Alpha man in life, submissive in bed

[smartpill]

Hey guys, what do you think about this situation. I understand the rules, enjoy them, it works but in bed I like both. Domination, but also submission. I like feet, etc. Is this possible or my attraction as a man is gone?

 

[EyeBRollin]

Women won’t tell you directly but a man that is submissive in bed is a turnoff. Women want to be dominated in bed. They need to feel your power. Believe it or not women have virtually zero tolerance for male sexual deviance.

 

[Macadellic]

If a woman wants a man to be submissive in bed
She has deep rooted unresolved issues trauma
She HATES men
Block, delete, ghost

Take some accountability for not seeing the red flags before going to bed with her

Again,
She HATES men
don’t let her or anyone else gaslight you into thinking otherwise

Moreover,
A women that puts you into a submissive place
is about control and power
She is RAPING you

Low value OLD girl

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Hey guys, what do you think about this situation. I understand the rules, enjoy them, it works but in bed I like both. Domination, but also submission. I like feet, etc. Is this possible or my attraction as a man is gone?

Ehh...submission in bed is a turnoff for 90% of women. I mean these are the dudes getting pegged and otherwise dominated by her.

The only way this is OK is if you allow her to "take control" for a few minutes while on top of you and then you assertively take it back and punish her by fvcking the life out of her for trying to do it in the first place.

Most women find that exceptionally hot, especially when you whisper in your ear how you are going to make them take it and spank them hard until you leave a handprint on their ass so they can remember it the next morning when they look in the mirror after getting out of the shower.

Alpha in the bedroom is what actually counts. Otherwise you are viewed as a sheep in wolf's clothing by women once they find out.

You'll likely open yourself to more and more tests of your manhood and "respect" tests from her since you won't be congruent and she will be trying to figure out which side is the "fake" side.

The assumption is the side that comes out in the bedroom is the "real" side and you will face an uphill climb to convince them otherwise.

 

[smartpill]

Ok, so it sounds really terrible for me. I like submission in bed since I remember. I usually tell them that I like feet or being dominated like she is on the top and they agree and they do that.

 

[soulforge]

Ok, so it sounds really terrible for me. I like submission in bed since I remember. I usually tell them that I like feet or being dominated like she is on the top and they agree and they do that.

You raised by a single mom?

 

[smartpill]

Nope, nothing unusual in the childhood.

 

[zekko]

Ehh...submission in bed is a turnoff for 90% of women. I mean these are the dudes getting pegged and otherwise dominated by her.

Ok, so it sounds really terrible for me. I like submission in bed since I remember. I usually tell them that I like feet or being dominated like she is on the top and they agree and they do that.

Well, I guess there's always that 10%.
Have you noticed any difference in the way these women treat you after they play out your fantasy?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well, I guess there's always that 10%.
Have you noticed any difference in the way these women treat you after they play out your fantasy?

For me it would never happen. Those are the ones I like the best because they are challenging my dominance like another male wolf coming in trying to take over the pack.

They get grudge fvcked into submission until they can't move, can't speak and are a quivering, soaked mess lying on the bed. They get their ass spanked so hard and so frequently over and over again in the same spot they have handprints for days. They get their hair pulled forcefully to put them in the position I want them in and they are told to not move and just take it. They are turned around and fvcked hard in the ass with no warning and no lube and told they are going to learn their lesson today and as it's happening I ask them if they like being taught a lesson and almost always they say they love it or to fvck them harder or something of the sort.

None of them have never challenged me in that way and all of them have absolutely loved being dominated in that way

 

[zekko]

For me it would never happen. Those are the ones I like the best because they are challenging my dominance like another male wolf coming in trying to take over the pack.

Reminds me of a video I saw the other day. It was a couple on YouTube and somehow the guy got asked if he wanted to be dominant or submissive in bed. And he basically said he mostly liked being dominant but once in awhile her being dominant was kind of hot. I think you have a certain group of people who like to switch every now and then. I would bet most of the girls who are usually dominant like to switch off now and then.

But for the OP, I bet there are a lot of submissive girls who would like to switch off also. I do wonder what a man playing the submissive does for attraction though. Maybe it depends on just how submissive we're talking - there are levels to this stuff - and also how often. I would guess most girls prefer being submissive about 90% of the time, or more.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I love how some guys think they can take the submissive role with their GF/wife without her losing respect for him indefinitely. It's even funnier when they think that your roles in and out of the bedroom are somehow seperate. If you want to be an alpha in bed you have to be also be one outside of it. If you don't want to be the alpha in bed you cannot ever expect to be one outside of it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Lol I dont even let them pick the position most of the times.

Not my intention to mock anyone, to each his own but I just dont see how having an emotional, problematic, drama producing machine in charge of your deep intimacy could be anything but stress.

Anyway again with the consensus here when it comes of women being turned off from submissive men.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I enjoy having a chick ride me, of course I fack them hard from below, but sometimes I let them just ride away, hold their hips and move them while she does it, gets them off almost instantly.

As a man you lead all interactions - you determine what’s happening not her.

For me I do it to make sure they understand that I am allowing her to do it by showing her I can make her O on demand. Sometimes I just want to chill a bit, pounding the hell out of a chick can deplete your ATP fairly quickly if you’re going hard, so a 10 minute break for her to ride is acceptable.

Sometimes they like to try to hold my wrists over my head and I’ll allow it for a brief second when I grab theirs and yank them down to kiss me as they fall on my chest. It’s ok to allow it for a bit, as long as she understands you’re allowing it to occur and it’s your pleasure.

Yes hand on throat, ass slapping hard enough to leave a mark - I enjoy doing it just as they begin to O, works great. Push them down onto their faces while behind her. If in mish turn her head and put the palm of your hand on her cheek and apply pressure so it feels like you’re forcing yourself on her, from behind push her face into the mattress. Pull hair, hold her arse open while you stroke hard and deep, they love it when your lower abs slam into their groin and upper girly parts.

Even the “strongest” women - the ball busters love being tacked to within an inch of their lives.

I love getting that first text after a first encounter that says “I’m sore, I’m reminded of your relentless c@ck pounding me every time I pee”.

 

[smartpill]

Ok, so... the conclusion is: you cannot be submissive in bed. It's not attractive for women, focus on growing dominating part and k^ll this submissive part inside and don't fantasy about being dominated by a woman anymore. Is that correct? Looks like a lot of work for me because I think it's coded in my brain as something rousing, but I believe it's possible to erradicate this.

 

[Stanley]

Do whatever the f**k you want dude... An 'Alpha' guy isn't gonna tear himself up over one of his sex preferences.

Care less about what others say in regards to what you should or shouldn't enjoy in the bedroom. In a general sense? I agree that you should often lead since most women like that, but there's more nuance to it. People like different things and like to try new things in the bedroom.

Go get your rocks off

 

[member162951]

This thread prompted me to do some research online and it might surprise you to learn how many otherwise masculine/alpha guys are into this!

Below is a post from one such man, but there were tons of others, I didn't have time to read them all.

Despite what's been posted here, which is a small subset of the male population, apparently it is not uncommon, and there were posts from women as well who said they enjoy it too! Taking the sexually dominant role.

It's not my cuppa tea either gentleman but nonetheless there is no right or wrong, no 'one right way' for two people to behave in the bedroom, they can switch things up, role play, whatever strikes their particular fancy.

Anyway below is the post I referred to. Like I said, there were many others. This is from Quora.com, which is a legit site.
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There are many reasons why I love female dominance.

First, I find it incredibly hot when a woman is in control.

There is something about seeing a woman take charge that really turns me on.

Second, I love the way that female domination can make a man feel.

When a woman dominates me, I feel completely submissive and helpless.

It's an amazing feeling to be completely under a woman's control.

Finally, I just enjoy the power dynamic of female domination.

I love being dominated by a strong and powerful woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to take it from me.
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To each their own guys, live and let live and all that.

@smartpill do what makes you happy.

 

[soulforge]

I can't do the submissive thing in the bedroom.

Turns me off when a girl tries to take the lead.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Ok, so it sounds really terrible for me. I like submission in bed since I remember. I usually tell them that I like feet or being dominated like she is on the top and they agree and they do that.

You sure you're not gay?

 

[Millard Fillmore]

With strong frame you can do whatever tf you want. A guy who acts "alpha" because he's afraid of what he wants has already lost the battle bc he's incongruent and deriving value from another party. A lot of men live lives of quiet desperation.