Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah a friend of mine mentioned a few of those, even the alligator. Also some place called Cafe Du mondecafe Beignet. Jackson Square. French Quarter. Cemetery. Aquarium. Hurricanes. Dixie Blackened Voodoo Lager. Red beans & rice. Pirate house. Jazz. Mississippi River tour. Swamp boat. Alligator.
Go out late at night into the bayous and look for a Rougarou

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

I'm back home now, but I'm rallying some guys to go there over the summer. I tried to get to the WW2 museum, but couldn't find the time (and it costs minimum 40 bucks!) I think I stumbled into the lower 9th ward while trying to get to musicians village, can't say for sure since it was nighttime and I was boozing.The Port of Call restaurant on Esplanade & Dauphine; make sure to get its famous c0cktail the Neptune Monsoon. Also the Rock 'N' Bowl on South Carrollton. And the World War II Museum. The Lower 9th Ward and adjacent St. Bernard Parish, which was Ground Zero for Hurricane Katrina (yes, it's all cleaned up now, but you can see the jack-o-lattern effect of so many houses gone). And Oak Alley & Whitney plantations up the river, the latter of which has this art exhibit:![]()
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The Musician's Village is in the Upper 9th Ward (the Industrial Canal divides the ward); while it got some flooding, it was nothing like the +12' NGVT flood in the Lower (where a lot of houses were negative NGVT).I'm back home now, but I'm rallying some guys to go there over the summer. I tried to get to the WW2 museum, but couldn't find the time (and it costs minimum 40 bucks!) I think I stumbled into the lower 9th ward while trying to get to musicians village, can't say for sure since it was nighttime and I was boozing.
I'll be sure to check it out once I go back. There are a few other spots I wanted to see, but trekking mostly solo to a lot of places was a bit daunting.The Musician's Village is in the Upper 9th Ward (the Industrial Canal divides the ward); while it got some flooding, it was nothing like the +12' NGVT flood in the Lower (where a lot of houses were negative NGVT).