The Rise Of Oversharing

[BaronOfHair]

I assume she has a dark history, period

Chicks are no more or less human than we are, in other words

 

[jhonny9546]

The mistake is when men try to fix thoser things.

It really is hard when the woman in question is an emotional mess but every time she says, "Do you understand what I mean? How can I fix this? Come on, are you listening? Help me fix this."

She wants you to help her find a solution, but at the same time she doesn't want to

 

[Mazer]

I consider myself an open person, maybe more open than most on here.
However, I have noticed since COVID a rise of women who like to overshare right away, especially on first dates
Usually, it's about exes, divorces etc. I try to stay clear of controversial topics. However, some of these women can't help themselves
If a woman overshares and crosses the line I ask them to stop if they do not, I look for an exit strategy to dip ASAP.
If one isn't available then worse case scenario I finish the date ASAP. I found that women who are still stuck on exes, dealing with trauma, or some issues are usually not worth the hassle of dating or even being intimate with half the time. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.

For example in 2023 I dated a former bartender/model. Who I met through a friend at a dinner. Come to find out her ex-drug dealing boyfriend literally died a week before we met. The girl was batshyt crazy the only reason I dealt with her was because she was hot and I was thinking with the wrong head. Now that I think about it, it was not worth it at all as she just was nuts (One morning I woke up to 800 drunk text messages of her talking crazy, I shyt you not 800 text messages from 4 am to 8 am while I was asleep)

The only good thing about women who overshare in my experience is you will know right away if they are still dealing with trauma or some baggage(usually on the first date or even before depending on how bad it is). I noticed the women who tend to overshare the most are 35+ or emotionally traumatized(divorced, bad ex, according to them etc.). During my younger years, I thought women oversharing was a sign of trust as I've got older, I understand now it's unresolved trauma. I know no one wants to play therapist on a first date. I used to volunteer a lot of information just to realize it was a waste of time as most women you will never see them again even if you were to slay them.

anyone else notice a rise in oversharing or am I just getting older?

Yes sir. I once had a woman tell me the story of her sister being murdered by her neighbor on the first date. When I was younger I would also think this was a good sign, she must real like me to share this info but it was a huge Red flag.

 

[BaronOfHair]

It really is hard when the woman in question is an emotional mess but every time she says, "Do you understand what I mean? How can I fix this? Come on, are you listening? Help me fix this."

One potential response:

"I could play The US government to your Israel, and try to "fix" your personal beef with Jenny(the equivalent of Iran), by setting off a few pipebombs in Jenny's home... Frequently enough, our efforts to fix someone else's problems, rather than encouraging them to address those difficulties for himself, yields some pretty garrish side effects"

 

[BaronOfHair]

The thing with men is that for some reason and nobody knows why, they trust that a woman can do no wrong

Same reason we frequently speak to the cops without a lawyer, when we find ourselves in the local precinct's interrogation room, no matter how many times we've heard "Don't do it: Invoke your right to counsel"...

We buy into the messaging we receive through popular culture("Real police detectives are just like D'Onfrio and Erbe on Criminal Intent... Valiant crusaders for truth, justice, and The American way, as opposed to flawed, fallible human beings", "Women we're drawn to our innocent Disney princesses who never experience dark thoughts, much less act on them")just as readily as The People's Temple bought into Reverend Jones's every last utterance

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The thing with men is that for some reason and nobody knows why, they trust that a woman can do no wrong. Every woman has a dumpster fire and your job with vetting is to see how big it is and if you can live with it..

Here is the why

Women-are-wonderful effect - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

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