Spinning 3 plates is overwhelming

[Chow Mein]

Not only this^ but I would imagine you're also texting each one in between the 'once every three weeks' weekend dates?

Sounds exhausting! Mentally. Emotionally?

I am not sure you want to listen to me as I'm female and have always been a 'one at a time' girl whether it lasts a week, month, year whatever. And date men who are same.

Quality over quantity.

But anyway...

Are there one (or two) that stand out?

Crazy notion lol but do you feel more 'connected' to one or two?

I think with three you're right, you risk overload, screwing up, burning out and losing all three.

No idea where OP is at, valuable feedback from this forum. Maybe he just wanted to toot his own horn with the second post on this thread, without any actual interest in getting responses.

Sega,

You and I would both agree that women prioritize commitment. You and I both know that women will bend the rules if they perceive the man is ‘hard to catch’

 

[Solomon]

OP is dealing with 3 prime women in their 20s the sex has to be exhausting
Girl B sounds like the best option to me still

 

[SW15]

@LucianoM has 3 good plates in place. He should try to keep all 3 for as long as he's able to keep them. 1 or 2 of them will break soon enough as they'll start to push more for commitment and exclusivity.

2 plates are a little easier to maintain than 3 and provide for sexual variety. Men like sexual variety if they can get it.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I've always been suspicious of guys who claim to be spinning 3 or more "plates". I really think they are painting an incomplete picture.

I sometimes find even ONE woman to be exhausting. 2 is pushing it. 3 really is simply exhausting. I don't want to have sex with 3 women every week, even if its just FWBs, since it still requires some planning around schedules, maintenance, texting, etc.

The worst part is I start mixing up details of convos we had and repeat myself or mistakenly say things to them that other girls told me. I've heard of people having to use Excel spreadsheets to keep track of their rotations, what a massive pain in the ass that must be.

What's the point? What are we trying to prove? Why do we act like becoming a sex addict is noble goal?

Ask yourself these questions. It only reminded me that quality over quantity is always applicable, even with FWBs. It's far better to have 1 good main chick (ideally who you see long-term potential in) and 1 side chick who's a good fvck, with some occassional one-time lays peppered in once a month or so. Having sex with 3 different women regularly is just stupid.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Flexpert,
"What's the point? What are we trying to prove? Why do we act like becoming a sex addict is noble goal? "....People sit at different places on the Bell curve for any Appetite...I suppose I am quite extreme svexually,as it seems Luciano is...Addicts?No I don't think so,we are just driven by an inborn imperitive sense,are your Canada Geese travel-holics because they are motivated to move South when the Winter winds start blowing?

 

[HaleyBaron]

I've always been suspicious of guys who claim to be spinning 3 or more "plates". I really think they are painting an incomplete picture.

I sometimes find even ONE woman to be exhausting. 2 is pushing it. 3 really is simply exhausting. I don't want to have sex with 3 women every week, even if its just FWBs, since it still requires some planning around schedules, maintenance, texting, etc.

The worst part is I start mixing up details of convos we had and repeat myself or mistakenly say things to them that other girls told me. I've heard of people having to use Excel spreadsheets to keep track of their rotations, what a massive pain in the ass that must be.

What's the point? What are we trying to prove? Why do we act like becoming a sex addict is noble goal?

Ask yourself these questions. It only reminded me that quality over quantity is always applicable, even with FWBs. It's far better to have 1 good main chick (ideally who you see long-term potential in) and 1 side chick who's a good fvck, with some occassional one-time lays peppered in once a month or so. Having sex with 3 different women regularly is just stupid.

The only hard part is trying to keep them separate from each other. There's guys that do upwards of 10 women with some of them knowing each other in their friend groups. I've seen it. Just depends on what level you are at and what your thirst is. The only obstacle is our morality and ego.

 

[Gamisch]

I've always been suspicious of guys who claim to be spinning 3 or more "plates". I really think they are painting an incomplete picture.

I sometimes find even ONE woman to be exhausting. 2 is pushing it. 3 really is simply exhausting. I don't want to have sex with 3 women every week, even if its just FWBs, since it still requires some planning around schedules, maintenance, texting, etc.

The worst part is I start mixing up details of convos we had and repeat myself or mistakenly say things to them that other girls told me. I've heard of people having to use Excel spreadsheets to keep track of their rotations, what a massive pain in the ass that must be.

What's the point? What are we trying to prove? Why do we act like becoming a sex addict is noble goal?

Ask yourself these questions. It only reminded me that quality over quantity is always applicable, even with FWBs. It's far better to have 1 good main chick (ideally who you see long-term potential in) and 1 side chick who's a good fvck, with some occassional one-time lays peppered in once a month or so. Having sex with 3 different women regularly is just stupid.

I think ot us hard to believe/not an everyday occurrence that a man spins 3 PLATES.

Having 3 girlfriends? That's another story. It's not that hard to find 3 separate women and be their bf, but eventually you'll be lying all day everyday..

Having 3 PLATES would ideally mean all 3 know they are actual plates and they also know you see other women. And that is extremely hard to pull off compared to the more exhausting BF route..it means you are literally the top of the top thus multiple women accept their role /place.

Having said all of that, I can't imagine dealing with THREE women. Women have their way to demand your attention, and if you don't give it.to them something else like significant status or money is needed to keep them coming back.

Still a great experience, if you ever fond a moment in life when you can do this ofcourse a man should do it..salute OP. You a trooper

 

[MatureDJ]

How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

This is an improper logicism - it presumes that the reader is able to spin those 3 plates, much less a single one.

 

[Barrister]

I’ve gone though a couple of phases where I’ve had 2 plates and then kept dating/smashing a random here and there on top of it. I agree it was fun but highly exhausting. This only ever works for a decent amount of time if the two (or more) plates aren’t near each other geographically or you’re in a major metropolitan area where it doesn’t matter. Even then, it’s a lot of work to keep it up. I found it was a lot of fun for about 6-8 months then I began gravitating towards an LTR with my main plate naturally (and she had given signals that she wanted more). Driving all over the place to maintain both of them was taking away from my time for other things like my business, family, etc.

At the end of the day all you have is time and it is very limited. I didn’t like how much I was investing in a plate that wasn’t going to matter in the not so distant future.

 

[Chow Mein]

I’ve gone though a couple of phases where I’ve had 2 plates and then kept dating/smashing a random here and there on top of it. I agree it was fun but highly exhausting. This only ever works for a decent amount of time if the two (or more) plates aren’t near each other geographically or you’re in a major metropolitan area where it doesn’t matter. Even then, it’s a lot of work to keep it up. I found it was a lot of fun for about 6-8 months then I began gravitating towards an LTR with my main plate naturally (and she had given signals that she wanted more). Driving all over the place to maintain both of them was taking away from my time for other things like my business, family, etc.

At the end of the day all you have is time and it is very limited. I didn’t like how much I was investing in a plate that wasn’t going to matter in the not so distant future.

Have you planted the seed that if they want to see you, they need to come over? Cuts out a lot of time, you can spend that to make sure the experience with you is better?

Biggest challenge is that women sniff and wonder, they see the breadcrumbs. It’s up to you how you approach it.

 

[Barrister]

Have you planted the seed that if they want to see you, they need to come over? Cuts out a lot of time, you can spend that to make sure the experience with you is better?

Biggest challenge is that women sniff and wonder, they see the breadcrumbs. It’s up to you how you approach it.

Well - I have but I am not really sure it is "better" that way. It is a balancing act, and if you are only willing to see her if it is over at your place my experience is that this typically means the "plate" is going to be even more short-lived before it breaks than if you taking a more diverse approach to how you hang out with them. Not many women are going to be content for a long period of time just coming to your apartment/house and smashing and nothing else.

I will agree with you from the standpoint that this IDGAF attitude does increase attraction initially and it makes things much easier - logistically speaking.

 

[SW15]

I’ve gone though a couple of phases where I’ve had 2 plates and then kept dating/smashing a random here and there on top of it. I agree it was fun but highly exhausting. This only ever works for a decent amount of time if the two (or more) plates aren’t near each other geographically or you’re in a major metropolitan area where it doesn’t matter.

I like your statement about major metropolitan area.

Since college graduation, I have lived in 2 metro areas that are among the 15 most populous USA metro areas.

In metropolitan areas with populations in the millions, it is much easier to keep plates separate from each other. In these large metropolitan areas, it is less common to randomly run into people you know.

 

[Hal9000]

At one time I had as many as 8 or 9 in my rotation but I typically just spent an hour or two with them. Just long enough for a sexual encounter and maybe a drink or some chit chat before or after. Some of them I saw weekly and some were more inconsistent, perhaps every other week or even monthly.

Every once and a while I'd go with one to a concert or spend the night together with one but that was fairly rare. These were mostly women that I had good sexual chemistry with but, for a variety of reasons, didn't see as relationship material. Sometimes theyd get a boyfriend and drop out for a while but when/if that ended they would come back.

I also dated non plates when I could find a good option because I never wanted the plates to prevent me from ultimately finding someone who could be more than a Fbuddy. It was an extreme abundance mentality and while I definitely enjoyed the variety of sexual scenarios it was also exhausting and I knew not a long term way I could live my life so when any of them needed to move on (usually because they wanted to date me but couldn't) I didn't really care either way.

This is a long winded way of saying you shouldn't plan your life around making plates happy because they're plates and not more for a reason so why limit the rest of your life for them?

 

[Slowhandluke]

At one time I had as many as 8 or 9 in my rotation but I typically just spent an hour or two with them. Just long enough for a sexual encounter and maybe a drink or some chit chat before or after. Some of them I saw weekly and some were more inconsistent, perhaps every other week or even monthly.

Is this an escort service? sounds like an escort service - spend enough time just for sex. Regularly meet for sex. barely any emotions.. etc...

This is a long winded way of saying you shouldn't plan your life around making plates happy because they're plates and not more for a reason so why limit the rest of your life for them?

Well, if the women were so loose and non demanding of your time (basically only a few steps from being a sex worker, except for the obviously fact of not getting paid - sex worker in training? . if they had those morals and attitude, why wouldn't men just treat them like sex workers? I mean, what, what you call - "plate".

For a normal guy who wants a roster of "normal"/mentally stable women; it's just not possible. Sooner than later, the women will want some sort of commitment.

 

[GoodMan32]

Even balancing 1 plate sounds like it could be stressful (as much as I'd like free sex, if I were to get a plate, she'd likely want sex at times that are inconvenient for me). I couldn't even imagine three plates.

 

[The Duke]

At one time I had as many as 8 or 9 in my rotation but I typically just spent an hour or two with them. Just long enough for a sexual encounter and maybe a drink or some chit chat before or after. Some of them I saw weekly and some were more inconsistent, perhaps every other week or even monthly.

I've never met a woman that would be ok with coming over for sex for an hour or two and then going home. You must be amazing!

 

[BPH]

I've never met a woman that would be ok with coming over for sex for an hour or two and then going home. You must be amazing!

Yeah, I second this...

Not saying it's impossible, but @Hal9000, the only time when a plate has been content with such a short visit was in college, where everything was within walking distance. Even now, I probably wouldn't make the drive for such a quick f*** unless she was really closeby and/or I was on a dry spell.

 

[characternote]

rookie numbers, Hal!
17 rotation here! Dr. plate spinner! Aka the spin doctor!

 

[Hal9000]

Is this an escort service? sounds like an escort service - spend enough time just for sex. Regularly meet for sex. barely any emotions.. etc...




Well, if the women were so loose and non demanding of your time (basically only a few steps from being a sex worker, except for the obviously fact of not getting paid - sex worker in training? . if they had those morals and attitude, why wouldn't men just treat them like sex workers? I mean, what, what you call - "plate".

For a normal guy who wants a roster of "normal"/mentally stable women; it's just not possible. Sooner than later, the women will want some sort of commitment.

I'd call them mutually agreed upon sexual fulfillment relationships and 90% of them were the women coming to my house, having their way with me and leaving when they were ready to go. I got pretty deep into the swinging world for a while as a single guy and some of them were married and just wanting some fun on the side and some were single gals who were wanting something uncomplicated. They'd tell their friends and set me up with other women they knew so it wasnt even something I had to work at as far as finding new women. Couple of the single gals eventually wanted to commit but I knew they were too crazy for anything other than casual sex. I know some of this apparently seems unbelievable but the swinging world has a bunch of very sexually open women in it so if you are wanting casual hookups its a solid option. Not so great if youre trying to find a "normal" girl however as many of these women aren't really settling down with material.

 

[Hal9000]

I've never met a woman that would be ok with coming over for sex for an hour or two and then going home. You must be amazing!

Thats what they seemed to think. Part of it was the sex, part of it was that they knew I wasnt gonna get all clingy and part of it was that they seemed to enjoy my company in general. As I replied in the other comment many of these women were in the lifestyle so casual sex wasnt some taboo thing to them. Trust me, before it got to that point I'd have never considered myself a ladies man at all but once it got going it kind of snowballed. I did it a couple of years but its exhausting keeping up with the meetings and texting thats required for these things so I eventually stepped away.