“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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How to pickup 30-40 years old women as a younger guy?

We_ArE_VeNOM

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Sometimes I tend to find women that are slightly older than me attractive.
Ain't nothing wrong with it.

Let’s say I’m 25 years old, and they are 30-35 or sometimes even around 40s. I’ve cold approached some of those but it never got anywhere. They showed some interest throughout the interaction, and I've even got a few numbers but they didn’t respond to my texts afterwards.
These are rejections.

It has happened to me, too.

That is why, as a rule of thumb..I suggest that..

Instead of getting their numbers..

You give them your number.

If you provide them your number, you'll know that if you are contacted by them, that they have a genuine interest in you.

This by itself is not enough of evidence that I won't have success with these women anytime soon, but even in the sets oftentimes they will hear my age, and then just have the mental block, on a logical level, that this man-to-woman thing between us is not going to happen.
Yeah, the mental block :lol: .

I've been there, too.

And they usually share their objections in the conversation. Or it just might be an excuse for their lack of attraction to me, but I can't confirm that yet. Most of them seemed somewhat intrigued.
That's what Ive been trying to tell dudes...most (virtually all) of the interactions I've had with women during cold approach have been positive...even the rejections (in fact, most of the rejections).

The women are often intrigued, flattered, pleasantly surprised, and some have even blushed.

These are all genuine, sincere feelings in real time.

I know that according to social conditioning and hypergamy, it doesn't make sense that an attractive 30-35 years old woman will date a younger guy who is nowhere near her "level" in the main fields of life. In my mind, I think such a woman would be aiming at successful men at their peak SMV, who can provide luxurious experiences for her, raise her status in society, grant her access to opportunities, build a family with her, and treat her like an experienced man would (?)
I do believe that social conditioning plays a role in the female mindset and to a certain degree, even hypergamy.

But I dont believe that either are the majority.

I am of the belief that physical attraction breaks through both of those barriers more often than not.

And so according to my logic, the only thing I can provide them in such case is: good time, adventure, emotions, "fun" + the fact that I boldly approach them in public and try to seduce them without hiding my intentions, which they seldom experience in this way. However, most of them seem to be already over that fun phase, and now are more pragmatic than ever. I guess the only possible path to success in such a scenario is to "game" them hard, have a strong masculine frame, be smooth, and avoid at all cost everything logical. But since they are more mature, this is not that easy.
I agree.

Game, strong masculine frame (mental and physical) smooth...and avoiding her logic, while maintaining yours.

Once you can captivate their minds with those^, their bodies will follow.

(I haven't tried it lately, so more evidence might be needed to get a full sense of how it works or why it doesn't. Might post updates here later this year.)

What's your take on this?
Yes, keep us updated.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Sometimes I tend to find women that are slightly older than me attractive. Let’s say I’m 25 years old, and they are 30-35 or sometimes even around 40s

What's your take on this?
Give Schema Focused Therapy a whirl. You may have Mommy Issues
 

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Guys in their 30s who don't get puzzy its because they haven't done anything in life for them. A moderate successful guy with some game can get puzzy anywhere from 18 to 45. And like you said most men in their 30s aren't well put together
What if that guy is short? :mad:
 

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There was a time in my early 30's where I dated a lot of women that were 5-10yrs older. At the time I found them more attractive than girls in their 20's. To me, they were more alluring, more physically developed, more confident, and they dressed sexier. All I cared about was good times, fun, and sex. I didn't want anything long term. Most of my relationships in that era didn't last more than a few months and I was onto the next.

The difficulty I ran into was when it came to sex. These women that were older than me, always drug their feet. Being younger, they saw me as a toy and automatically suspected all I was after was pu$$y.....and I sort of was. They required more time, more dates, more convincing them that I wasn't going to pump and dump. After investing in them and not getting any sehx I put a few of them on notice. Only had one that wasn't willing to have sex the next time we saw each other. I also can't deny the fact, that I lacked a lot of experience when it came to seducing and understanding women so that played a part as well.
It's my friend's experience, when he was in his 40s, with dating any chick that a bar acquaintance would set him up with (this guy is akin to Norm from "Cheers", so he knew a lot of folks, although not roly-poly, LOL) was that on the 2nd, maybe 3rd date, they would make it extraordinarily easy, like getting back to her place and quickly changing their attire to just a bathrobe, etc. o_O. These gals were on a mission (pun intended). He said that recent grandmothers were especially easy. :eek::eek::eek:
 

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Why would you want to get 30-40 year old women if you are under 30? Enjoy the 20 something pussie while it is relatively easier for you to get.
What if the only non-fat chicks that give him any IOI are the cougars? :rolleyes:
 

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A 50 year old woman basically demands the same as an 18 year old woman. Ofcourse we can argue there will be nuances, but in general ALL women now want the same: a somewhat good-looking man who can take care of himself, carries himself with confidence and can "handle " a woman.

You won't get an easier way out, sorry OP.
It's OVER for WaitingUntilItGetsEasierCels.
 

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What if he is short? Should he get his legs lengthened? :mad:
Being short is one of the most difficult things to overcome.

In the United States, being short as a White male is very difficult. Shorter Hispanic men have it somewhat easier since Hispanic women are more accustomed to interactions with shorter men. White women do not have this same perception.

I don't recommend leg lengthening surgery is most cases. While looks are the most important aspect of attraction, money, status, and personality are also relevant.

Improving money is usually the best way to offset height deficiencies. The problem is that men that even make what would be considered "good money" is often not enough money. Displays of wealth can help.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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I'd say my SMV is pretty good. I'm almost 6", athletic, healthy, low body fat %, high status behavior, dress well, cool lifestyle, variety of interests, clean grooming etc... But the main thing is, I think, that I've gotten uglier throughout the recent years. Perhaps that's the reason of my low success rate with women recently (and my high standards, I often get chosen but not by whom I would like).

But this is also a positive thing, because it makes me focus on my game more, and not rely on looks, as I did most of the time before. Also if I was all that I am + very good looking, it would just be too easy, and I would not have anything to do with my life, besides banging hot chicks. :) What a shallow existence this would be!
 

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I'd say my SMV is pretty good. I'm almost 6", athletic, healthy, low body fat %, high status behavior, dress well, cool lifestyle, variety of interests, clean grooming etc... But the main thing is, I think, that I've gotten uglier throughout the recent years. Perhaps that's the reason of my low success rate with women recently (and my high standards, I often get chosen but not by whom I would like).
You're still under 30.

Your height is nothing special at 5'9"-5'11". At least you aren't short. At 5'10", I get no prizes for my height. There are many times where my height has been perceived negatively more than positively.

Low body fat % is your best asset. Cool lifestyle can help. Dress is somewhat overrated.
 
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