How to handle girl being approached by “friends”

[anour]

DJ’s

Yesterday there was a music bingo event, i met this chick who’s a 7. We hit it off, we’re having fun. Later in the night, some random guy approaches the girl and apparently they know each other already, they met once before at some random gathering. Guy does small talk about parties, tells her i just came to say hi, he then leaves. He musters up some courage and comes back again and tells her he is volunteering at this event and that she should check it out and asks for her instagram and tells her to text him if she’s going to the event. While all of this is happening i just stayed non-reactive.
However i don’t feel that that was the right course of action, i should’ve given him my instagram and told him we’ll hit you up if we go or atleast said i’ve wanted to do that event too i wanna join.

What do y’all think?

 

[Bokanovsky]

However i don’t feel that that was the right course of action, i should’ve given him my instagram and told him we’ll hit you up if we go or atleast said i’ve wanted to do that event too i wanna join.

What do y’all think?

You should have told him that you liked his shirt and then asked if he wanted to meet for drinks sometime.

 

[anour]

You should have told him that you liked his shirt and then asked if he wanted to meet for drinks sometime.

And what does that accomplish?

 

[anour]

@Learning Curve @Dr.Suave @Gamisch @We_ArE_VeNOM @Serenity @BackInTheGame78 @NoFear @stringpuller @Giovanni SouthSide

 

[Bokanovsky]

And what does that accomplish?

The best way to respond to someone trying to inject himself into your conversation with a girl is with some humour.

 

[anour]

The best way to respond to someone trying to inject himself into your conversation with a girl is with some humour.

He started some**** about him becoming an actor. I could’ve replied “i am an astronaut too but only at night” is that amplifying and being humorous?

 

[Learning Curve]

DJ’s

Yesterday there was a music bingo event, i met this chick who’s a 7. We hit it off, we’re having fun. Later in the night, some random guy approaches the girl and apparently they know each other already, they met once before at some random gathering. Guy does small talk about parties, tells her i just came to say hi, he then leaves. He musters up some courage and comes back again and tells her he is volunteering at this event and that she should check it out and asks for her instagram and tells her to text him if she’s going to the event. While all of this is happening i just stayed non-reactive.
However i don’t feel that that was the right course of action, i should’ve given him my instagram and told him we’ll hit you up if we go or atleast said i’ve wanted to do that event too i wanna join.

What do y’all think?

This is called the classic c0ck-block analogy.

So you are with a girl and another comes in and tries to seduce her in front of you. So what is the right course of action?

There are many variables that come into play.

Non-reactive usually is the best course of action.

My question to you is why you did not drag her and switch places while the guy left for the first time?

You should have moved from where ever you are to another area of that place, or to another place. Also, grabbing a phone number and moving on is another prime example of not staying there while another guy talks to her as this looks weak from your side.

You took too much time to make things happen.

Take the lead always, don't wait. Tell her "Let's grab a drink over here" since she is investing and you are having fun. Move her away from other guys that may re-approach, this creates a sense of attraction for the woman when she feels you lead the way.

 

[anour]

This is called the classic c0ck-block analogy.

So you are with a girl and another comes in and tries to seduce her in front of you. So what is the right course of action?

There are many variables that come into play.

Non-reactive usually is the best course of action.

My question to you is why you did not drag her and switch places while the guy left for the first time?

You should have moved from where ever you are to another area of that place, or to another place. Also, grabbing a phone number and moving on is another prime example of not staying there while another guy talks to her as this looks weak from your side.

You took too much time to make things happen.

Take the lead always, don't wait. Tell her "Let's grab a drink over here" since she is investing and you are having fun. Move her away from other guys that may re-approach, this creates a sense of attraction for the woman when she feels you lead the way.

What do you mean by the underlined sentence?

The leading part is an eye opener, thank you. Sometimes i hesitate leading tbh feeling she’d reject it. Do you have tips in overcoming that anxiety?

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

DJ’s

Yesterday there was a music bingo event, i met this chick who’s a 7. We hit it off, we’re having fun. Later in the night, some random guy approaches the girl and apparently they know each other already, they met once before at some random gathering. Guy does small talk about parties, tells her i just came to say hi, he then leaves. He musters up some courage and comes back again and tells her he is volunteering at this event and that she should check it out and asks for her instagram and tells her to text him if she’s going to the event. While all of this is happening i just stayed non-reactive.
However i don’t feel that that was the right course of action, i should’ve given him my instagram and told him we’ll hit you up if we go or atleast said i’ve wanted to do that event too i wanna join.

What do y’all think?

It's hard to give a spot on advice cause it depends on the people involved.

What I would have done was simply letting it go, if a girl is easly distracted or taken away from such things, it was already a lukewarm connection the one between the two of you.

If she drops the guy or tells him that she is with you that's a good sign that deserves a reward toward her while if she enjoys the entertainment and waste your patience, you better understand that the effort and investment towards her needs to be decreases.

Anyway as I say it all depends on the people, I'm a distant person generally while others men and burning with jealousy and need to perform.

Given my average at best libido, the desire for sex comes way after the desire for peace so drama of any kind is a deal breaker.

 

[anour]

If you say that and I'm the other guy, I'll say "oh damn your boyfriend is getting jealous, hit me up when you're not with him *wink*" And right there your fake confidence gets destroyed.




That's called mate guarding and it reeks as desperation, his course of action is... Nothing, get her to have fun and escalate, if she likes him, she will blow the guy off. Didn't you read the Book of Pook? A true DJ's virtue is patience.

If she stayed with the other guy talking ignoring him, then the writings are on the wall or a $hit test to see how desperate he is for puzzy, he excuses himself and leaves. $hit test passed or not enough interest from her, either way you win.

Btw the chick has a bf but i feel that i can bang her. Pursue or not worth the effort? Why?

 

[CornbreadFed]

This isn't your gf and you just met this girl. SMH

 

[RazorRambo24]

Its mostly just body language and confidence. Dudes be scared to come up to talk to a girl whos with an alpha male. But, moreso than that, alpha males we take charge, we put hands on asses, tongue down throats, arouse women sexually so shes not in the mood for small talk with some random or friend that comes up. Hard to approach and talk to a girl whos got a guy clearly marking his territory.

Next time whisper in her hear like "watch this guy thinks he can pull you, lets see what hes got" and smile and just say "whatup buddy" or something to him. and anything that comes out his mouth after that is gonna fall flat, because he's gonna wonder what you whispered in her ear and why shes smiling/laughing.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

You are just one uncertain dude, aren't you?

@anour

Does your life consist of one big question mark?

My advice..

Get yourself a hotel room for a weekend..or any place of solitude that is away from home.

And while you are there, begin to formulate personal standards, boundaries, and principles that you will not break for anyone.

And let that guide you from here on out.

 

[Learning Curve]

What do you mean by the underlined sentence?

The leading part is an eye opener, thank you. Sometimes i hesitate leading tbh feeling she’d reject it. Do you have tips in overcoming that anxiety?

Yes, if you have all the body language signals just grab her hand and go for it.

The worst part will be she rejects you and you just keep escalating at that moment like nothing happened. But if she is touching you first or bumping into you or any touching in any sense she is ready to go.

 

[Learning Curve]

That's called mate guarding and it reeks as desperation, his course of action is... Nothing, get her to have fun and escalate, if she likes him, she will blow the guy off. Didn't you read the Book of Pook? A true DJ's virtue is patience.

If she stayed with the other guy talking ignoring him, then the writings are on the wall or a $hit test to see how desperate he is for puzzy, he excuses himself and leaves. $hit test passed or not enough interest from her, either way you win.

That's what I said. Patience.

Non-reactive.

And he should have talked to other chicks and left the current opening if she was ignoring him for another guy.

Leave, and go talk to other chicks if she is interested oh trust me she will turn her head and start to look around.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Pull a younger and hotter girl in front of her face

 

[itouchyou]

I wouldn't react. Just observe. If she leaves with him, it's demeaning to her (low class behavior), so let her go. If you react and keep her, you won't know who she really is when left to her own decision making.

 

[BadBoy89]

And what does that accomplish?

It’s more forward than giving your instagram. Men get turned on when other men are direct and to the point.