Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When I talk to someone that I'm attracted to, or She talk to me, it's hard for me to not smile while talking.

I worked to keep this thing more "formal" but I really cannot do it.

Do this happen to you also?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sure. If you are both enjoying the conversation, what’s the problem with smiling? Part of flirting and basic body language. Ever hear of the concept of mirroring? If you’re smiling and she’s not, it’s probably not a fun conversation.
 

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When I talk to someone that I'm attracted to, or She talk to me, it's hard for me to not smile while talking
Mistaking the counsel offered up in teeny bopper rock
for genuine wisdom has it's drawbacks
 

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Surely you are overthinking here ? I mean,ok,you dont wanna be grinning like a loon the whole time but being cheerful is a positive trait..a bit of smiling is to be encouraged,we cant get lost in our hands at times on here
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That's probably fine if you do it naturally. It's only bad to force a smile. Personally I almost never smile or laugh around women or people in general and I don't think it's an issue for me because I otherwise come off as pleasant and engaged (if it's with someone I like).
 

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That's probably fine if you do it naturally. It's only bad to force a smile.
Like if you put your hands on fire, you would immediately take that off.
It really comes natural to me.
When you don't look mischievous at the same time
I'm not creep neither mischievous.

Usually the other women I talk too, start to mirror and smile too while talking.
 

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It's important to note that smiling isn't just smiling, why you're smiling and as a consequence what the smiling says about you is what matters.

I still smile a lot when I'm interacting with people in general, but it comes from a very different place than it used to.

I remember back to the very first date I got when I started working on myself back in 2013. I was very nervous throughout the whole date which lasted around an hour, I was smiling and laughing some, but it came from a place of insecurity. I was not doing it because I enjoyed myself with her in that situation, I did it to constantly relieve the tension I was feeling in the situation. Simply put it was a nervous smile and I would bet my life savings she could absolutely tell how insecure I was based on that alone.

Now I have a confident smile. I naturally smile when I have a good time, it looks different, it looks way more attractive, it's a different expression of a smile altogether. I only laugh if I genuinely find something funny, never nervously to dissipate tension. If anything I can use my smile to ADD tension if the interaction is becoming a bit too flat and boring. I can turn off this smile in an instant if the situation shifts to where I don't like it anymore, this was not the case back when I was nervous because I'd use the smile to dissipate that tension and probably end up smiling more (nervously).

Smiling is fine, don't try to micromanage it. Do ask yourself why you're smiling though and if it's to reduce tension you should work on why you find whatever triggered it uncomfortable.
 

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Smiling is fine, don't try to micromanage it. Do ask yourself why you're smiling though and if it's to reduce tension you should work on why you find whatever triggered it uncomfortable.
In my scenario, I do smile sometimes to dissipate the tension or sexual tension.
When I look at an attractive woman, I start thinking up what kinky things I can do with her
I do this too.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Smiling and looking your object of interest in the eye is a normal thing and a nonverbal way to convey interest and if the person smiles back it’s a strong indicator of interest.
 
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