"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Speeding up personal growth

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I’m a grown man but still there is a critical need for personal growth. In some ways I’m my age, in other ways I’m like a 14 year old boy. When looking back it’s noticeable that growth for me is possible. I have a general streak of insecurity still for instance, but I can cold approach easily now. The need for growth ranges within everything, from game to professional life.

The problem is: it goes way, way too slow. One measure for speeding up is to DO MORE, instead of planning and thinking, day dreaming. My rule of thumb is that if I’ve thought about it a couple of times I do it, because I won’t stop thinking about it. The thinking is for me a good indicator to that something is relevant.

Another way is to strategically spend money, to actually use money to get somewhere, something my dad couldn’t. If a book is a road block, I buy the book, simply. I don’t have to be 100% sure.

One challenge is to identify when the next step of growth is present. It’s almost slumbering in the subconscious, hard to detect. I ask today: what will I in one month think “I should have done this sooner”? It’s darn hard.

Let me know if you have tricks for speeding up personal growth.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You simply start taking action.

People sit around waiting for motivation to do something many times but the ironic thing is that once you start doing something that becomes motivation in and of itself which then allows you to keep going and doing.
 

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While there is nothing wrong with trying to make the process more efficient, you might get a better ROI if you focus on eliminating or at least mitigating what is holding you back.

What bad habits/vices or incompatible goals/beliefs are getting in your way? What do you most need to get rid of?
 

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Let me know if you have tricks for speeding up personal growth.
It's not a guarantee to accelerate anything, but you could keep a journal or spreadsheet to track your progress. Count the wins. You might be surprised how quickly things move forward.
 

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maintain a grateful attitude. Be thankful for what you have going on. This creates an aspirational positive mindset, which develops greater vision to growth and development.
 

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You simply start taking action.
This is the basics. And it’s easy once you understand how to do it.
Have you ever planned, acted, but felt like what you were about to do was “limited” by something in your environment?
Action is not enough sometimes
 

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This is the basics. And it’s easy once you understand how to do it.
Have you ever planned, acted, but felt like what you were about to do was “limited” by something in your environment?
Action is not enough sometimes
This will happen with many men in “improving themselves”. The fact is that now many men simply do not have the resources, upbringing, or physical and mental TALENT to get what they wish for. That’s not their fault or a bad thing.
 

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The fact is that now many men simply do not have the resources, upbringing, or physical and mental TALENT to get what they wish for.
You are so sure about this. It seems like you have faced it yourself. You should tell us more
 

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I’m a grown man but still there is a critical need for personal growth. In some ways I’m my age, in other ways I’m like a 14 year old boy. When looking back it’s noticeable that growth for me is possible. I have a general streak of insecurity still for instance, but I can cold approach easily now. The need for growth ranges within everything, from game to professional life.

The problem is: it goes way, way too slow. One measure for speeding up is to DO MORE, instead of planning and thinking, day dreaming. My rule of thumb is that if I’ve thought about it a couple of times I do it, because I won’t stop thinking about it. The thinking is for me a good indicator to that something is relevant.

Another way is to strategically spend money, to actually use money to get somewhere, something my dad couldn’t. If a book is a road block, I buy the book, simply. I don’t have to be 100% sure.

One challenge is to identify when the next step of growth is present. It’s almost slumbering in the subconscious, hard to detect. I ask today: what will I in one month think “I should have done this sooner”? It’s darn hard.

Let me know if you have tricks for speeding up personal growth.
Throw yourself into complete chaos and clust **** situations, jump straight into the deep end without a plan and learn to swim.

Ha that's where most my personal growth has come from.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You are so sure about this. It seems like you have faced it yourself. You should tell us more
Yes, I’m sure there are men who are not especially talented and don’t come from rich families who cannot attain what they have ambitions for. It’s self evident in everyday life.

I’m not sure why you made this personal and requested my own personal limitations. But I’ll take a stab at it. I was a pretty good swimmer as a young fella but it was evident early on that I was no Michael Phelps or Mark Spitz. I wasn’t extraordinary.

inb4 someone takes this as me not for trying one’s best or hard work. “Whatcha tryna say? I shouldn’t strive to achieve my goals?”

You can achieve whatever you want… within your limitations.
 
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This is the basics. And it’s easy once you understand how to do it.
Have you ever planned, acted, but felt like what you were about to do was “limited” by something in your environment?
Action is not enough sometimes
Now we can get to you, if you don’t mind. Do you have any particular ambitions?
 

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I'm a very good artist, but I hate marketing, and having to sell something to someone.
So I think I could become famous or rich, but I would lose my passion for it.
But I love the process. And the product. Not the marketing!

That's why you can understand that the experience with women, but in general the "social", is frustrating.

When you see humans empty inside, without inner game, with all these embellishments and flourishes taking the stage, and having everything from life you ask yourself if you would like to be with them in the intimate and silent moments, to see what comes out of their inner emptiness. I would be very curious.
They have maximized the outer game, while some people maximize the inner game.
To see it from a female perspective: Active Dread vs. Passive Dread

At my age I don't have enough, I would like to improve even more, changing career, I can get another degree now. I'm currently deciding whether to get a college degree to gain security in the mainstream job market, or another type of degree to have a "job", independence, in this case something to do with nutrition/fitness.
 

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One challenge is to identify when the next step of growth is present. It’s almost slumbering in the subconscious, hard to detect. I ask today: what will I in one month think “I should have done this sooner”? It’s darn hard.

Let me know if you have tricks for speeding up personal growth.
Don't overthink it. Just do.

One thing at a time.
Whatever you feel motivated to work on, that day.
It might be the thing that's most in need of development, or it might be what's achievable.

The journey is more important than the destination, ie you WILL see results before you achieve your goals.
 
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