Strong urge to cut contact with People who start the slightest disrespect

[OngBak]

Im referring to things that are common sense and should not happen, so to say unsaid rules. Once it happens, I check and set a boundary, if it happens again im gone for good. Im not the type of guy that tolerates that shvt, helped me to have peace in my life but I also noticed that you have to cut off many People , Men or woman and it makes having good relationships happening absolutely rare.

Is it just me or are People nowadays really lacking common sense?

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I would leave any girl if she made a comment I didn't like. Just recently I had to go up that road and I will die on that hill.

I only got 2 solid friends on this earth and we know better than to take stabs in the dark and fleet around nonsense.

any other people who I sense fake fvckery, condescending disrespect and who are just culturally lacking then I cut them off real quick.
They won’t even know what hit em.
These types of people, their tendencies for insidious behavior are only slightly smaller than their tendencies to be narcissistic.

I don't need the drama of human subjectivity in my life right now.

 

[logicallefty]

Nothing wrong with cutting people out. I have found my life to be far more fulfilling after cutting out toxic people. If people are energy vampires to you, get them out. It may be difficult at first but you will be happier in the end.

 

[sevbucmash]

it makes having good relationships happening absolutely rare

If you going to cut everyone off out of your life, you will end up one lonely man, with no connections.

Each person is different, mainly personality. So you have to maneuver around them. You don't cut them off, you still keep contact, or open when they contact you, but they are not that close to you. You don't cut them off completely

 

[Stanley]

Sure...Cut out toxic people, but if you are viewing everyone as lacking common sense that is your own bias clouding your judgement. In fact, you are likely being too judgemental from the onset and are engaging in cognitive distortions.

You ever reflect and think to yourself maybe you are the issue? Maybe you are the a**hole? I am not saying you are and I had a phase like what you describe, but in time I realized I had my part in the dynamic as well and when you start hacking away at relationships left in right you will be alone, people will think you are a d**k and you lose social networks.

A vastly better option is to put a healthy distance between people you don't synergize with anymore and remain cordial if you cross paths.

If someone is genuinely bad for your well being and drains you then by all means pull the plug, but generally speaking... These people are rare and often times you simply outgrew a shoe that used to fit. Doesn't mean you are better or worse than them, but simply no longer the right size for one another.

Keep in mind though...

"If everywhere you go it smells like s**t, maybe it's time to check your own shoes."​

 

[OngBak]

Sure...Cut out toxic people, but if you are viewing everyone as lacking common sense that is your own bias clouding your judgement. In fact, you are likely being too judgemental from the onset and are engaging in cognitive distortions.

You ever reflect and think to yourself maybe you are the issue? Maybe you are the a**hole? I am not saying you are and I had a phase like what you describe, but in time I realized I had my part in the dynamic as well and when you start hacking away at relationships left in right you will be alone, people will think you are a d**k and you lose social networks.

A vastly better option is to put a healthy distance between people you don't synergize with anymore and remain cordial if you cross paths.

If someone is genuinely bad for your well being and drains you then by all means pull the plug, but generally speaking... These people are rare and often times you simply outgrew a shoe that used to fit. Doesn't mean you are better or worse than them, but simply no longer the right size for one another.

Keep in mind though...

"If everywhere you go it smells like s**t, maybe it's time to check your own shoes."​

These People are not rare, dont know where you get this from. Im also not alone, I have few friends Im very well with, the point is that finding the right People can be hard in this World of low value People. Winners and losers both share different mindsets, there are more losers then winners, this is a fact so saying that it is rare doesnt make sense at all. I do self-reflect every day and when I look at your post, its very clear that you are projecting in some aspects, in fact you are being judgmentful trying to make it look like you arent.

My question was a rhetorical question, most People indeed lack commonsense and its definitely not me. Take off your rose pink glasses and see reallity for what it really is, a sheep heard of Beta Males

 

[OngBak]

It's you.

People have been lacking common sense for decades.

You lack commonsense as well, remembering your post for not caring about Pornhub turning People Gay and Trans. Ever thought about that also your loving ones like children and family would be involved in that shvt? Good People try to minimize these inhuman things so People dont get manipulated and brainwashed into their Agenda of staying weak. You clearly showed your true face with that, that you are one of the People who lack common sense and will always be lonely and alone in their life, you said it yourself - I will never marry again, what a sad old men you are

 

[soulforge]

I don't know.. What would you consider as disrespect?

Me personally, if it's a girlfriend who is displaying disrespect or toxic behaviours then I would cut her off, as he behaviour is likely to have a big impact to my life in a negative way.

As for colleagues or friends/family I would have to make an accesment of the level of disrespect and maybe just keep them at a arms length.

I have a friend who is like this, has a big ego, ends up saying the wrong things.. I still talk to him at work, but no longer invite him to events or social gatherings.

Friends from a distance

 

[SW15]

Is it just me or are People nowadays really lacking common sense?

It's not you. People's behavior has gotten worse over my lifetime. I'm 40 years old.

You can't control the behavior of others but you can control how you react to it.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

If you going to cut everyone off out of your life, you will end up one lonely man, with no connections.

Each person is different, mainly personality. So you have to maneuver around them. You don't cut them off, you still keep contact, or open when they contact you, but they are not that close to you. You don't cut them off completely

old money advice ^. Last night, I had a misunderstanding with a business partner overseas in HK. Nothing that a 30min phone call couldn’t put us right back in the fold. I didn’t want to nuke that bridge and he didn’t neither. Your connections must be fluid to a degree. status is king for attracting women as well let’s not forget.
If it’s not about the green, then putting in circular motion law #16 is a viable option at times.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Depends if you are one of these people who try to look for disrespect all the time. If so, no wonder you seem to always find it.

 

[Solomon]

Im referring to things that are common sense and should not happen, so to say unsaid rules. Once it happens, I check and set a boundary, if it happens again im gone for good. Im not the type of guy that tolerates that shvt, helped me to have peace in my life but I also noticed that you have to cut off many People , Men or woman and it makes having good relationships happening absolutely rare.

Is it just me or are People nowadays really lacking common sense?

Honestly, it depends on the disrespect, If it's something that keeps happening than I have no problem cutting ties.
I consider friendship a sacred thing, loyalty is something that is rarer then finding diamonds to me
If we are truly friends even if we have a misunderstanding we can fix it
But 80% of people are not worthy of my friendship because once again it's a sacred thing