"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You are asking me to think logically…

…not in the purely monogamous way some red pill men are hoping for.
They’re not asking you to think logically. It’s a facade. Red pill is entirely based on theory.

A never-was rock hobbiest who spent a couple years on the road living in vans and banging bar maids and scene girls, who happened to be a psych major, who never spent a day working in the field of psychology came here one day after he personally become a married, monogamous man and his music hobby inevitably extinguished.

He wisely identified and cultivated a market of failing, pathetic, desperate men who had become bitter with the way evolution has culled their kind out over time, and allowed this very board to be his laboratory inventing a self help program. In doing that a movement was born.

That movement needed some validity since it was essentially nothing more than the writings of L Ron Hubbard for pathetic, lost men. Enter terms like ‘pair bonding’ which were straight up plagiarized from real science in order to offer some sort of proof that this was a real thing.

I challenge anyone to look at the charts and research provided above contracted with the real research I posted from actual science. It’s been 24 hours and counting. You can tag these luminaries, they won’t reply either. It’s a power rule, you evade you don’t engage.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No sources in that article
I know, responders mentioned that as well.
One responder found this:

 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeh man we have to take accountability as men and admit that we missed our opportunity. High school age is when homo sapiens were designed to make long lasting pair bonds. College is late and mid 20s is super late. All of our most impactful bonding has already occurred by 18 or 19 ( for women anyway).
Couldn’t agree more. I have tried to articulate that anything else is just later bloomers and it’s just the “leftovers” from that process . Of course, you can still do stuff with that, and most in this situation do, because it’s just unreasonable to retire yourself from the pool, but being mindful of this should help not to get too attached.
 

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I know, responders mentioned that as well.
One responder found this:

 

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Lol, fair enough.

The article isn't Gospel, just another perspective I thought was interesting, that's all.
Speaking of Gospel, the living founder is a Christian writer and former Bush appointee, ie he’s a ‘beating heart’ proponent

 

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Religious rules prohibited pre-marital sex for hundreds of years. That wasn't arbitrary, even for those of us who don't practice it. I think that rule grew out of the bond formed between two virgins experiencing their first time together. Maybe that could be a starting point in the definition of a strong pair bond.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Because the magic number is 6. The rate of divorce skyrockets of women that have had more than 6 sexual partners. @SW15 had the stuE="pipeman84, post: 3104587, member: 160629"]
Take a 25yrs old girl who's had 4 boyfriends during the past 9 years. Many would say, wife material right there. But let's think logically, how is she going to handle the challenges of marriage and having kids, when she couldn't hold on to any of the 4 boyfriends? That means she's either too dumb in picking them and/or lacks loyalty and/or has some deep seated issues that chase the guys away.

The marriage might not end in divorce, so you don't see cases like her in the statistics. And again, I'm asking you to think logically: why is that? Because 1. she's made such a giant leap in self development that all the problems mentioned above have disappeared or 2. out of necessity: ie, she's older now, wants to fulfil the social circle expectations, has kids and needs the help and extra income etc.
Such logic breaks down when you consider that the four boyfriends are the dumb ones (which in recent times, is just as likely). She would have held on had one of them knew what they were doing.

It is not mere logic.
 

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Actually it's simple logic that the higher the body count, the higher the chances she's not good for anything other than quick sex. I'm not talking here about ridiculous situations like those mentioned in OP (20 guys by the time she finished college and suchlike.o_O)

Take a 25yrs old girl who's had 4 boyfriends during the past 9 years. Many would say, wife material right there. But let's think logically, how is she going to handle the challenges of marriage and having kids, when she couldn't hold on to any of the 4 boyfriends? That means she's either too dumb in picking them and/or lacks loyalty and/or has some deep seated issues that chase the guys away.

The marriage might not end in divorce, so you don't see cases like her in the statistics. And again, I'm asking you to think logically: why is that? Because 1. she's made such a giant leap in self development that all the problems mentioned above have disappeared or 2. out of necessity: ie, she's older now, wants to fulfil the social circle expectations, has kids and needs the help and extra income etc.
I’ve only been here under a year. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me most here do not want marriage. If that’s the case, I don’t see why anyone would care about body count.

Some are not fond of studies pertaining to this. My own observation is that nearly all women I know since 12 years old who were what I call “professional girlfriends” since young ages are divorced. Those who were more subdued and did not have one gorillion bore-friends are married with children and appear to be very satisfied with their lives, my family cousins included. The latter never made their relations with men and their sexuality the focal points of their existences.
 

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Religious rules prohibited pre-marital sex for hundreds of years.
Yes true. Then every religion / cult ends up with clergy and leadership breaking those prohibitions and others that shouldn't even need to be considered. Put a guy in charge and he'll be happy to tell people when, how and whom to fukk but he'll rarely follow his own doctrine. It's like sexual socialism.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yes true. Then every religion / cult ends up with clergy and leadership breaking those prohibitions and others that shouldn't even need to be considered. Put a guy in charge and he'll be happy to tell people when, how and whom to fukk but he'll rarely follow his own doctrine. It's like sexual socialism.
The point of my post was the last line, not the first.

Religious rules prohibited pre-marital sex for hundreds of years. That wasn't arbitrary, even for those of us who don't practice it. I think that rule grew out of the bond formed between two virgins experiencing their first time together. Maybe that could be a starting point in the definition of a strong pair bond.
 

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@SW15’s data is probably indicative of the declining quantity of healthy families over the past decades. The increase of broken homes creates more broken people. I would venture to say that this pair bonding is a reflection of her self worth. Does she have self respect and high standards instilled from her family or is she insecure and trying to find validation from multiple partners? If she starts off with lots of baggage, she’s not going to be a good bet in the long run. This current 304 culture is going to backfire as most men don’t want to get into an LTR with someone who has been ran through. Short turn fun sure, but not for the long term.
 

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Because the magic number is 6. The rate of divorce skyrockets of women that have had more than 6 sexual partners. @SW15 had the study somewhere.

Do what you want. I’m just relaying the data. If she’s taken too many dvcks, she can’t pair bond. It is what it is.
I think those are just generalized numbers but the reasoning behind it is telegony.

Telegony means that a women stores mens DNA inside her for her lifetime, permanently. All of her sex partners DNA never washes away.

That is why some couples who share the same skin color can have a baby together but the baby comes out a completely different color skin. Because the DNA of her previous partners is stores inside her, permanently.

This is one of the reasons why there were anti miscegenation laws against race mixing, until only recently.
 

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Telegony is an ancient theory suggesting that an offspring can inherit characteristics from a previous mate of the mother, aside from the biological father.

This concept dates back to pre-genetic science and has been largely discredited in modern biology, especially with respect to humans.In humans, there's no scientific evidence supporting telegony.

Genetic inheritance follows established principles of genetics, where a child's DNA comes directly from the genes of their biological parents. Advances in genetics, such as the understanding of DNA and the human genome, have provided clear mechanisms for inheritance and development, which do not include telegony.

Studies in some non-human species have suggested instances that might seem to support telegony-like effects, but these are related to microbial or epigenetic factors rather than the direct inheritance of traits from a previous mate.

In humans, the scientific consensus does not support the concept of telegony as a mechanism of genetic inheritance.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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