I don't want to try anyone anymore.

[nelysses]

Many of you know me. I would ask a lot of questions here and try to learn something.

Then with your help I realized that I needed to go out.
I worked out, tried to get into a few environments etc. and finally had the chance to have sex with a few people. They were casual relationships.

I always thought I wanted a fast life but then I realized that wasn't what I wanted. I realized that I wanted only one girl. Then I found one girl and I thought I really loved her but I got bored of her in 2 weeks.
Now I don't feel like trying to get involved with any girl. I don't want to go through those stages of getting to know her again. I see the girl, I say she's pretty, but I don't want to go talk to her or send her messages. And these things happen when I'm only 21. Sometimes I want to have a relationship with someone, but trying to get to know someone is boring. I had overcome my masturbation addiction, but I started doing it again just for this reason. What can I do about that?

Actually, the main problem is this: I get bored and uninterested in new environments and new people. But that's how I started to become a very antisocial person. Even my number of friends has dropped a lot.

 

[corrector]

Perhaps you should deal with women that you are compatible with and share many common interests with and not just look for a warm body for experience and then you won't be as bored.

 

[sevbucmash]

these things happen when I'm only 21

Male braine developes until 26. You are still growing and going through changes in your life.
A) Get rich
B) Have security coushion for at least half a year
C) Don't get into debt
D) Fall in love

 

[nelysses]

Sounds like depression.

It can be.
Im sleeping too much and my losing weight is stopped.
But I don't know what to do about that. I saw psychologist and nothing changed
Actually as a med student I don't believe depression. I always thought like "If you don't have a goal you lose your path" And nowadays i don't know what should i do. Probably school and gym everyday again.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sounds like you should probably be seeing someone professionally.

 

[Travel memoir21]

I agree with Corrector, you should find a quality woman who is kind, calm- collected and who you got plenty of connections with and things in common.


Not only that, you should try to figure out your purpose or higher calling in life, what you will. Women are only the spice of life, never the meal itself.

 

[plumber]

It can be.
Im sleeping too much and my losing weight is stopped.
But I don't know what to do about that. I saw psychologist and nothing changed
Actually as a med student I don't believe depression. I always thought like "If you don't have a goal you lose your path" And nowadays i don't know what should i do. Probably school and gym everyday again.

OP, its not uncommon. Many others are in same situation.

As a med student your likely busy with study.

Somehow at the same time; find an activity you love that requires action.
examples:

-lifting
-BJJ
-Boxing
-church..

The mix of stuff you have now is not working for you. Add something else to the formula to change the taste.

 

[Agamemnon43]

He needs a job. It will teach him to value things he is taking for granted right now.

 

[nelysses]

You should read about Dr Glover. He asks the readers to ask themselves, "for what reason have I invited this woman into my life?"

What are you trying to accomplish and what emptiness are you trying to fill by going women after women?

Yeah man this is the problem. I used to try to get everyone into my life to have sex. Suddenly I found 3 or 4 girls in 1 month. Then I realized that I don't enjoy it. It wasn't good for my soul. I wanted to focus on one girl but I got bored. When that happened, I started not to care. And it pulled me in like a vortex. I got used to the comfort and I liked it. The problem is that I'm turning into a caveman. Now I don't want anyone because there's no void inside me to fill.

 

[BPH]

I think you need to sit down with yourself and figure out what you want.

Not what you think you SHOULD want, or what other people think you SHOULD want, but what you actually want.

I learned pretty early on that I generally don't like relationships. I enjoy sleeping around with multiple women because I enjoy variety, and the hunt. I do not enjoy relationships because I do not like the time and money obligation when I cannot even afford to move out of my parents' house.

Add in a few emotionally scarring experiences and I've decided the potential upsides of a relationship are not worth the potential downsides - at least right now.

Take it upon yourself to figure out WHY you're feeling the way you're feeling, and not just WHAT it is that you're feeling.