"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to do a decade after drunken sex?

Arewedoomed

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TL;DR: Do I go to a non extradition country and send a consent sex form or something? Background:


Over a decade ago in the US, I was drunk at a bar and I bumped into a woman from high school. I had no idea how much she drank since I wasn't there long. She says I know you, you are coming with me. My friend saw us leave. Her friends drive me to her house. We make out I ask her if she wants sex she says yes. I try to stick it in but the condom broke so I instantly stopped. She gives me her phone number. We end up not dating because I thought she should have plan B in case a drop of pre-ejaculatory *** fell off of the condom. In sex ed they make it seem like pregnancy happens easily. She didn't believe in plan B. I had no idea how much she drank since I wasn't there long. She got married to someone else and has boys.


A year later I am at a party, I am driven away to a bar and back by a DD. A woman at the party says you are sexy, lets bang. I had no idea how much she drank since I wasn't there long. At some point during the sex she as on top and juice dripped down. Two people found us and laughed. She gave me her phone number. I try to take her on a date she didn't answer I said something in a text like last night was crazy oops. I can't remember and the cell phone is long gone. Hers probably is too. She texted "**** happens" and that was all he heard from her. I go back to the house the next week and several times after. Someone giggled and said do I do that a often I say no. A few years later she had a baby by someone else and I believe he is not in the picture. It could have been a hookup.


I used to always hear about people having drunken hook ups like it was no big deal and thought that was odd. It felt like I was the only one not doing that so I did twice eventually, but I wouldn't ever do that again. These women were going through break ups I think. There are times I've made out with chicks and I try to escalate but they say no and I instantly obey. I do not think the US legal system is fair to men. Both women consented but I don't have it on paper with a judge watching holding a camera. For a time I forgot about these instances but as I get older I wonder if it will haunt me. What are the odds of that? Although they had capacity since they could walk, talk, light/smoke a cigarette, recall their phone numbers and give them, they were not asleep nor pissing themselves, all they have to do is lie about something from a long time ago. Just because people drink it is not sexual assault https://deckerjoneslaw.com/defending-drunk-sex/


https://rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system


What do you think about those links?


Although I haven't talked to those people in years, I wonder if I should leave the USA? Where should I go? Could I go to another US state with a different statue of limitations? https://www.reddit.com/r/MapPorn/comments/1hqcqqg/_/My Facebook is deactivated and I blocked them and our mutual Facebook friends I don't talk to anymore. That old cell phone is long gone and theirs are too, probably. I hope I don't jinx myself by writing this stuff.


Am I being paranoid? I don't want to have to wonder. I would never do this stuff in modern times and I am a good person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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