Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In 2012, I hadn't heard of MGTOW or inceldom yet. Yet I still ended up frustrated/developing unhealthy thoughts (because of how hard of a time I had getting/keeping a woman)
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
More like I don't want a woman to pop out a baby who might get bullied for his/her body hair.
Interesting. 2012 was also the best year I had romantically. Dealt with a girl I met online for the greater part of the year, and I really liked her, and went allot of places together with her and spent ALLOT of time together. But, over 12 years ago for both of us right? While I got married in 2014, I still remember 2012 as one of the best years of the last decade.
There is always the ignore button.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
OP has a long-established pattern of doom saying. Characterizing the sharp replies as "slagging a fellow board member" is thus no less disingenuous than accusing Jimmy Carr of "bullying", whenever he rips a heckler
This is similar to door to door sales. A fair amount of doors get slammed in your face, no matter how adept you are. All that's humanly possible... We can become more proficient, by constantly acquiring more knowledge, and recalibrating beliefs which we previously mistook for Holy Writ
This isn't true. But if that's how you see things, that's how they will be. There are a million other things you can say to a woman that aren't creepy, but there are as many excuses not to bother.
If a chicken had lips it could whistle. I don't film my daily interactions...
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Goes to a point mentioned here https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/smv-and-age-difference.283244/page-4#post-3139595
Do you really think a cold approach that starts with asking for directions, is going to go somewhere? What are you going to do after she gives you the directions or says she doesn't know where xyz is? Unless she really likes you (ie in which case you would have got clear IOIs and green-lights before you did that and then she'll likely take over from there, etc...) it's really a waste of time. So anyone can approach a girl or talk to her or run game. It doesn't mean she's going to be interested in you.
Nice! Now you know what to do when you go back to those speed dating events or when you're talking to a woman you're interested in. Just find that happy medium.
Interesting how 2012 was the best year for both of us (and surprising, seeing as we were in totally different stages of life)
I'm gonna choke when it really counts
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Whether you personally film is irrelevant. We have no control over who in the vicinity might film us.
I'm pretty sure it's too late to edit my OP (unfortunately).Feel free to edit your original post with this "friend link" that bypasses the paywall:
Youtuber Asks Out 100 Girls to Overcome Fear of Rejection
An incredible social experiment that proves incels wrong…again!medium.com
Thanks for posting my Medium article!
One time when I was outside on break at work, a beautiful woman (she seriously looked like one of those models in mail order bride catalogues) asked me for directions to a cafe in my office complex. I gave her directions (and this is a different beautiful woman than the one from the directions story I shared on a recent post)
Easier said than done.
Yeah, and too many folks don't recognize that "success" and "failure" are little more than labels we put on events, rather than indirect ways of saying what we REALLY mean: "In (insert situation), I didn't get exactly what I would've preferred"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.