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Roll over them, or get rolled over
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You drunk high, or both?I've been through the rollercoaster many times and can vouch for it
Women love the rollercoaster, by the way.
They love the ups and downs
It's their thrill of life!
If they don't have these, they get bored and think about divorce.
Ask me how I know, rookie
I'm just calling you as blue-pilled, buddyYou drunk high, or both?
I'll take the bait;
How do you know Experienced Dating Overlord?
Are you drunk, high, or both?You drunk high, or both?
I'll take the bait;
How do you know Experienced Dating Overlord?
You said ask me how I know . You can vouch for that post so I assume you too are a bluepilled beta buddy?I'm just calling you as blue-pilled, buddy
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm best on the booze broYou said ask me how I know . You can vouch for that post so I assume you too are a bluepilled beta buddy?
Perhaps you should lay off the booze before responding?
You aight bro?Are you drunk, high, or both?
Because you would have to be to think that women want a "nice" guy
Have you ever been around a woman?
My mission since I've been back is to promote being an assh0le.You aight bro?
Read again. I say the average bluepilled guy keeps HEARING about badboys . Don't know what made you think I ever said women want niceguys, you muppet.
There's a circus missing a clown I've heard. Read before responding homie
You completely misread my post and now you're just making a fool out of yourself.I loferlll
My mission since I've been back is to promote being an assh0le.
I have a thread where my girl sexted another dude, yet I still promote being an assh0le
I'm old. I've been on sosuave for a long time.
I learned what women like. Men that are in charge. And men that take charge are usually assh0les.
You can cry about it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It's my birthday lolYou completely misread my post and now you're just making a fool out of yourself.
Just enjoy your new years eve bro!
All women want a rollercoaster. It doesn't matter if you're introverted or extroverted. They want it regardlessI do understand your confusion because popular media keeps showing women actually talking about this over and over again. A normal woman talking normal shyte wint get no views..
So the generic dude/ beta /niceguy watching front the sidelines thinks " hey if I become a toxic badboy I will increase my chances with women".
You only forget that being a toxic badboy who goes through emotional rollercoasters with equally toxic women comes with a price. That price is your sanity and self-esteem and sometimes much more like money,freedom or your life.
Never forget how easily women can switch from A to Z if needed...jail and the cemetery are full of toxic badboys who got there due to women. Big part of being toxic is excalty that: toxic, non-functioning behaviour that makes a you a loose canon.
Are you ready to either die or do life for an hb7? ( a stretch, I know but none of those man expected that outcome neither)
And how you deal with women is keeping a strong hand. Frame, whateverAll women want a rollercoaster. It doesn't matter if you're introverted or extroverted. They want it regardless
Learn this. Accept it. Get ready for it...
Learn how to handle it, if you want to deal with women.
It's a fact of life
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
A great must must find what that "own" means.You create your own world and if it’s of value women will flock to you.
Disagree. IME the best relationships take up very little mental bandwidth. If there's "drama" then there's some disconnect that will rear its head down the line. May work (or not affect) torrid short term affairs, but long term things function better when people are more self assured. Doesn't mean anyone's perfect or that there are no disagreements. Acceding to some chick's desire for a roller coaster is just another behavior rooted in scarcity. Not my job to fix those chicks so frame=arrivederci.long-lasting relationships often seem to function better when there is an unstable male paired with a woman who seeks to stabilize him. It appears that many women are drawn to men with imperfections, as it allows them to feel a sense of purpose in their relationship.
I mean, you want to be the serious and good man, but if you're very centered about your life, serious, geared towards your goals, rational, calm, kind, it's also really hard for you to be or make someone feel the emotional rollercoaster, as you've said.So the generic dude/ beta /niceguy watching front the sidelines thinks " hey if I become a toxic badboy I will increase my chances with women".
I think I might need to try women from abroad because I'm talking about my POV here in Italy.Disagree. IME the best relationships take up very little mental bandwidth. If there's "drama" then there's some disconnect that will rear its head down the line. May work (or not affect) torrid short term affairs, but long term things function better when people are more self assured. Doesn't mean anyone's perfect or that there are no disagreements. Acceding to some chick's desire for a roller coaster is just another behavior rooted in scarcity. Not my job to fix those chicks so frame=arrivederci.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.