What should be my next move?

[Charmy]

There's a girl who I was friends with and something bad happened in between us. I realised she started to pull away; she blocked my no., didn't reply on WhatsApp and unfollowed on insta.
After many months of me trying to get her back she said OK one day suddenly, but after that things were not like before i.e.,she didn't reply like before.

So, I asked her are things really good in between us? She said yes but I didn't feel like it. So, I told her that if things are really good in between us and if u trust me then wear the earrings which I'll give it to you on your birthday. She didn't wear it.

At that moment I realised again that she is going away from me, so I told her the way I felt about her, " I have feelings for you". I told her that only if she agreed to meet and talk ,but she backed away on that day and didn't come.
She said she had some important work to do, but later I got to know from her best friend that they went for a coffee( told by the best friend himself to me when I asked him.)
This is the same best friend who she sent screenshots of our msges to him ( this also the best friend told me.)
The name of best friend is Alex.

Earlier when that girl and I used to talk I asked her "Are u in a relationship with Alex?"
Her reply" Whattttt????
Never in my dreams
"

(Quick history - Alex had proposed to her and she said no.)
But the question is how come even after that Alex becomes her best friend and she doesn't even want to talk to me??

Continuing: After I told her that I have feelings for her, "I love you" I thought things might soften up, but it didn't.
She said she didn't want to talk to me and said " From now on we are strangers. From now on just pretend that you don't know me".

All this while I had been talking to her another good friend Adam.Adam drinks and smokes.

( Note: The name of the girl I'm talking abt is "Sabrina".
Adam also had a crush on her ,but later he started liking another girl Khushi.)

Adam and I were talking abt my situation and he had been supporting abt it. He helped me and talked to me.

One day I told Sabrina that u r talking to everyone including ppl who drink and smoke. She told this to Adam. He thought I was talking about him.
So, when I went to talk to him like we used to we broke into a fight and Adam told Sabrina that I am bothering him.
After that Sabrina texts me " Why are you so clingy and pathetic"
Alex was with her that day and he also send me a voicemail and msges through Sabrina's phone.

Sabrina msged me "you are not at all in a position to guilt trip me or my friends, from now don't bother me or my friends, especially Adam".

She blocked me on WhatsApp afterwards.

After I told Sabrina that I love her I said "Sabrina can we meet and talk bcz this is not a joke for me. I don't know whether u want to talk to me afterwards or not and I'll respect your decision. But if this is the last time we are going to talk then can we at least meet and talk?"

When I told her this she said yes, but after the exams. I agreed. But after the exams she said she doesn't want to meet bcz "nothing is left from both sides to say".
I said atleast think abt it and let this time pass and don't make the decision hastily. She said "I don't want to associate with you in anyway anymore" and went with Alex for coffee.

After some time we got on the same train coincidentally.
Earlier in the train we used to exchange seats with other passengers so that we could sit together, but this time when I asked she told the passenger beside her not to move.
After we got off the train she wore her airpods even though she knew I was talking to her. She was ignoring me.
Even while going home she told the auto driver not to take any other passenger(me).

After I got home I called her from my friend's phone bcz she had blocked me and asked "Sabrina why are you behaving this way?"
She said "I'm going to continue behaving this way"
I replied "If this is how your behaviour is going to be and u can't understand and respect the emotion that I feel for u, then even I don't want you anymore".

After that 1year has passed and we haven't talked.

What should I do brother??

If she comes back to me do I :

a) completely ignore her without saying anything or
b) tell her "go and **** Alex or better, do a threesome with Alex and Adam, I bet that's your biggest fantasy"( just so she knows how much she hurt me and that I don't care whatever she does now).



What should I do now?

 

[coldapproach]

I suggest you chose option A brother

 

[Doctor Europeo]

After I told her that I have feelings for her, "I love you" I thought things might soften up, but it didn't.
She said she didn't want to talk to me and said " From now on we are strangers. From now on just pretend that you don't know me".

After that Sabrina texts me " Why are you so clingy and pathetic"

Sabrina msged me "you are not at all in a position to guilt trip me or my friends, from now don't bother me or my friends, especially Adam".

She blocked me on WhatsApp afterwards.


After I got home I called her from my friend's phone bcz she had blocked me and asked "Sabrina why are you behaving this way?"
She said "I'm going to continue behaving this way"
I replied "If this is how your behaviour is going to be and u can't understand and respect the emotion that I feel for u, then even I don't want you anymore".

After that 1year has passed and we haven't talked.

What should I do brother??

If she comes back to me do I :

a) completely ignore her without saying anything or
b) tell her "go and **** Alex or better, do a threesome with Alex and Adam, I bet that's your biggest fantasy"( just so she knows how much she hurt me and that I don't care whatever she does now).



What should I do now?

Geez. I dont even know where to begin. But you came to the right place. Welcome to SoSuave young Padowan.

Bottom line is you shoot youself in the foot with this girl, a long time ago. You c0ckblocked yourself. But its all right, we all started somewhere.

Go read Rollo Tomasi´s The Rational male. One of his iron rules is something along the lines that its always time best spent developing new prespect relationships than trying to repair one that doesnt work. So as for this girl, obviously stop reaching out to her, DO NOT spend any more time or effort on her.

Spin more plates.



Aight, I went and looked it up for you. Here it is:

#7 Develop new relationships: don’t fix broken ones
Your time and effort are better spent looking for new ones than fixing the unfixable ones.



There´s a lot stuff you can read for free right here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/recommended-books-for-all-men-new-members-start-here.269601/

Go read it and come back to this thread with any questions you may have.

 

[Bokanovsky]

There's a girl who I was friends with and something bad happened in between us. I realised she started to pull away; she blocked my no., didn't reply on WhatsApp and unfollowed on insta.
After many months of me trying to get her back she said OK one day suddenly, but after that things were not like before i.e.,she didn't reply like before.

So, I asked her are things really good in between us? She said yes but I didn't feel like it. So, I told her that if things are really good in between us and if u trust me then wear the earrings which I'll give it to you on your birthday. She didn't wear it.

At that moment I realised again that she is going away from me, so I told her the way I felt about her, " I have feelings for you". I told her that only if she agreed to meet and talk ,but she backed away on that day and didn't come.
She said she had some important work to do, but later I got to know from her best friend that they went for a coffee( told by the best friend himself to me when I asked him.)
This is the same best friend who she sent screenshots of our msges to him ( this also the best friend told me.)
The name of best friend is Alex.

Earlier when that girl and I used to talk I asked her "Are u in a relationship with Alex?"
Her reply" Whattttt????
Never in my dreams
"

(Quick history - Alex had proposed to her and she said no.)
But the question is how come even after that Alex becomes her best friend and she doesn't even want to talk to me??

Continuing: After I told her that I have feelings for her, "I love you" I thought things might soften up, but it didn't.
She said she didn't want to talk to me and said " From now on we are strangers. From now on just pretend that you don't know me".

All this while I had been talking to her another good friend Adam.Adam drinks and smokes.

( Note: The name of the girl I'm talking abt is "Sabrina".
Adam also had a crush on her ,but later he started liking another girl Khushi.)

Adam and I were talking abt my situation and he had been supporting abt it. He helped me and talked to me.

One day I told Sabrina that u r talking to everyone including ppl who drink and smoke. She told this to Adam. He thought I was talking about him.
So, when I went to talk to him like we used to we broke into a fight and Adam told Sabrina that I am bothering him.
After that Sabrina texts me " Why are you so clingy and pathetic"
Alex was with her that day and he also send me a voicemail and msges through Sabrina's phone.

Sabrina msged me "you are not at all in a position to guilt trip me or my friends, from now don't bother me or my friends, especially Adam".

She blocked me on WhatsApp afterwards.

After I told Sabrina that I love her I said "Sabrina can we meet and talk bcz this is not a joke for me. I don't know whether u want to talk to me afterwards or not and I'll respect your decision. But if this is the last time we are going to talk then can we at least meet and talk?"

When I told her this she said yes, but after the exams. I agreed. But after the exams she said she doesn't want to meet bcz "nothing is left from both sides to say".
I said atleast think abt it and let this time pass and don't make the decision hastily. She said "I don't want to associate with you in anyway anymore" and went with Alex for coffee.

After some time we got on the same train coincidentally.
Earlier in the train we used to exchange seats with other passengers so that we could sit together, but this time when I asked she told the passenger beside her not to move.
After we got off the train she wore her airpods even though she knew I was talking to her. She was ignoring me.
Even while going home she told the auto driver not to take any other passenger(me).

After I got home I called her from my friend's phone bcz she had blocked me and asked "Sabrina why are you behaving this way?"
She said "I'm going to continue behaving this way"
I replied "If this is how your behaviour is going to be and u can't understand and respect the emotion that I feel for u, then even I don't want you anymore".

After that 1year has passed and we haven't talked.

What should I do brother??

If she comes back to me do I :

a) completely ignore her without saying anything or
b) tell her "go and **** Alex or better, do a threesome with Alex and Adam, I bet that's your biggest fantasy"( just so she knows how much she hurt me and that I don't care whatever she does now).



What should I do now?

What the fvck did I just read?

Before asking for advice, you should spend some time reading and digesting other threads to understand what SoSuave is all about. This forum heavily discourages the kind of simpish, extreme blue pill behaviour that is on display in your post. Literally everything you've done was a mistake. You have basically become a stalker obsessed with a girl who wants nothing to do with you. Stop trying to concat her before you get charged with harassment.

 

[BPH]

There's a girl who I was friends with and something bad happened in between us. I realised she started to pull away; she blocked my no., didn't reply on WhatsApp and unfollowed on insta.
After many months of me trying to get her back she said OK one day suddenly, but after that things were not like before i.e.,she didn't reply like before.

I read the whole thing, but really, I didn't have to read past this part above.

First, I'll answer your question:

Forget she exists. You have damaged this relationship beyond repair; you've told this girl you loved her, made her feel guilty for the company she keeps, she's called you "clingy and pathetic", and you're considering telling her to go bang these other guys because "you don't care".

Here's what you're gonna do (if you actually want to improve):

1. Completely forget about this girl. Never talk to her again
2. Start going to the gym
3. Read some of the material on this forum (Book of Pook, my journal, Lay/Field Reports, The Art of Seduction, etc)
4. Talk to other women
5. Come back to this forum to ask questions BEFORE you go and ever do some dumb sh** like what you did above

 

[Charmy]

I read the whole thing, but really, I didn't have to read past this part above.

First, I'll answer your question:

Forget she exists. You have damaged this relationship beyond repair; you've told this girl you loved her, made her feel guilty for the company she keeps, she's called you "clingy and pathetic", and you're considering telling her to go bang these other guys because "you don't care".

Here's what you're gonna do (if you actually want to improve):

1. Completely forget about this girl. Never talk to her again
2. Start going to the gym
3. Read some of the material on this forum (Book of Pook, my journal, Lay/Field Reports, The Art of Seduction, etc)
4. Talk to other women
5. Come back to this forum to ask questions BEFORE you go and ever do some dumb sh** like what you did above

Thank you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is you trying desperately to fix things instead of just accepting it and walking away.

Women are like cats. When you chase a cat it runs under the bed and hides in the back corner and if you continue trying to get it out from there it hisses at you and eventually swipes at you with its claws.

If you leave it alone, it will naturally get curious and come out on its own to see what you are doing, and then that's when you do that.

 

[Charmy]

I read the whole thing, but really, I didn't have to read past this part above.

First, I'll answer your question:

Forget she exists. You have damaged this relationship beyond repair; you've told this girl you loved her, made her feel guilty for the company she keeps, she's called you "clingy and pathetic", and you're considering telling her to go bang these other guys because "you don't care".

Here's what you're gonna do (if you actually want to improve):

1. Completely forget about this girl. Never talk to her again
2. Start going to the gym
3. Read some of the material on this forum (Book of Pook, my journal, Lay/Field Reports, The Art of Seduction, etc)
4. Talk to other women
5. Come back to this forum to ask questions BEFORE you go and ever do some dumb sh** like what you did above

I know how that looks.
It's just that things weren't like that before.
Sabrina and I used to flirt, we also went for a coffee once. Also, she was the one who first sent me IG request without even me asking her, whereas other guys were asking for her id nonstop.
It's just that how can she forget all of that and be like this?

But I get it. I'll cut my contact with Sabrina forever.
I'll start by reading The Book of Pook.

 

[coldapproach]

It's just that how can she forget all of that and be like this?

You need to notice how she has very big abundance. You will need to have big abundance as well to forget about her and find new slouts (there are MUCH better ones than her).

 

[The Duke]

I recommend you book a trip to Mexico, get drunk off cheap Tequila, and bang 3 hookers in one night. 5 was my record! ;-)

 

[coldapproach]

I recommend you book a trip to Mexico

Aren't using houkers inherently blue-pilled?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Aren't using houkers inherently blue-pilled?

Did you read what OP wrote?

 

[coldapproach]

Did you read what OP wrote?

I've did and it was a horrible read... basically begging for her to get back.. But some mild stalking? I'm sure that's redpilled.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've did and it was a horrible read... basically begging for her to get back.. But some mild stalking? I'm sure that's redpilled.

How is blowing off some steam and fvcking hookers considered stalking?

 

[Charmy]

I've did and it was a horrible read... basically begging for her to get back.. But some mild stalking? I'm sure that's redpilled.

What's redpilled here?

 

[coldapproach]

How is blowing off some steam and fvcking hookers considered stalking?

My crash is a houker for chads...

What's redpilled here?

I'm not even sure if I know the meaning of that...

 

[Charmy]

My crash is a houker for chads...


I'm not even sure if I know the meaning of that...

U said in your msg " But some mild stalking? I'm sure that's redpilled" what did you mean by that?
What was the meaning of that msg?

 

[coldapproach]

U said in your msg " But some mild stalking? I'm sure that's redpilled" what did you mean by that?
What was the meaning of that msg?

I stalked my crash , i thought he referred to that

 

[Clockwerk50]

1. The more obviously you pursue someone, the more likely you are to push them away. Attraction can’t grow when one person is chasing and the other is retreating.
2. No one feels completely whole. We all sense a gap in ourselves and sometimes fall for people who seem to fill it. But that kind of attachment is random, unconscious, and fragile because it depends on them giving you something you feel you lack.
3. Never rush to give someone your deepest feelings before they show consistent interest. Women naturally want to earn a man’s affection over time. When a man gives his emotional world away immediately, it removes the challenge and usually kills attraction. Let her move toward you first. Men that give up their relationship status easily is in the same vein as women who give sex freely to anyone else.
4. She only came back because she hoped you would calm down and stop pressuring her, not because she wanted a relationship. Your behaviour was clingy, needy, and driven by scarcity. That’s not appealing, and it doesn’t add value to anyone’s life.

Go strict no contact. If she reaches out I'd feel embarrased to even respond. Build yourself up and read the basics. You need to understand how the dating game is, how women's evolutionary behaviour is, and what you can do to be more attractive. It will be about 6 months before your oneitis/infatuation fades.

 

[Charmy]

1. The more obviously you pursue someone, the more likely you are to push them away. Attraction can’t grow when one person is chasing and the other is retreating.
2. No one feels completely whole. We all sense a gap in ourselves and sometimes fall for people who seem to fill it. But that kind of attachment is random, unconscious, and fragile because it depends on them giving you something you feel you lack.
3. Never rush to give someone your deepest feelings before they show consistent interest. Women naturally want to earn a man’s affection over time. When a man gives his emotional world away immediately, it removes the challenge and usually kills attraction. Let her move toward you first. Men that give up their relationship status easily is in the same vein as women who give sex freely to anyone else.
4. She only came back because she hoped you would calm down and stop pressuring her, not because she wanted a relationship. Your behaviour was clingy, needy, and driven by scarcity. That’s not appealing, and it doesn’t add value to anyone’s life.

Go strict no contact. If she reaches out I'd feel embarrased to even respond. Build yourself up and read the basics. You need to understand how the dating game is, how women's evolutionary behaviour is, and what you can do to be more attractive. It will be about 6 months before your oneitis/infatuation fades.

Yes.
I've started to read. Starting by The Book of Pook first. The list goes on like this,
2. The art of worldly wisdom by Baltasar Gracian
3. Models by Mark Manson
4. The Seduction Bible by Masculinity Rediscovered
5. Illimitable Men
6. The story of my life by casanova
7. The Game by Neil Strauss
8. Mystery method by Mystery
9. Revelation by Mystery
10. The art of seduction by Robert Greene
11. Men are from Mars women are from Venus
5.