"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Repressed emotions

jhonny9546

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Being a man = Repressing and controlling your emotions.

Many scientific studies tell us how repressing and controlling our emotions is harmful to our health.
Maybe this is why women live longer than men.

Jokes aside, the older and more mature we become, the more assertive and responsible we become, the more a man's job is to act as a filter for impurities and to have an internal system for controlling and repressing emotions.
Men suffer: to appear strong, it's their job to "not be understood" by others.
They hide things, rather than say, "Guys, I'm suffering, and I need a break, or your help for a while."
Instead, they just keep going.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Duke

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Eventually you figure out nobody cares what you think anyways. I don't know any men that died early because they repressed their emotions. But I do know plenty of older women that expressed their emotions too many times and are single and lonely because of it.
 

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First of all, women do not repress their emotions, I don't know where you read that, but you need to get away from your computer and go walk around for an hour outside.

Repressing your emotions as a man is about the single best thing you could do. I so wish, for so many reasons, I had a better handle on that trigger. I can't even remotely describe the level of angst and issues it would have avoided to be stoic.
 

BaronOfHair

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Being a man = Repressing and controlling your emotions.
Control/mastering, NOT repression. It's the difference between

-Flipping the table over when the steak has a bit too much salt on it, like an overgrown toddler

Vs

Calling the waiter over, calmly yet firmly explaining that the order is unsatisfactory
 

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First of all, women do not repress their emotions, I don't know where you read that, but you need to get away from your computer and go walk around for an hour outside.

Repressing your emotions as a man is about the single best thing you could do. I so wish, for so many reasons, I had a better handle on that trigger. I can't even remotely describe the level of angst and issues it would have avoided to be stoic.
its maybe impossible. the emotional hook gets in ahead of your logic. your logic tells to be stoic, and yes that's solid. issue is that the emotional hook catches upstream from that logic. and you react before thinking. its not that you don't know better, its that the emotional hook gets processed first. then later self criticism for not catching it.

have to adjust the where the hook lands. its chemical..... if we get in tune the hook will not catch. then the flow goes to your logic and you can decide what you want to do if anything.

acting verses reacting.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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