Invites me out often, sleeps with me on my bed to cuddle, gives me hickeys, but won't kiss me on the lips?

[mrmars]

Seeing a cute iranian girl in London where I live at the moment but the above is happening

I also feel an underlying instinctual sense that she's into me at least her 'girly brain', makes the noises, does the smiles, blushes.

Why is she fighting something, I feel she is resisting something (I could be wrong) but she also doesn't make out with me but everything else is pretty much allowed.

Some additional information that may be relevant is that I ****ed one of her besties before I knew her, they were very close at uni. Sorry that I typed this very cryptically I am rushing...

 

[mrmars]

How stanky is your breath?

nothing to do with that I have perfect teeth and breath, regular hygenist visits, I'm a bit of a health freak!

 

[mrmars]

the only weird indication directly relating to this that she spewed out once was when she was drinking with me and got very drunk, she called me a slut or something and one of her friends told me that she doesn't like being second best or some **** like that..

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Was she born and raised in Iran? This is an important data point.
Your nationality and ethnicity?
Both of your ages?

Seeing a cute iranian girl in London where I live at the moment but the above is happening

I also feel an underlying instinctual sense that she's into me at least her 'girly brain', makes the noises, does the smiles, blushes.

Why is she fighting something, I feel she is resisting something (I could be wrong) but she also doesn't make out with me but everything else is pretty much allowed.

Some additional information that may be relevant is that I ****ed one of her besties before I knew her, they were very close at uni. Sorry that I typed this very cryptically I am rushing...

 

[mrmars]

Was she born and raised in Iran? This is an important data point.
Your nationality and ethnicity?
Both of your ages?

Her family are immigrants in the UK she was the first generation born in London, I would definitely define her personality as brought up with traditional iranian values but with the rebellious influence of the UK I am british nationality but spanish ethnicity. Me 25 her 23

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

She is potentially a virgin, if brought up in a strict Persian home.

She knows her parents want her to marry a Persian bloke, and she isn’t going to give up the v-card to anyone but her hubs.

What is your intent towards her?

 

[mrmars]

She is potentially a virgin, if brought up in a strict Persian home.

She knows her parents want her to marry a Persian bloke, and she isn’t going to give up the v-card to anyone but her hubs.

What is your intent towards her?

fuq

 

[mrmars]

I used to have sex with this muslim girl who was betrothed to some guy in her own country. No PIV intercourse, but anal and oral, because she had to remain a virgin. She enjoyed fellatio and irrumatio but not French kissing, because that was 'too intimate' and she was afraid she'd fall in love with me. She craved rough sex, because she expected gentle intimacy from her future husband.

this sounds about right relating to the girl in question

 

[CornbreadFed]

You aren’t the only guy

 

[CornbreadFed]

O

Duh... Doesn't take away from me wanting my D sucked

The fact that you put effort to make a topic crying about her shows your real feelings towards this girl.

 

[mrmars]

The fact that you put effort to make a topic crying about her shows your real feelings towards this girl.

Sometimes passion for sex can be a strong feeling my friend it's ok if you don't believe me

 

[CornbreadFed]

Sometimes passion for sex can be a strong feeling my friend it's ok if you don't believe me

Bro you got a scarcity mindset, you aren't exceptional.

 

[mrmars]

Haha you're right man! Thanks for your help

 

[CornbreadFed]

Haha you're right man! Thanks for your help

TBH, I would just call her straight out on it and get her answer on it. If it is some BS then I would drop her because you have way more feelings for her than she does for you which puts you in the losing position of this relationship.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I used to have sex with this muslim girl who was betrothed to some guy in her own country. No PIV intercourse, but anal and oral, because she had to remain a virgin. She enjoyed fellatio and irrumatio but not French kissing, because that was 'too intimate' and she was afraid she'd fall in love with me. She craved rough sex, because she expected gentle intimacy from her future husband.

This is why I laugh hard at the "she has to be a virgin" trope.

 

[CornbreadFed]

This is why I laugh hard at the "she has to be a virgin" trope.

Be nice, he's a newbie

 

[mrmars]

Ok I'm just going to say my bit which I have a feeling you're just going to reject anyway because it's not conventional. She is not the only girl in my life at the moment, she is one of. Ok granted the other girls I'm seeing are more eager than this Iranian girl, but this doesn't mean that I'm obsessed or infatuated by this girl I am actually wanting to understand what it means by her not wanting to kiss me specifically. I already knows her feelings towards me as I have many friends who are also her friends. This is just the first time in my life I've had this happen to me. Ok, maybe a bit of ego and narcissism on my end like "omg she doesn't want to kiss but every other girl I ever had wanted it". I'm here to gain knowledge from your experience not to quarrel

 

[mrmars]

The thing that she has hinted at the most so far (usually when she's drunk) is that she keeps saying I'm very promiscuous and dirty she even once rejected me leaning in and said do you have herpes? Lol weirdly, later thay night she was all over me dancing and giving my neck kisses

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Be nice, he's a newbie

Wasn't ripping him, the guy knows his sh*t

 

[Barrister]

How traditional is her family? I think @Pierce.Manhammer is right you may be dealing with some cultural blockades here.

Probably not what it is, but I have had some girls who have STDs do weird pull backs before. If she felt like she may have a herpes outbreak coming on it may explain why she was avoiding your lips.