"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Stopped working out for 3 months

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Everything has taken its toll and I’m out of my solid routine. Been too busy/focused on other things.

The good thing is when I look at myself in the mirror, I’m still happy. I’ve built up a solid foundation and even though I feel smaller/less swole, I still look good in tight t shirts.

My protein intake fell off a cliff and I forgot what it was like to be so regimented, documenting everything in excel from sets, reps, wi eight, protein, creatine. I need to get it together, I’ve just been so busy/exhausted.

So important to work out and be in shape.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ricky

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Everything has taken its toll and I’m out of my solid routine. Been too busy/focused on other things.

The good thing is when I look at myself in the mirror, I’m still happy. I’ve built up a solid foundation and even though I feel smaller/less swole, I still look good in tight t shirts.

My protein intake fell off a cliff and I forgot what it was like to be so regimented, documenting everything in excel from sets, reps, wi eight, protein, creatine. I need to get it together, I’ve just been so busy/exhausted.

So important to work out and be in shape.
dont worry just get back and start back slowly

You can build it back up again
 

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Everything has taken its toll and I’m out of my solid routine. Been too busy/focused on other things.

The good thing is when I look at myself in the mirror, I’m still happy. I’ve built up a solid foundation and even though I feel smaller/less swole, I still look good in tight t shirts.

My protein intake fell off a cliff and I forgot what it was like to be so regimented, documenting everything in excel from sets, reps, wi eight, protein, creatine. I need to get it together, I’ve just been so busy/exhausted.

So important to work out and be in shape.
You might be getting in your own way more than those other things. The easiest way for you to get your health and fitness back on track is to cut yourself some slack and let go of the perfectionism. Something tells me that you haven't been to the gym because you haven't had time to put together the right routine, the right diet, set your goals and map them out in Excel. Do that crap later. Just go to the gym. Once you're there, workout. Figure all that other noise out later or as you go. You'll feel better immediately. Discipline weighs ounces, but regret weighs tons. If you make health and fitness a big deal it's always going to weigh on you. And as a perfectionist, if you can't do it right, you just won't do it at all. Working out and eating correctly should be about as important as brushing your teeth 2-3 times a day. It's just part of your day and what you do. It's no big deal. That is unless you don't do it on a regular bases. There is no need to feel like you have to rearrange your whole life for something like brushing your teeth. Same with getting your gym time in.
 

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You might be getting in your own way more than those other things. The easiest way for you to get your health and fitness back on track is to cut yourself some slack and let go of the perfectionism. Something tells me that you haven't been to the gym because you haven't had time to put together the right routine, the right diet, set your goals and map them out in Excel. Do that crap later. Just go to the gym. Once you're there, workout. Figure all that other noise out later or as you go. You'll feel better immediately. Discipline weighs ounces, but regret weighs tons. If you make health and fitness a big deal it's always going to weigh on you. And as a perfectionist, if you can't do it right, you just won't do it at all. Working out and eating correctly should be about as important as brushing your teeth 2-3 times a day. It's just part of your day and what you do. It's no big deal. That is unless you don't do it on a regular bases. There is no need to feel like you have to rearrange your whole life for something like brushing your teeth. Same with getting your gym time in.
Agree with this. Sometimes I fall into this trap too. Last year I gained 40 lbs over the winter because I fell off the wagon and stopped working out and then stopped eating properly. Not this time...maintaining focus and discipline to ensure I stay within a few lbs of my summer weight, if not lower to make it easier to get to the final product in May.

My problem is I am either 100% in or 100% out...I don't have a 50% or 75% zone. Usually it works OK but when stuff comes up and I have to dial it down, the dial goes to 0.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Usually I’ll start feeling like crap after missing 2 weeks working out…….a week if I start eating crap.
 
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