends on one's situations and where they are in life.
 

BaronOfHair

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2024
Messages
5,560
Reaction score
3,039
Age
37
"The Sociopaths (leaders) charateristics are that they operate with cold, utilitarian logic, they see the company spuriously as a tool for personal gain and they rise to executive positions by understanding and manipulating the system"

We're now hurling the word "sociopath" at everyone who engages in some behavior we personally find disagreeable in some way. There's a big difference between laying off workers to keep the biz from going under

VS

Someone who coerces his employee into crawl across the boardroom floor, bare-kneed and on broken glass, then eat raw pig intestines out of a dog bowl
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

plumber

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2022
Messages
1,023
Reaction score
876
Hi guys! This is gonna be a bit lenghty

If you've ever worked in the corporate world, you've experienced this: The Gervais Principle



In short, it is a theory of corporate organization that despite its humorous tone, it's applicable to real world scenarios.
According to the Gervais Principle, organizations naturally sort people into three groups, Losers, Clueless, and Sociopaths, and companies survive because of the interaction among these groups.



1) The Sociopaths (leaders) charateristics are that they operate with cold, utilitarian logic, they see the company spuriously as a tool for personal gain and they rise to executive positions by understanding and manipulating the system.
2) The Clueless (middle management) are given operational authority, and they sincerely and naïvely believe in the company's mission and culture, but they serve as a buffer between top leadership and workers to enforce orders without questioning the broader strategy.
3) The Losers (the actual workers) are not "losers" in the everyday sense, but they work out of financial necessity, not ideological commitment. They try to maximize the ratio of pay to effort to survive, or the "hourly pay rate," and those are the people who actually perform the work that keeps the company running.

So the System Works with Sociopaths gaining power by manipulating information and distributing rewards; the clueless maintain organizational stability and hierarchy while the Losers do the real work.

Now, do you want to know how this translates into human relationships?
Just observe. Observe and understand how these people, depending on their traits, will end up in life.

I'm speaking from a man's perspective:
Sociopaths are those who gain power by manipulating people, and they often end up in unstable relationships because their qualities naturally lead them to create insecurity, and therefore not the perfect breeding ground for a long-term relationship. But they are very attractive, and will be seen as such by (insecure) women.

Now, I could say that losers and clueless people are very similar because they both believe in the "blue pill" of corporate life. They're manipulated from above, but to them, everything seems "real."
In fact, they put their true commitment, respect, and heart into their work. You can see this among small artisans, employees, etc.
One thing that distinguishes them from sociopaths is that they have no malice or malevolence, which is why they're what we might call those who lose themselves in oneitis.

Now we need to make some distinctions: there's another category that the theory doesn't take into account. Namely, those who have awakened: they know their strengths and are aware of the system and the manipulations at work. Those who are aware of the red pill. These people can choose. They're the best category. They can decide their role, but they usually won't continue to be clueless or losers for others unless the company is their own, and then they'll give it their all, be confident leaders, and help shape themselves into mature individuals.

I have many examples of this type, including some restaurant managers in my town (they all started as workers and worked their way up to managers).

This discussion can help you understand how we've reached a point in life where we have to decide whether to continue creating a lot of unproductive (insecure) land or invest in a few productive (safe) land, simply by adjusting our attitude to life.

Tomorrow I could open my own company in my specific field of expertise and start being a sociopath, becoming successful, without doing anything (professionally speaking).

I would like to understand how many of you were able to see these similarities between sociopathic people and how they managed their lives, as men of high status, but perpetually insecure and immature, while those who had a much lower status than them were instead excellent examples of life.
at the top of the food chain, is structured governance. always trumps emotional abuse. in business and relationships.
 

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,738
Reaction score
5,156
Make sure to take daily walks, go to the gym and connect with people- having a coffee buddy or pub buddies does wonders for morale and zeal.
I get my exercise, and have pub acquaintances - but I that's only so many hours in a week. :rolleyes:
 

Travel memoir21

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2020
Messages
2,026
Reaction score
1,153
Age
40
Location
Rio Grande Valley, Texas
I get my exercise, and have pub acquaintances - but I that's only so many hours in a week. :rolleyes:

You’ve got to relax, be at peace with yourself and have a calm spirit mix with eagerness to get what you want out of life. Find things in your day that brings you peace and having pub buddies to vent your frustrations or just have fun can be a stress reliever. As far as time is concerned that’s where enjoying solitary hobbies like reading, taking walks, doing art, gardening or catching a midnight work out at the gym comes in. Be creative, specialize in having fun, you’ll get there.
 
Top