You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It looks like the guys game was simple. Work on and pursue doing something exciting. Apparently he had lots of effort in the start of his life. Looks like a decent example that almost anyone could copy. His focus was apparently on self improvement.What exactly are you asking?
The guy is a billionaire who's married to a model. Are you asking if he's doing okay in life? Yeah, I suppose one could do worse.
Which part seems to you to be blue pill? That he followed his passions and that made him a billionaire? Or that he married a woman 35yrs younger than him?Is this a good model to follow or is it blue pill or something like that ?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Raised in rural Texas and made his money in computing in the `90sThis is a classic beta bucks guy. Part of it is related to his upbringing. He was born in 1944 (near the end of The Silent Generation) and raised in rural Texas. He naturally has a blue pill ideology as a result of observing the mating environment of the 1950s-early 1960s.
He has a current wife who is a retired supermodel who was born in 1979.
That's a bold statement. How do you know that? Sure, that's the knee jerk reaction that most have. But how many women who marry at 30 guys of similar age do so out of love?She's only with him for his money.
is that also game ??? if the man can manage it?This isn't game.
This is hypergamy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
this post captures the topic better than the OP does. I have met many elder men that are FULL of game. For example prestige is powerful and also confidence that comes from freedom.Raised in rural Texas and made his money in computing in the `90s
That's a bold statement. How do you know that? Sure, that's the knee jerk reaction that most have. But how many women who marry at 30 guys of similar age do so out of love?
And when the guy has vast wealth, seems he's in a lose lose position, no matter if she's close in age or 35yrs younger, people will say she's with him for his money. For instance, are you positive that Miranda Kerr married Evan Spiegel out of love? Just because they're close in age?
@AmsterdamAssassin mentioned somewhere that some women who are into older men, are into men decades older, not just 5-7 years.
I'll use an analogy.is that also game ??? if the man can manage it?
I would much rather be a billionaire married to a model, than some broke deadbeat spinning five plates - which is what I feel like this forum recommends I be. As soon as people hear a guy is successful and has money, they start looking down their nose at him as being beta.The guy is a billionaire who's married to a model. Are you asking if he's doing okay in life? Yeah, I suppose one could do worse.
yeh, one of the points of the thread.I would much rather be a billionaire married to a model, than some broke deadbeat spinning five plates - which is what I feel like this forum recommends I be. As soon as people hear a guy is successful and has money, they start looking down their nose at him as being beta.
Marrying four times seems a little excessive. But if you're a billionaire, you're pretty much rich enough that you don't even have to worry about getting divorced and taken to the cleaners. You have more money than she could ever clean you out of. If I was a billionaire I wouldn't be concerned about the divorce risk, honestly. I suppose if you get married, it's best to be too broke or too rich to worry about surviving the divorce.He has been married 4 times and divorced 3 times. His 3rd marriage from 1991-2006 had a divorce settlement of $125 million.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
getting a phd is not lucky.I would say he has more luck than game.
Having a man we think of as beta, doing alpha things. Confusing. Leading other men, winning..., attracting women. These are alpha trait. So do we see this as a beta pretending to be an alpha or is it something else ?This is a classic beta bucks guy. Part of it is related to his upbringing. He was born in 1944 (near the end of The Silent Generation) and raised in rural Texas. He naturally has a blue pill ideology as a result of observing the mating environment of the 1950s-early 1960s.
He has been married 4 times and divorced 3 times. His 3rd marriage from 1991-2006 had a divorce settlement of $125 million.
He made good money in the early computing scene of the 1980s but his real money was made in mid-life with his involvement in Netscape from 1994-1999 (around his early to mid 50s).
His beta nature didn't hinder him that much, as he got his first wife before he made money. Bill Gates (who is 10 years younger) needed money and Microsoft CEO status to get attention from a mediocre careerist Microsoft employee. Part of why he's been more successful as a beta is height. He is around 6'0"-6'1" as he is slightly taller than his 4th wife who is 5'10".
He has a current wife who is a retired supermodel who was born in 1979. He bought high on her (as she was 30 when they married). She's 45 now and far past her prime, but a 45 year old is a good get for an 80 year old. She's only with him for his money. In the 2000s, she could have married for physical attraction, companionship, and commonality in going through life's phases if she wanted.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say this guy genuinely enjoys his life and enjoys being himself fairly well.I would much rather be a billionaire married to a model, than some broke deadbeat spinning five plates
It feels like you want validation that this is game.getting a phd is not lucky.
after microsoft started to dominate the relevant marked, he was famous for telling that its important for success to keep showing up for the fight.
most winner loose more than once before the effort pays.
You don't think he's clueless? This is his 4th marriage.Plenty of current rich tech guys are so clueless with women they've got to hire companions.
Some guys want the girlfriend experience, maybe he likes the wife experience.You don't think he's clueless? This is his 4th marriage.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.