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if getting chicks is as exhausting as this i want no part in it

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The idea expressed by the first poster is not uncommon. When men make statements similar to that one, it is indicative of either have a strong "Pleasure of Sex" inclination from the framework below or someone that is a beta male. It can be difficult to tell the difference between a man with a strong "Pleasure of Sex" inclination from that of a beta. The difference would come down to Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 -- Frame.

There are plenty of men who use game long enough to get a long term girlfriend. Some of the men remain grounded in basic red pill type principles whereas others backslide into beta behavior.
It can be a slippery slope/blurry line. A few mistakes here and there and the girl loses attraction. Her interest level starts to decrease.

I guess that´s the difference between relationships that work out and the ones that dont.
 
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Maybe so, but bad formative experiences can make a scarcity mentality difficult to shake, even many years later. It's similar to the way the Depression-era was often neurotic about money for the rest of their lives, even through the years of post-war prosperity.
One of the best things I ever did was take a 2-3 month break from dating after a nasty breakup. It helped clear my mind and get back in to dating without having that butthurt mindset.
 

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You’ll hate it until you love it. Don’t quit before it happens
 

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my chicks are on the covers of magazines. I rarely ever go out and if i do it's not pick up chicks. Tonight I almost went out, but I decided I'd rather smoke cigarettes at home. So you know, intellectually I'd cheat (And they know I'm trying to) but will it pan out-you know, unless this online stuff works out, which means getting matches on facebook dating there's little to no chance
 

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my chicks are on the covers of magazines. I rarely ever go out and if i do it's not pick up chicks. Tonight I almost went out, but I decided I'd rather smoke cigarettes at home. So you know, intellectually I'd cheat (And they know I'm trying to) but will it pan out-you know, unless this online stuff works out, which means getting matches on facebook dating there's little to no chance
Awesome, send us some links to your girls.
 

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Dry spells can be very long though. Mine is about a decade.
Because you don't try lol
@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 Is right. A dry spell of years, or even a decade, is a very long time for a man but there are many easy solutions to this. One, unless you are incredibly unattractive, which I highly doubt, it's not hard to go to a bar and approach some fat and unattractive woman or go hit one up on a dating site or app. Sure, she may not really be what you are looking for, but if your goal is to break the dry spell this is an option. I personally wouldn't be down for something like this but have considered this. Another option is to just hire professionals, it's straight to the point and you can get what you want with no hassle, also can land some hot women this way. Negatives would be that it can be an expensive hobby, potential std exposure and possibly getting scammed or robbed or walking into a sting operation if you walk into something like an idiot.
 

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@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 Is right. A dry spell of years, or even a decade, is a very long time for a man but there are many easy solutions to this. One, unless you are incredibly unattractive, which I highly doubt, it's not hard to go to a bar and approach some fat and unattractive woman or go hit one up on a dating site or app. Sure, she may not really be what you are looking for, but if your goal is to break the dry spell this is an option. I personally wouldn't be down for something like this but have considered this. Another option is to just hire professionals, it's straight to the point and you can get what you want with no hassle, also can land some hot women this way. Negatives would be that it can be an expensive hobby, potential std exposure and possibly getting scammed or robbed or walking into a sting operation if you walk into something like an idiot.
I was rated a 3 on photofeeler, so it's likely that I'm unattractive to the vast majority of women. (A lady offered her name and phone number to me last week, so like I said vast majority is not everyone). When you say incredibily unattractive, I guess you are talking about a 1, however, it would seem like I'm more of 3, but both are still sub-5. Hiring professionals is not a true option with me. I did try it twice and visited three escorts in the space of 24 hours in 2014 and ended up with a nasty spiritual attack which triggered a nervous break-down and put me off track for a solid month (no sex occurred but the exposure with her was enough). I had to rent a hotel for a solid week to chill out. It was so bad, I couldn't fap or even watch porn, it just wasn't the same during that break-down. Even music videos that has a lady vocalist was too intense to look at, and I couldn't watch movies, drink coffee, eat nice food, etc.... it's like I over-taxed a pleasure fuse and my body was reacting by taking away every other pleasure I had and replaced it with torment and dread and worrying if I'd even make it to the next year, 2015.
 

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You think that living your life and having short term relationships is hard?

That's literally the best way to live life.

The key is living first. No showboating, just have a skill that makes money, and be fit. You will come across Girls that are looking for long term, and they will be nice and you will have sex and enjoy each other's company. Maybe you will accidently impregnate her. Unlikely these days. Especially if you are a man that can control his ejaculation, combined with the fact the she is on birth control because she is neurotic about planning this ****.

Don't stare too long into the abyss, for then it will stare back at you.

Also, stop jerking off, and looking at your phone.

Currently I'm seeing a girl that is seriously beautiful in my eyes.

But to most she is ugly.

Literally so close to filling her up.
 
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I was rated a 3 on photofeeler, so it's likely that I'm unattractive to the vast majority of women. (A lady offered her name and phone number to me last week, so like I said vast majority is not everyone). When you say incredibily unattractive, I guess you are talking about a 1, however, it would seem like I'm more of 3, but both are still sub-5. Hiring professionals is not a true option with me. I did try it twice and visited three escorts in the space of 24 hours in 2014 and ended up with a nasty spiritual attack which triggered a nervous break-down and put me off track for a solid month (no sex occurred but the exposure with her was enough). I had to rent a hotel for a solid week to chill out. It was so bad, I couldn't fap or even watch porn, it just wasn't the same during that break-down. Even music videos that has a lady vocalist was too intense to look at, and I couldn't watch movies, drink coffee, eat nice food, etc.... it's like I over-taxed a pleasure fuse and my body was reacting by taking away every other pleasure I had and replaced it with torment and dread and worrying if I'd even make it to the next year, 2015.
Most guys can make themselves a 6-7 with the right effort.
 

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Of course.
You might be an interesting study case. What if I was God or Allah, and I told you in ten years you'll die. What would you do? My geuss is you'll throw away all the insecurities and doubts and start LIVING.

And by the way, that photo feeler shyte is non sense. The prettiest man alive will probably get an 8. Men should stay away from such apps. Your best photo feeler will ALWAYS be the mirror.
 

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You might be an interesting study case. What if I was God or Allah, and I told you in ten years you'll die. What would you do? My geuss is you'll throw away all the insecurities and doubts and start LIVING.

And by the way, that photo feeler shyte is non sense. The prettiest man alive will probably get an 8. Men should stay away from such apps. Your best photo feeler will ALWAYS be the mirror.
Photo feeler is graded on a curve. My best pic is a 9.8. Still don't do enough to air quotes "compete," of course.
 
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