20% versus 50% or more

[davidsonj73]

I read on this site that a man shouldn't spend more than 20% of his time and money on women. I'm wondering if that same man would get much better results if he spent closer to 50% or more of his time and money on women, like married men do, yet remained a free agent and had multiple partners, spun plates, et cetera? What do you think?

 

[Deranged]

You're missing the point. The idea is: Spend your free time growing, exceling and doing the things you love. Put in genuine effort into a worthy career and the money and the women will just happen.

Some bullsh!t mathematical formula to success is just that; bullsh!t. Live your life for yourself, with purpose and everything falls into place.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You spend way too much time focusing on details and things that don't matter so that you end up missing the actual conceptual piece of the puzzle

 

[Manure Spherian]

I read on this site that a man shouldn't spend more than 20% of his time and money on women. I'm wondering if that same man would get much better results if he spent closer to 50% or more of his time and money on women, like married men do, yet remained a free agent and had multiple partners, spun plates, et cetera? What do you think?

Most men with women met them through the course of daily living and OLD.

Who calculates this stuff and dictated that percentage? People make this sh-t far more cerebral than necessary.

 

[Gamisch]

First of all ,numbers like these are there there as a threshold or limit for a man to kinda guide him. Let's say you are young, good job or some money and somewhat successful in dating. Before you know it you're spending way more than you cab afford. That's the power that women have over us men! If you make 4k and spend 20 % that's 800 bucks. (Imo still waaay too much but that's just me, and that also depends on the actual results IMO). You could place it in the bracket of keeping frame.

So ,it also depends on the individual man. Some men love to spend money on women. If it makes you happy is all that matters. Some men spend money on gambling, or drug, or games ect.

...and yes, for all we know some men lost great some women because the were cheapskates. That argument can be refuted by saying that if a woman is really into money doesn't matter. The truth? You tell me.

 

[davidsonj73]

First of all ,numbers like these are there there as a threshold or limit for a man to kinda guide him. Let's say you are young, good job or some money and somewhat successful in dating. Before you know it you're spending way more than you cab afford. That's the power that women have over us men! If you make 4k and spend 20 % that's 800 bucks. (Imo still waaay too much but that's just me, and that also depends on the actual results IMO). You could place it in the bracket of keeping frame.

So ,it also depends on the individual man. Some men love to spend money on women. If it makes you happy is all that matters. Some men spend money on gambling, or drug, or games ect.

...and yes, for all we know some men lost great some women because the were cheapskates. That argument can be refuted by saying that if a woman is really into money doesn't matter. The truth? You tell me.

Ok. I see what you're saying!

 

[Gamisch]

Ok. I see what you're saying!

Maybe off-topic, but imo this is a clear example why all men pay. Let's keep it at 20% at 4k.

You can be in a relationship with a woman you think is great/good( enough?)and you maintain the "fun" by for example spending 200 bucks per weekend on her. Eating out, a concert left right, a trip, gass money in general ...but you do get to enjoy yourself as well because of her company. On top of that this is an entry level type of lifestyle if you wanna have any kind of gf .

Or you spend 800 because you rotate/ hunt. You gotta go places, buy tickets, do first, and follow up dates. Easily will cost you 200 per weekend IF you keep yourself in check.

No such thing as a free woman. Realize that so you can control yourself better because hard times are always lurking ...

 

[Salvation]

I spend only a miniscule amount of money on women.
Hm, i am sex addicted, i guess i meet a woman on average every second day.
Either i know them already and they come over for sex and perhaps drink a glass of water. If first date i normally go for a walk. In colder times go for a drink, normally i just let them pay their drink - in recent years i pay the 3.5eur for her drink, in around 50% of the time (anytime i think if not paying would be weird), cause i am rich. I have one girl i do stuff like go to restaurants (we order one appetizer, one main meal, one dessert, in total we each pay eg 20eur) and culture, she is such a good girl she pays 50%, but i make it so i pay 60% often - i am kinda thankful for her, else i would sit at home only. It is great she pays 50% for events, i think that's very good cause it makes her look at the price of things. She is a normal woman, i am a millionaire, our willingness to spend money eg for culture is approximately the same.
Now imagine a woman making consumption decisions where she doesn't even pay anything for..

I have much more freetime than other men, and well that directly correlates with amount of women, if i spend 2x the time pursuing women, i get 2x the women (the same quality women). I go for only long term friends with benefits, but women fall off often; and when i retain them for many years they are also not as exciting for me as new women.