All_Kindz_Of_Gainz
Master Don Juan
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Congrats, the first step to fix is problem is to accept you have one. Now, the next step is reflecting on why are you needy with girls and try to impress them? I assume you don't do that with guys.I know the title is ridiculous but for some reason it sounds like girls don't want boys and only us as boys want them.
That's why I feel like I'm trying to impress someone, pick them up, rather than having a relationship with someone. And of course it usually fails. Because I act too needy. But I can't get over it.
We had the same experience with the last girl I liked. The girl's personality is not like me at all, and on top of that, she is not very interested in me. Therefore, I feel like I need to make an effort for it. Like I have to convince him.
I can't accept that we are both different characters and that if we are for each other, we will have a relationship, if not, we won't.
I heard recently that she has a boyfriend. In fact, she would even go to the gym with her boyfriend so that she wouldn't talk to others.
So I know Girls hav emotions too But how can i fix that with me?
How was your childhood upbringing? Did you have a needy mom? Did she use you as emotional tampon? Were you dad passive or even was he there? You may have a fear of abandonment, like when you were a child you needed to impress mommy for her to give you love and attention, did you compete with siblings for mommy's love?
You're that way cause of your childhood, you need to develop three strong pillars, financial, physical and emotional. When a girl doesn't pay attention to you or gets away, does it give you anxiety? It means you fear the same abandonment as a child from your mother.
Having that programing for 20+ years, will not change in a couple of months, it will take a couple of years of you doing the hard work to rewrite your mind, and truly believing if a girl doesn't like you, it doesn't matter, cause you're not a child who will not be abandoned by mommy.