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Is getting poon really as easy as this woman says?

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Who gives a rat's butt what she thinks? Why even post this on here?
 

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Getting poon isn't that easy for the majority of men.

It is common behavior for women tend to view the male experience based on the experiences of a small subset of top men. This is because most women are seeking interactions with only the top men. Women ignore a good portion of men and don't acknowledge that they exist. Most women wouldn't understand the reality that most men encounter.

If it were so easy to get poon, why would male sexlessness rates be increasing?

Technological advances of the last 30 years have only made it easier for the top tier men to get vagina. Middle of the pack men have found it more difficult to get vagina as top tier men have had it easier.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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If you're her type, it's easy. If not, it's hard.

This why there is so much conflicting advice. Guys say they listened to all kinds of advice, tried it all, no luck and must not work.

It's like selling, if someone tries to sell you something you need (especially at good price) you will purchase. If it's something you already have or don't need, you'll refuse no matter how charming the person is.

You can say and do the right stuff and still fail if the person just doesn't like you. This is the case most of the time.
 

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Getting poon is easy if you know what you're doing
For most men who struggle, it's for various reasons
But in 2025 you don't have to be a chad to get laid
In the video portrayed, she is talking about chad-tier guys. She described all a guy has to do is put up an add on Tinder, and a woman will show up at his home for netflix and chill ad and then there is a hook-up.

That doesn't sound like there is any game involved at all. It's not a matter of knowing what you are doing, but being attractive enough to be shooting fish in the barrel when it comes to OLD. Also it's demotivating. If you going to struggle even getting matches with OLD, then what type of women would you end up with from there if allot of women are behaving like that?
 

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She's not wrong.

The point is not that it's super easy to get laid, it's that plenty of women make it much easier for some men to get laid without needing to put in any effort.

It's a LOT easier for men to get laid today than it used to be.

And it's a lot easier than most of you guys think so long as you're willing to lower your standards and develop just some very basic social skills.
 

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Getting poon isn't that easy for the majority of men.

It is common behavior for women tend to view the male experience based on the experiences of a small subset of top men. This is because most women are seeking interactions with only the top men. Women ignore a good portion of men and don't acknowledge that they exist. Most women wouldn't understand the reality that most men encounter.

If it were so easy to get poon, why would male sexlessness rates be increasing?

Technological advances of the last 30 years have only made it easier for the top tier men to get vagina. Middle of the pack men have found it more difficult to get vagina as top tier men have had it easier.
I'd argue there was a relatively brief time period where technology enabled dudes who would otherwise be virgins to get laid (case in point: the partners I got through tech methods in college)

Had I been born 15 years sooner, I likely would have graduated college a virgin (as opposed to with a body count of 6)

On the flipside, had I been born 10 years later, I also likely would have graduated college a virgin (as tech methods would have been oversaturated by the time I was in college)

I guess I lucked out in the sense that my college years happened to fall after the internet had already become popular, yet before tech methods had become totally oversaturated.
 

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If you're her type, it's easy. If not, it's hard.

This why there is so much conflicting advice. Guys say they listened to all kinds of advice, tried it all, no luck and must not work.

It's like selling, if someone tries to sell you something you need (especially at good price) you will purchase. If it's something you already have or don't need, you'll refuse no matter how charming the person is.

You can say and do the right stuff and still fail if the person just doesn't like you. This is the case most of the time.
Which is precisely why I'd much rather have a woman turn me down because of my looks vs because of something I said or did.

As you put it, if she's simply not into you, there's no way to get into her pants no matter what you say or do. In no universe is a chance with her even a remote possibility.

What stings a lot more, however, is when the woman is physically attracted to me, yet refuses sex because of something I said or did (In that case, it feels a lot more personal. In the sense that if I personally said or did something differently, sex could have happened with her)

In the video portrayed, she is talking about chad-tier guys. She described all a guy has to do is put up an add on Tinder, and a woman will show up at his home for netflix and chill ad and then there is a hook-up.

That doesn't sound like there is any game involved at all. It's not a matter of knowing what you are doing, but being attractive enough to be shooting fish in the barrel when it comes to OLD. Also it's demotivating. If you going to struggle even getting matches with OLD, then what type of women would you end up with from there if allot of women are behaving like that?
The tech method sex from my early 20s was literally as easy as post an ad on Craigslist, get a reply from a woman, and then have the woman drive to me. It's impressive I was able to pull that off (with everything I have working against me). Alas, however, I haven't been able to get cooch that easily in the past decade.

She's not wrong.

The point is not that it's super easy to get laid, it's that plenty of women make it much easier for some men to get laid without needing to put in any effort.

It's a LOT easier for men to get laid today than it used to be.

And it's a lot easier than most of you guys think so long as you're willing to lower your standards and develop just some very basic social skills.
I have pretty low standards (at least compared to a lot of men on here), yet haven't been able to get free sex in 4 years (and my last instance of free sex was preceded by a 6 year drought)
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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If you're her type, it's easy. If not, it's hard.

This why there is so much conflicting advice. Guys say they listened to all kinds of advice, tried it all, no luck and must not work.

It's like selling, if someone tries to sell you something you need (especially at good price) you will purchase. If it's something you already have or don't need, you'll refuse no matter how charming the person is.

You can say and do the right stuff and still fail if the person just doesn't like you. This is the case most of the time.
exactly
 

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She's not wrong.

The point is not that it's super easy to get laid, it's that plenty of women make it much easier for some men to get laid without needing to put in any effort.

It's a LOT easier for men to get laid today than it used to be.

And it's a lot easier than most of you guys think so long as you're willing to lower your standards and develop just some very basic social skills.
I totally agree with this, guys will argue but I would say it's even easier if you're not a Chad but have solid game and know what you're doing, obviously for Chad-Tier dudes the poon just falls in they lap ha ha
 

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And it's a lot easier than most of you guys think so long as you're willing to lower your standards and develop just some very basic social skills.
Ah that’s the kicker, lowering standards.

Yes, it is super easy to get laid with fat women, with ugly women, with older women, with menopausal women, with single mothers. But a man doesn’t need Sosuave for those women,

Sosuave is for hot women under 30 with 0 divorces and 0 kids and 0 tattoos who haven’t slept with the football team. Those women aren’t easy if a man is not top tier.
 

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Maybe I’ll watch.

Why are men not approaching? Because damn near every couple did not form from some lone stranger man approaching a stranger female.
 

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Sosuave is for hot women under 30 with 0 divorces and 0 kids and 0 tattoos who haven’t slept with the football team. Those women aren’t easy if a man is not top tier.
I think a lot of guys here would be happy with a 31 year old with 1 tattoo who hasn't slept with the football team.
 

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Ah that’s the kicker, lowering standards.

Yes, it is super easy to get laid with fat women, with ugly women, with older women, with menopausal women, with single mothers
Nah... More like: "Be open to early 10s Lucy Hale, rather than remaining convinced "I must bed nothing but SI Models, back when SI wasn't settling for so many slags"
 

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I'd argue there was a relatively brief time period where technology enabled dudes who would otherwise be virgins to get laid (case in point: the partners I got through tech methods in college)

Had I been born 15 years sooner, I likely would have graduated college a virgin (as opposed to with a body count of 6)

On the flipside, had I been born 10 years later, I also likely would have graduated college a virgin (as tech methods would have been oversaturated by the time I was in college)

I guess I lucked out in the sense that my college years happened to fall after the internet had already become popular, yet before tech methods had become totally oversaturated.
You're mostly inaccurate in your assessment of tech.

Had you been born 15 years sooner, you would have had better social skills because you would have needed them to even survive. Those social skills would have given you a better chance to get laid in the conventional mating marketplace.

Millennials as a whole are more socially stunted by technology than their predecessor generations. Generation X spent more time in real life social situations as children. Generation X'ers learned to talk on the telephone with people and they did more human-to-human contact things when they were younger. Generation Z has even worse real life social skills than Gen Y/Millennials.

In the late 1990s/early 2000s, I was starting to see that technology was replacing human interactions among my early Millennial peers. I remember being in the dorm in my freshman year (2001-02) and watching people communicate more on AOL Instant Messenger than on the telephone.

By the standards of the early 2010s, all you did was dumpster dive on subpar websites.

By the early 2010s, men were having to send hundreds of messages on OkCupid, Match, and Plenty of Fish to get laid. People tend to forget now than the mainstream dating websites of 2004-2012 were not easy platforms for getting laid. They were saturated even by then. 2003-2005 is around the time that dating websites first got de-stigmatized and then dating websites started to get difficult before the dating apps launched.

The fact that you even were using tech methods while having a college campus as a resource was a very bad sign in your era of attending college. College campuses offer social opportunities that can't be replicated for working age individuals. Working age individuals were the ones who de-stigmatized dating websites in the earlier part of the 2000s decade because they lacked the social resources of a college campus.
 
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You're mostly inaccurate in your assessment of tech.

Had you been born 15 years sooner, you would have had better social skills because you would have needed them to even survive. Those social skills would have given you a better chance to get laid in the conventional mating marketplace.

Millennials as a whole are more socially stunted by technology than their predecessor generations. Generation X spent more time in real life social situations as children. Generation X'ers learned to talk on the telephone with people and they did more human-to-human contact things when they were younger. Generation Z has even worse real life social skills than Gen Y/Millennials.

In the late 1990s/early 2000s, I was starting to see that technology was replacing human interactions among my early Millennial peers. I remember being in the dorm in my freshman year (2001-02) and watching people communicate more on AOL Instant Messenger than on the telephone.

By the standards of the early 2010s, all you did was dumpster dive on subpar websites.

By the early 2010s, men were having to send hundreds of messages on OkCupid, Match, and Plenty of Fish to get laid. People tend to forget now than the mainstream dating websites of 2004-2012 were not easy platforms for getting laid. They were saturated even by then. 2003-2005 is around the time that dating websites first got de-stigmatized and then dating websites started to get difficult before the dating apps launched.

The fact that you even were using tech methods while having a college campus as a resource was a very bad sign in your era of attending college. College campuses offer social opportunities that can't be replicated for working age individuals. Working age individuals were the ones who de-stigmatized dating websites in the earlier part of the 2000s decade because they lacked the social resources of a college campus.
I was born 15 years earlier, probably older than you. @GoodMan32 is right. Tech makes life allot easier. You dont learn more social skills without it, you do more without.
 
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