"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being yourself but sometimes crossing that thin line that can affect your love ones?

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Holy crap, it is currently 2:12 AM here in South East Asia and you'll never believe what just happened right now. This smartphone used to belong to my sisters and a lot of her old contact number is still visible on here and being the silly goose that I am, I've pranked called a lot of people there with my cowboy and russian accents just for fun lol. This time I saw an old name - ' Ceci', who I thought used to be my sister's friend and I felt like texting her, so I did and texted, ' Who the fvck are you'? And what do you know man....it was the wrong freakin Ceci, it was Ceci, the Court County coordinator for our district, that my brother used to worked with. He used to be an assistant district attorney, now working defense. My Sister is a lawyer and my family ganged up on me with my parents in my room and both my siblings on video call. Needless to say man, I am officially the black sheep of the family with a target out for me. My mom used this to get all up on my grill on the type of posts I post on Social media, that I should stop talking about politics, religion, spirituality etc I swear my family is trying to censor and control me man. This might be an issue down the line especially with the type of woman I plan on hitching and marrying.

I plan on marrying a very spiritual and godly woman and this might cause some friction with my family. This makes me ponder if the type of goals I pursue in the future might have some negative impact with the people I love and how it will also hurt them. That's why I want to have spiritual and noble goals that can bring positive change to our communities and to those around me but some may go against the mainstream agenda, like for example I want to help Men everywhere by uplifting them socially, physically and spiritually. That may go against the elitist agenda of demasculinizing Men everywhere and If I make it big, they might try to censor me or black mail or some stuff like that. Crazy stuff man. For now makes you think how your actions affects the ones you love and how it's important, if its a trivial matter to make some compromise. I changed my profile pic in my social media to cater to my brother and sister's professional reputation as I'm friends with some of their co workers and I don't want them thinking I'm some beanie wearing hipster with no job. Lol well, that maybe true as I'm Retired Air Force Veteran living off my pension and simply living and taking care of my parents at the moment. I can live a simple life abroad and never need to work again. But I'd like to grow a brand cater to Men and their spiritual and emotional needs someday and tomorrow is a great time to start lol. Here's my current social media pic, of my semi casual brown blazer attire.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For those who didn’t bother to read, OP was prank texting people at 2 AM when he accidentally messaged the wrong Ceci, which is a court coordinator tied to his brother. Family found out, roasted him, and lectured him about his posts on politics, religion, and spirituality. Now OP’s reflecting on family pressure, censorship, and his goal to build a brand uplifting men.
 

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That's why I want to have spiritual and noble goals that can bring positive change to our communities and to those around me but some may go against the mainstream agenda, like for example I want to help Men everywhere by uplifting them socially, physically and spiritually. That may go against the elitist agenda of demasculinizing Men everywhere and If I make it big, they might try to censor me or black mail or some stuff like that
You'll encounter resistance: That's more inevitable than zooinotic plagues wiping out a large percentage of humanity every now and then. If your heart is pure though, that'll inevitably shows through all attempts to slander you

Real-life example: Asa Baber here

When he died prematurely in '03 https://www.chicagotribune.com/2003/06/20/asa-baber-66/ Not even his staunchest opponents had grounds to write a piece THIS uncomplimentary on his expiration http://www.cathyyoung.net/bgcolumns/2005/dworkin.html Why? Baber really was a deeply honorable man, who's dedication to leaving our planet saner than he found it was unassailable
 

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Man you have to find something to do in life. If you had something these type on inconsequential issues that you have decided to turn into Mount Everest would appear like mole hills in comparison because you would actually have real life problems and not these very minor problems to dwell on because you have nothing going on.

Not meant to be harsh but c'mon man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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