"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Performance Anxiety solution

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So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yea intermittently and especially if i am about to lay an 8+ where the expectation is you have to perform or die

The short answer is just grab some viagra or cialis on a low dosage and load up 30 mins before you need to do the deed

Obviously this isn't a long term solution but in the past ive found once i am a bit more connected and emotionally secure with the female i tend to be fine anyway

Just use viagra for the first couple of sessions give her a good seeing too and then once you two are more "in tune" the errections should come along by themselves


I think at the core Porn is a massive problem for male libido , your brain is seeing all these guys doing crazy sh1t to multiple women of all shapes and sizes

then when you actually get the real thing it's almost boring and a bit "meh"

Society is fvcked
 

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So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.
It's only happened a few times and usually due to me working out too hard at the gym that day.

Personally, I never worry if I am going to be able to perform, I go in with a mindset of this woman is about to get rocked in a way she never experienced before. Perhaps shift your mindset.
 

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alcohol, ironically. Making sure the temperature in the room is warm. Avoiding having sex when tired.
I found alcohol either lets me **** like a pornstar, or not at all. There's no in between.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Pop 50-100mg of viagra, bam done. If you want to step it up further you can also take Citrulline/Arginine/Yohimbine but it's overkill. Alternatively, you can take cialis which is objectively the best of the PDE-5 inhibitors.

Yes, it's not addressing the "root issue" but idgaf, it works, and they're the closest thing to miracle drugs. Plus, there is new evidence showing other unexpected benefits of PDE-5 inhibitors, cialis in particular.

As far as mentality goes - I find it extremely helpful to be in the mindset of doing whatever I like, rather than trying to please her. If you're not very turned on, it's either her fault or you two aren't sexually compatible. Stop putting all the emphasis on her.

This is counter intuitive but what turns women on is when you don't care what they want...of course still pay attention to how she feels and if she says "right there" don't you dare stop, but ultimately it helps to use treat her body like a living **** doll. Last thing, long & slow foreplay and dirty talk helps too. I for one love playing with their tits a lot (sucking, squeezing, etc) and fingering. Ideally when you actually fvck her she'll be begging for it.
 
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So I get Performance Anxiety from time to time when I am naked with a girl and about to f*ck. I was wondering if anyone else who has faced this has ever found a way to fix it for good. It is so inconsistent and on and off for me too.
It depends on how the anxiety is effecting you. Are you having problems getting an erection or are you getting an erection and cumming too fast?
 

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First thing that comes to mind is some type of viagra. This should be part of a DJ's standard toolkit. I used to have a plate that brought that pill with her when she visited me.

Another thing that might work is more and longer foreplay. Instead if rushing to feck her you make sure she gets you rockhard first. Let her strip. Figure out what makes YOU rockhard and let her do that. Maybe you prefer certain positions. E.g I prefer to feck doggy rather than having her riding on top of me. Doggy I can enter soft and get hard while doing so. Some positions I can't keep it up somehow, so i avoid those positions when possible.

Maybe you like certain outfits, roleplay or whatever rocks your boat. Sexuality is a complex thing, and through trail and error you'll find your preference.

Don't forget that women love to suck ****. Its basically the first method trying to keep things up. You could also focus on her body more to take your time to get hard. If you cannot get , or keep it up you can at least dominate her body with your mouth and hands. She'll return the favor with a long bj. If that doesnt get you hard, you should simply vist a doctor asap. There are tons of erection enhancement pills available. Why suffer while there are many so many options.

Keeping frame around a woman is important, no matter what happens. You will find your solution , there are plenty out there.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First thing that comes to mind is some type of viagra. This should be part of a DJ's standard toolkit. I used to have a plate that brought that pill with her when she visited me.

Another thing that might work is more and longer foreplay. Instead if rushing to feck her you make sure she gets you rockhard first. Let her strip. Figure out what makes YOU rockhard and let her do that. Maybe you prefer certain positions. E.g I prefer to feck doggy rather than having her riding on top of me. Doggy I can enter soft and get hard while doing so. Some positions I can't keep it up somehow, so i avoid those positions when possible.

Maybe you like certain outfits, roleplay or whatever rocks your boat. Sexuality is a complex thing, and through trail and error you'll find your preference.

Don't forget that women love to suck ****. Its basically the first method trying to keep things up. You could also focus on her body more to take your time to get hard. If you cannot get , or keep it up you can at least dominate her body with your mouth and hands. She'll return the favor with a long bj. If that doesnt get you hard, you should simply vist a doctor asap. There are tons of erection enhancement pills available. Why suffer while there are many so many options.

Keeping frame around a woman is important, no matter what happens. You will find your solution , there are plenty out there.
I would add to this, that the woman, or women you're dealing with also have a complex sexuality. If you dig deeper you might find out that the actual penetration isn't the most important thing for all women. Again, you can always give a woman a orgasmic experience with your hands and mouth as a last resort.

I know this doesn't necessarily helps to get you hard. But part of this anxiety is a form of insecurity and worry you don't "bring enough". If you figure out what one of her kinks is you might feel more confident when you are actually with her in the bedroom. Few examples to help you out; maybe she likes to get choked. Or slapped. Spanked. Roleplay. Certain places. Specific positions. Maybe she wants you to call her names. P0rn on the background .Maybe she likes to get tied up. The list goes on and on. Know your way around sextoys. All possible replacements for when your D aint working. If you manage to figure out more about her sexuality, you will be able to give her a better experience and thus you'll be more confident.


And ofcourse no (excessive) fapping..just remember to stay calm and relax whenever this happens. No need to mansplain yourself. Keep trying. If nothing works, next step, medication.
 
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Aside from Cialis, get a blood check by a TRT specialist. You’ll find out where your numbers are and it could be a combo of reasons.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I’ve heard quite the opposite.
This isn't about hearing stuff and people's attempted self diagnosis. I am talking about what research and studies say. Testosterone rarely is the cause of ED.

Most commonly either psychological, heart related(ie, clogged arteries...ED is a warning your capillaries are being clogged prior to your arteries), excessive/intense exercise related or estrogen dominance which is usually a sign of progesterone:estrogen ratio being too far tilted towards estrogen.
 

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Just use Cialis. It's fun and it just works.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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