Dealing with disrespect?

[Thebestthereeveris]

I sometimes let **** slide because i cant tell if they are joking but now i just take things literal and dont even take things as a joke. Should i just sock these dudes in the face or just walk away and never talk to them agian. Lowkey want to clown these fools.

 

[BPH]

Yeah man, don't take that sh**.

Punch him in the face, catch an assault charge, end up in county, and get your holes widened. Because you don't take no disrespect.

Just for absolute clarity, this is sarcasm.

 

[plumber]

where you want to be is not feeling irritated or not feeling triggered. but disappointed. when that's your mind, they will know. your not bothered... so now they have to choose if they really want to get into is with you. by all means assertively defend yourself. If your a boxer he needs a face bruise, if your BJJ then a popped elbow will do it. If you can't do anything, fix that. of course always look around and see where his crew is at. Being annoyed or triggered is what you want to get away from. There is many places to go and see, maybe you need a new venue.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you allow yourself to be pulled down to a base level where they are, you will be stuck at that base level with them.

Be better than that and be above that type of behavior. Better yet, stop putting yourself around those type of people and you won't have to worry about.

At the end of the day, you are who the 5 people you spend the most time around are.

 

[Chow Mein]

If you allow yourself to be pulled down to a base level where they are, you will be stuck at that base level with them.

Be better than that and be above that type of behavior. Better yet, stop putting yourself around those type of people and you won't have to worry about.

At the end of the day, you are who the 5 people you spend the most time around are.

Damn dude, you turned into a monk real quick with all the proverbs. Appreciate it, brotha.

 

[Clockwerk50]

You’re the one deciding to let things get to you. You could just as easily choose to ignore the annoying person or see the situation as too small to care about. That’s where real power is. If you don’t react, it can’t pull you into something pointless. Your ego stays out of it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Learn the art of verbal sparring. Playfully respond as if they are joking, but come back with a more playfully vicious response.

Just like a sh*t test from a woman. If you react emotionally, you've already lost.

Keep your cool, flip it back at them in a clever way.

Most guys/girls who toss out blatantly disrespectful comments are one trick ponies with no backup.

Hit the ball back in their court and they won't know what to do.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Yeah man, don't take that sh**.

Punch him in the face, catch an assault charge, end up in county, and get your holes widened. Because you don't take no disrespect.

Just for absolute clarity, this is sarcasm.

Going to court next week. Bad advice man.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I sometimes let **** slide because i cant tell if they are joking but now i just take things literal and dont even take things as a joke

So being around you is an exercise in existing on pins and needles. Congrats!!! You're very similar to a large percentage of our society these days, who's turned our nation into an oversized Pre-K, where everywhere from universities to comedy clubs are being transformed into so-called safe spaces

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

So being around you is an exercise in existing on pins and needles. Congrats!!! You're very similar to a large percentage of our society these days, who's turned our nation into an oversized Pre-K, where everywhere from universities to comedy clubs are being transformed into so-called safe spaces

Not really i just dont tolerate disresepct.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Not really i just dont tolerate disresepct.

That's fine, UNTIL one starts redefining disrespect to mean "Anything I find objectionable in some way"... Similar to universities adopting some highly idiosyncratic definitions of "safety", and The US government whitewashing "torture" as "Enhanced Interrogation Techniques"

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

That's fine, UNTIL one starts redefining disrespect to mean "Anything I find objectionable in some way"... Similar to universities adopting some highly idiosyncratic definitions of "safety", and The US government whitewashing "torture" as "Enhanced Interrogation Techniques"

no you dont get it. Im asian. If someone makes a racist joke but I can tell by their tone its a joke i wont be butthurt. But blatant disrespect needs addressing.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

no you dont get it. Im asian. If someone makes a racist joke but I can tell by their tone its a joke i wont be butthurt. But blatant disrespect needs addressing.

Novel idea...stop hanging out with losers.

 

[BeExcellent]

Novel idea...stop hanging out with losers.

Best advice given in this thread.

I find the agree & amplify approach to be fun (for my own self amusement). But to do this well you cannot have a chip on your shoulder or have a short fuse.

Sometime people say stupid stuff. Here's an example.....Context: Most women are terribly insecure so an insult to a woman's appearance often is not objectively true, but rather is stated to inflame insecurities.

Insult: You're ugly (sic)
Response: I know (big grin). It's really terrible. I'm also fat (obviously objectively not true as I'm a size 2) and I just don't know how I'll manage (grins & shugs)...then I laugh out loud in their face.

OR

Response: Really (big grin)? Is that all you got? How's that working out for you? (smiles). Laugh out loud at them.

People rarely know how to deal with that and they realize immediately that whatever stupid insult just got categorically rejected. Now. As a girl I knew I was less likely to get decked for ridiculing someone who might insult me back in the club days. I also had a reputation for keeping my cool no matter what, so people knew that about me & on that basis others would defend me, but I was careful not to be too snarky in responding, because it rarely does good to make a bully look like an idiot. That is a reliable recipe for disaster.

So the point is to nuetralize an insult without inciting a riot, and both a cool head and situational awareness is required for this.

Hotheaded punks cannot do this.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Novel idea...stop hanging out with losers.

In public i have no choice.

 

[Alvafe]

In public i have no choice.

you can leave, ignore, or stop looking weak

 

[Tilex]

Go up behind them when they aren't looking and pull their shorts down.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I sometimes let **** slide because i cant tell if they are joking but now i just take things literal and dont even take things as a joke. Should i just sock these dudes in the face or just walk away and never talk to them agian. Lowkey want to clown these fools.

Laugh and grab their back fat. This will take any man down a notch.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Laugh and grab their back fat. This will take any man down a notch.

making fun of peoples fat is always fun lol

 

[ValiantMale]

FIrst check if you have some victim mentality. Have you ever been bullied before or made to feel less? If so, maybe the guys you are referring to are only joking with you but through your lens you feel disrespected.

Regardless, if people are doing or saying things to put you down, that means they simply don't see you as competent or see you as less. Figure out why that is.. -- Don't try to win this battle.. Sometimes you just gotta move around and then better youreslf and act accordingly in new circles/situations.