"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I don't think you did anything wrong brother. Some girls are just weird and needy.. For me, I tend to not focu son the problem or arguements they start and just direct their attention to whats good/try and flatter them nd make them feel secure.. It's tough though I had to cut off a girl I just started talking to again recently because of this.. She would always whine about everything and it was very hard to create any stability.

If you notice she keeps starting sht and seems like she got deep issues/baggage.. just move on brother.. theres so many fish in the sea why waste time on a headache?
This year dating wise has been weird, odd thing I found women who wanted to trauma dump on first dates. What usualyl happens is 99% of the time it kills any romantic vibes and nothing ever happens, afterwards you feel used because basically a date is supposed to be fun and light vibes but you end up listening to someone's stuff that you're not that emotionally invested in just to find that, that person doesn't really care about you like that and basically used you as human tissue.

I cut women like this off now with the quickness or I'm very direct and tell them we can bang no dates, you win some you lose more but no one has time for that ****
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This year dating wise has been weird, odd thing I found women who wanted to trauma dump on first dates. What usualyl happens is 99% of the time it kills any romantic vibes and nothing ever happens, afterwards you feel used because basically a date is supposed to be fun and light vibes but you end up listening to someone's stuff that you're not that emotionally invested in just to find that, that person doesn't really care about you like that and basically used you as human tissue.

I cut women like this off now with the quickness or I'm very direct and tell them we can bang no dates, you win some you lose more but no one has time for that ****
Yeah that can suck to experience dates like that but ultimately we gotta get better at weeding weirdos out.. It can be hard in a dating market, especially because some guys are not getting that many dates to begin with so they'll take what they can get.

I'm glad you cut em off right away-- thats the best way to go. Sometimes even gotta make an excuse to leave before anything happens lol.
 

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Yeah that can suck to experience dates like that but ultimately we gotta get better at weeding weirdos out.. It can be hard in a dating market, especially because some guys are not getting that many dates to begin with so they'll take what they can get.

I'm glad you cut em off right away-- thats the best way to go. Sometimes even gotta make an excuse to leave before anything happens lol.
Yup the craziest one this year was the girl who was telling me loudly in a restaurant that her ex-husband likes to get pegged, I even made a thread about it
 

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Hey @Foe
Anyway curious what happened.
She came around after all this nonsense and we hung out and banged all night. Feels like some sort of **** test along with a demand that she gets railed before I leave in the morning. Sex is her self proclaimed love language and honestly as far as that tripe is concerned Ive heard much worse.

So yeah I think I need to see a Dr about getting on test or something because going more then once a day for me these days is not really a thing. Im a once a day man, far too busy for the followup jingle.

Mates on test and hes hitting his missus up 4 times a day and thats a average, sometimes he tells me 6. I cant even imagine.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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