video: The Disappearing Middle: Why Average Men Are Becoming Invisible

[MatureDJ]

 

[BaronOfHair]

Such men are similar to Melissa McCarthy, after Gilmore Girls wrapped, and before Paul Feig dug her back up, fot what was ultimately a brief career resucitation... Not especially "visible" to begin with

We can bemoan the fact that "average" is undesirable, or we can start doing what's required to stand out

 

[SW15]

"In the attention economy, the average man is bankrupt" -Legion of Men

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’m skeptical of this. I did great on Tinder. But there is No Way I’m top 2%. Not even top 5%. I think this guy is way too pessimistic.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I think this guy is way too pessimistic.

The oldest game in town. Try something, fail, and then rationalize it as a problem with society are large. Then try to sell your idea to as many people as possible since misery loves company.

 

[corrector]

I’m skeptical of this. I did great on Tinder. But there is No Way I’m top 2%. Not even top 5%. I think this guy is way too pessimistic.

Why would you say you are not the top 2% or top 5%? If you did great on Tinder then it means you are in that top % .

 

[BillyPilgrim]

We can bemoan the fact that "average" is undesirable, or we can start doing what's required to stand out

The obvious thing to do is both. Calling out bullsh1t is our duty as men just as optimizing any given situation is.

@Binaryofhair

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Why would you say you are not the top 2% or top 5%? If you did great on Tinder then it means you are in that top % .

Probably the 80-20 rule applies. So MAYBE I squeak into the top 20. MAYBE. But I’d imagine the top 2-5% are snapped up by Hollywood or modeling agencies.

 

[Mike32ct]

Probably the 80-20 rule applies. So MAYBE I squeak into the top 20. MAYBE. But I’d imagine the top 2-5% are snapped up by Hollywood or modeling agencies.

Top 20 is more than enough.

 

[corrector]

Probably the 80-20 rule applies. So MAYBE I squeak into the top 20. MAYBE. But I’d imagine the top 2-5% are snapped up by Hollywood or modeling agencies.

You have to be proactive with that too. If you don't put yourself out there then nobody is going to discover you like that. How is your social media presence like?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

You have to be proactive with that too. If you don't put yourself out there then nobody is going to discover you like that. How is your social media presence like?

I’m in a LTR so my SM presence is minimal.
I had to get off most SM as my ex-‘s started finding each other through my SM.

You are correct on getting out there. Perhaps the most important thing.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Good. I ****ing hate average "men" to. They put no effort into anything and have zero passion.

 

[MatureDJ]

Why would you say you are not the top 2% or top 5%? If you did great on Tinder then it means you are in that top % .

I must admit that, from the perspective of a diehard empiricist, an entity is what can be observed about it - What You See Is What You Get. If you are successfully macking, you are a successful DJ. If what you almost always get is frustrating rejection, then you are a frustrated chump.

 

[SW15]

frustrated chump.

Most men are frustrated chumps. That's why the phrase "Average Frustrated Chump" was created in the early 2000s.

 

[Mike32ct]

Most men are frustrated chumps. That's why the phrase "Average Frustrated Chump" was created in the early 2000s.

Yeah I think the term was coined by RJ.

 

[SW15]

I think the term was coined by RJ.

Neil Strauss popularized the term, but it was likely coined by Mystery or some other PUA of that era.

Average Frustrated Chump

In the “community” there’s a lot of want for better terms. One of the major obstacles in the average guy’s path to unplugging is really coming to terms with the ‘terms…

therationalmale.com

 

[Solomon]

Yawn the same boring thread

If you are motivated, ambitious and driven then you will strive to be above average and even let's say you work an average job that doesn't mean you have to have an average physique. If you have an average physique there you have to something else to offset that This doom and gloom is getting boring

 

[CoolWave1331]

Yawn the same boring thread

If you are motivated, ambitious and driven then you will strive to be above average and even let's say you work an average job that doesn't mean you have to have an average physique. If you have an average physique there you have to something else to offset that This doom and gloom is getting boring

It's funny because most men (people) are average. Truly exceptional people that check all the boxes are rare. Maybe have right height, but super socially awkward and not handsome. Another guy might have good height, nice enough appearance but is ambition-less and a socially a loser. Someone else might be very ambitious, has lots of money but is ugly as sin; perhaps he has to pay all the women in order to be seen with him. The point is very few people truly "have it all" so the problem is not being "average" per say --- a lot of these guys not "winning" aren't even average, they aer below average. That's the real problem and is largely because of poor attitude.

If the situation sucks for a person and they aren't getting results, they need to take action. If shifting the blame and complaining really did anything we would've all achieved our goals the first time we felt we had a grievance. Some people complain from the start until the end, never realizing they are the problem. Meanwhile other men on equal footing are dating, getting promotions etc. They don't stand around feeling sorry themselves they get to work.

 

[Solomon]

It's funny because most men (people) are average. Truly exceptional people that check all the boxes are rare. Maybe have right height, but super socially awkward and not handsome. Another guy might have good height, nice enough appearance but is ambition-less and a socially a loser. Someone else might be very ambitious, has lots of money but is ugly as sin; perhaps he has to pay all the women in order to be seen with him. The point is very few people truly "have it all" so the problem is not being "average" per say --- a lot of these guys not "winning" aren't even average, they aer below average. That's the real problem and is largely because of poor attitude.

If the situation sucks for a person and they aren't getting results, they need to take action. If shifting the blame and complaining really did anything we would've all achieved our goals the first time we felt we had a grievance. Some people complain from the start until the end, never realizing they are the problem. Meanwhile other men on equal footing are dating, getting promotions etc. They don't stand around feeling sorry themselves they get to work.

Mate spot on, your posts have been gold lately you totally get it!

 

[CoolWave1331]

Mate spot on, your posts have been gold lately you totally get it!

Thnks bro, there's nothing special about me. If I did it anyone can. Without revealing too much in my earlier years I had similar spells where felt sorry for myself for one reason or another. We all have. It is easy to fall into & I get it...just can't make it your "resting place". I'd love to see & wish the fellas succes s and think it's possible but you got to be in the race in order to win. There are a growing number of on-lookers, not participants. You can't jus throw your hands up in the air and say I give up....and if you do you really have no one to blame but yourself.

Let's say you view the situation as being hopeless because you're 5 out of 10 on the looks scale (whether you really are a "5 out of 10" who knows, these smarty pants haven't taken into consideration that women will rate them differently) we 100% know there will be guys that are say 3 out of 10 out there grinding. Some will even be short, work crummy jobs on top of having a bad appearance, still they are trying because there is no other option. Eventually they will succeed because they are go-getter's. This is the right attitude.