Bury the old you to build the new you.

[ValiantMale]

Alot of people are scared to let go.. let go of friends, of jobs, of girls, of situations... They attach themselves so deeply to the past and to this part of them who represents alot of stuff they don't like. The insecure part of them that is just not getting anywhere and just keeps falling back into the same circles, same patterns..

That is weak. Let go of that person. Bury that person. Move on from the past.. Don't be afraid to cut everyone off and start new.. What are you going to lose? People who aren't really your friends, girls who aren't good for you, jobs that you don't feel happy at, staying in situations that are not ideal for you-- are not going to help you become who you want to be.

Stop going back, stop looking back.. Move forward.

I had to really bury the old me.. I used to always look back and try to dig up the good parts while constantly battling the bad parts of who I was, the experiences I had, the person I thought I was.. but it was all waste. I had to really stop looking back. I had to really hate the person I was to let myself go and start building the new me.. We associate so much with the person we become-- its all ego.. The reality is we're no one but our given name and our identity fostered by experiences.. If the experiences haven't suited us, stop focusing on them.

Until you bury the old you, you'll never discover the new you.

 

[zekko]

Sounds good. As long as you don't throw out the baby with the bathwater.

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with the post. However I think that in the journey of self improvement, one should remember where they started and how far they've came.

 

[ValiantMale]

Sounds good. As long as you don't throw out the baby with the bathwater.

I agree with the post. However I think that in the journey of self improvement, one should remember where they started and how far they've came.

I agree with both of you. Great points. Ultimately what you'll take with you is experience, the skills you gathered, the body and mind that makes you capable, etc. I kept a few friends that were actually people who showed me love. The rest are remnants of my past...like idle ghosts.

It's definitely good to reflect after a while for sure, it keeps you humble, keeps you grounded.

 

[jhonny9546]

It sounds very easy for any woman out there.
It's hard to do if you're a man. It's not natural.
But you should learn to do it.

 

[Glassguy]

It sounds very easy for any woman out there.
It's hard to do if you're a man. It's not natural.
But you should learn to do it.

What exactly do you think is not natural?

 

[jhonny9546]

What exactly do you think is not natural?

For a man, it's harder to let go.
We get genuinely in love with things, people, places.

 

[Glassguy]

For a man, it's harder to let go.
We get genuinely in love with things, people, places.

Its not as hard to let go if you have other high value options. If women enter your orbit easily, its actually rather easy to move on.

 

[tksniper]

The great author Napoleon Hill once said "Success and abundance has to be wooed but wretchedness is easy to come by."

A man has to climb mountains to find success and abundance. But all he has to do is spend a weekend bingeing on Netflix and posting rants on Reddit and scrolling through social media in order for him to invite wretchedness into his life.

Self improvement is simple but it is very difficult to achieve because it takes sacrifice and discipline.

For me the sacrifice was bar hopping and drinking in public. I was the guy who would wake up the next day realizing I had spent $500 on drinks and texted all my ex gf's and made a fool out of myself.

Burying the old you is one half of the equation, but building the new you is the other half. And it will be the hardest thing you’ll ever do in life.

You have to come up with new principles, values, and habits that you want to embody. And you have to have the discipline to execute everyday.

The old you is like Earth’s gravitational pull. It takes tremendous energy to leave Earth’s atmosphere.

By the sheer physics of it alone, 90% of your energy will be spent killing the old you, while only 10% is needed to create the new you.

This is why most of us fall back to the old us.

 

[jhonny9546]

Its not as hard to let go if you have other high value options. If women enter your orbit easily, its actually rather easy to move on

I understand the perspective.
It's a bit like changing your car every three years, or your phone every year.