Should I ask my female coworker out ?

[ticaaa]

Im 33 years old she is 23 , she is very beautiful 5'10 , im 5'8 and pretty fit , we dont talk very much at work but our eyes meet sometimes

One day i asked her for a ride home because we ended our shift very late ( at 3 AM ) , while we were in her car i wanted to ask her out but she started asking me why dont i drive ( i took it as a bad sign and i dropped the asking out plan ) , i told her that im an active person that loves to walk ( i do daily walks of 10 km and 2 hours of weighlifting ) and everywhere i need to go i just walk , if i need to go somewhere too far i just call an ubber

After a couple of days my friend knows that im very attracted to her so he told me that i should just man up and ask her out , and i told him that i just got a bad vibe from her with all that "why dont you drive" stuff , he then said , dont worry im going to give you another chance

When she came into the room he told her "Hey can you take ticaaa for a ride home ? hes too shy to ask you " and she said "Ofc you can ask me any time"

My "stupid" friend then told me "see ? now you have an opportunity to ask her out" and she started laughing

So i went with her yesterday and while were where in the car we started talking more about our lifestyles , she asked me about fasting and why do i do it because i dont look like i need it , she said that she tried it once and i told her the same thing , that she doesnt need because she already look great

I told her that tomorrow im gonna stay in bed all day and im gonna watch house of the dragon with 2 bags of chips and big pepsi and she said that she would have love to see it but she doesnt have HBO max , and i said "that sucks" and after a couple of second we arrived at my place , i want to give her my account to watch it but my friend says that im an idiot

he said that its a great opporunity to ask her to come over and watch it together but i dont know

Now i really am attracted to this girl but im not the type to just hook-up with a woman , i want something that might lead to a relationship and this girl has a kinda flirty behaviour , she likes to smoke those electronic ciggaretes ( i hate them ) , other coworkers constantly hug her and sometimes playfight

What should i do , is my friends correct ? Did she really wanted me to invite her to my place ? i dont have much dating experience

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Yes, I agree with your friend. It was a clear opening when she said she wants to see it but doesn have HboMax. Its cool, you live and you learn.

 

[corrector]

You don't sound like you are compatible (ie she likes to smoke e-cigarettes but you hate them). Just drop it and find someone who you are more compatible with.

 

[ticaaa]

Yes, I agree with your friend. It was a clear opening when she said she wants to see it but doesn have HboMax. Its cool, you live and you learn.

so its too late ask her out now ?

 

[ticaaa]

You don't sound like you are compatible (ie she likes to smoke e-cigarettes but you hate them). Just drop it and find someone who you are more compatible with.

it might be something that i can get used to if she has other good qualities , thats why i would have wanted to get to know her better , but i guess i blew my shot , if my friend is right she probably thought "what an idiot , i gave him the opening and he was too dumb to see it "

 

[Doctor Europeo]

so its too late ask her out now ?

If you already watched the series by yourself, yes. BUT you can ask her to come watch The Flight Attendant, that´s also a Max original if Im not mistaken. If she´s interested in you, you are on bro

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Work is risky. She seems too ambiguous. I wouldn’t ask.

 

[soulforge]

Work is very risky especially when things go South!

 

[ticaaa]

Work is very risky especially when things go South!

well im not gonna rape her or send dirty pictures or messages to her all of a suden
we have couples that got married at my workplace , another couple broke up after 6 years of dating ( she was seeing another coworker ) and now its very awkward when they see eachother

so yeah it can turn into something good but also things can be so bad that you might have to search for a job elsewhere

 

[soulforge]

well im not gonna rape her or send dirty pictures or messages to her all of a suden
we have couples that got married at my workplace , another couple broke up after 6 years of dating ( she was seeing another coworker ) and now its very awkward when they see eachother

so yeah it can turn into something good but also things can be so bad that you might have to search for a job elsewhere

Or your break up ends up really bad, and she makes a crazy allegation against you.

 

[ticaaa]

Or your break up ends up really bad, and she makes a crazy allegation against you.

not in my country , i know that in country like US you can get screwed really bad from a false allegation but in Romania thats not how things work , here corruption is so high that people that actually raped didnt go to jail

 

[corrector]

it might be something that i can get used to if she has other good qualities , thats why i would have wanted to get to know her better , but i guess i blew my shot , if my friend is right she probably thought "what an idiot , i gave him the opening and he was too dumb to see it "

When the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over and you start getting into adjustments/fights down the road, then believe me, the e-cigarette thing will be weighing heavily at that time. You are trying to rationalize this incompatibility because you are thirsty, and while it might be true at the beginning about something you could get used to, that will wear out once the novelty of her runs out a few months later.

 

[soulforge]

not in my country , i know that in country like US you can get screwed really bad from a false allegation but in Romania thats not how things work , here corruption is so high that people that actually raped didnt go to jail

And those who didn't grape also went to jail.. Andrew Tate

 

[ticaaa]

When the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over and you start getting into adjustments/fights down the road, then believe me, the e-cigarette thing will be weighing heavily at that time. You are trying to rationalize this incompatibility because you are thirsty, and while it might be true at the beginning about something you could get used to, that will wear out once the novelty of her runs out a few months later.

that does make sense

 

[ticaaa]

And those who didn't grape also went to jail.. Andrew Tate

i dont want to sound like a conspiracy theorist but the thing with andrew tate is much more than they show on tv , i think that he raised up too fast , he should have contribued with money to certain people/organizations , he didnt because he thought he was too high to be put down and they showed him that he isnt

still he didnt do as much jail time as an ordinary person

 

[Learning Curve]

Dude you are 33.

You act like a little virgin kid.

You are the one with the p3nis. Ask her out already. You had two opportunities with her and you in the same car.

She told you about wanting to see also the series, invite her over or for drinks. Why you are overthinking so much?

What's the worst thing that can happen? her saying no?

You need to step up your frame and your game.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Don’t shvt where you eat.

 

[Gamisch]

Don’t shvt where you eat.

Especially if you don't know what you're doing.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are shorter than her. Good luck.

 

[IKO69]

No, you shouldn't. Take it from me, a person who had sex with a coworker before. She was the one that came onto me, she found me handsome or whatever. It went on for a few months but I got incredibly lucky and she left the company a few months after started hooking up - you could say it was an in incredibly stupid decision on my part but I indeed got lucky. I had seen where other guys (this was before I had sex with her) took their shot, got rejected and it strained things completely. By that I mean they never really talked again even though worked next to each other / there was a mixture of awkwardness and animosity.

That's best case scenario. in the worst cases HR becomes involved and you are potentially out the door and out of job. If you're smart you will value your job - sure have great relations with your coworkers. I've ****ed a few others after they left or I left the company. You don't have to sacrifice your job for some *****.