"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anywhere to meet women online besides dating sites?

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Literally asking for a friend. He is in a relationship (living together but wants out at some point). In the meantime, he wants to meet quality women (older: like 35 and older) for friendship somewhere online (he doesn't get out much). He doesn't know where to go but online dating sites that require a picture. He doesn't want to post a picture anywhere. Anyone have any ideas? Are there chat rooms anymore? Discussion threads? I have no idea and don't know what to tell him.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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henrymiller50 said:
He doesn't want to post a picture anywhere.
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Tell him to get over it and use Hinge or Seeking. The latter is probably best if he wants to avoid the possibility of his GFs friends seeing him. But if he wants out, then just get out already, why does he need to do it in secret?

The only viable place to meet women consistently is in communities like churches, sports clubs, social groups, etc. If he wants to do it online he's going to have to use photos. There are no "chat rooms" or anything like that to meet women. I did meet up with a girl from Reddit but that was pure chance and not something you can expect to happen. Hinge or Seeking (or maybe IG) are the best way to go.
 
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Tell him to get over it and use Hinge or Seeking. The latter is probably best if he wants to avoid the possibility of his GFs friends seeing him. But if he wants out, then just get out already, why does he need to do it in secret?

The only viable place to meet women consistently is in communities like churches, sports clubs, social groups, etc. If he wants to do it online he's going to have to use photos. There are no "chat rooms" or anything like that to meet women. I did meet up with a girl from Reddit but that was pure chance and not something you can expect to happen. Hinge or Seeking (or maybe IG) are the best way to go.
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What is "seeking"? Is that an app? Is that the full name? I've never heard of it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There used to be a book called "Go Where The Fish Aren't". It talked about meeting women in other places other than dating websites (online).

So Forums, chat groups, Facebook Groups seem like the best options. However I am sure there are many more. Women will probably want a photo

Men and woman groups like: cooking, fitness, photography, DIY projects, Book clubs, music

I don't have any experience with this myself.
 
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henrymiller50 said:
Literally asking for a friend. He is in a relationship (living together but wants out at some point). In the meantime, he wants to meet quality women (older: like 35 and older) for friendship somewhere online (he doesn't get out much). He doesn't know where to go but online dating sites that require a picture. He doesn't want to post a picture anywhere. Anyone have any ideas? Are there chat rooms anymore? Discussion threads? I have no idea and don't know what to tell him.
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Whole Foods. No, I'm not kidding
 
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Whole Foods.
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Whole Foods is a decent grocery store for approaching. Some Whole Foods locations will be better than others for this. Some Whole Foods are suburban, married MILFs. If a Whole Foods is closer to a neighborhood that is mainly unmarried people, then it would be a lot of bougie 25-40 year old never married, childless women.

I have done approaches at multiple grocery store chains. Whole Foods hasn't resulted in the most dates for me personally (another chain has produced the most dates for me) but I can see how it would work. Picking up women at Whole Foods used to be talked about more online like 5-12 years ago as compared to now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FlexpertHamilton said:
Even better is Trader Joes or Target.

Whole Foods has an older demographic.
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Let's also add here that one's mindset is vital. If a fella walks into a venue for the express purpose of snagging an easy piece of a-s, he'll either come across desperate and unattractive, or end up with something from the bottom of the barrel

It's much healthier to go about your day, doing things which enrich your existence, while viewing the acquisition of high-quality women as a perk
 
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Let's also add here that one's mindset is vital. If a fella walks into a venue for the express purpose of snagging an easy piece of a-s, he'll either come across desperate and unattractive, or end up with something from the bottom of the barrel

It's much healthier to go about your day, doing things which enrich your existence, while viewing the acquisition of high-quality women as a perk
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Ofc, there's nothing more ridiculous than purposely going to a particular place just to talk to women. Trader Joe's is overrated af though Target is pretty decent actually.
 
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