What is your preferred stance when talking to new girls?

[CollegeMan22]

So let’s say you approach a girl from the front, and you’re standing there talking. What stance do you take to convey the proper body language for the situation? If there is a wall somewhere, I usually lean one arm on it while talking to the girl. Or if in the open, I put one hand on my hip and leave the other open for hand motions and kino. I believe such a position conveys dominance and judging, as opposed to submission and qualifying.

What do you guys think? What’s your preferred talking stance?

 

[SW15]

You have the right idea. I like anything that displays confidence and even dominance. I'll stand straight up or do the hand on the hip thing you mention. I don't recall doing the wall one.

Never have hands in pockets as that's bad body language when trying to do pickup.

 

[SgtSplacker]

All depends how I feel. If I want to engage her I'll face her. If it's just casual then ill angle myself a bit so we can share a visual focus.

 

[RazorRambo24]

So let’s say you approach a girl from the front, and you’re standing there talking. What stance do you take to convey the proper body language for the situation? If there is a wall somewhere, I usually lean one arm on it while talking to the girl. Or if in the open, I put one hand on my hip and leave the other open for hand motions and kino. I believe such a position conveys dominance and judging, as opposed to submission and qualifying.

What do you guys think? What’s your preferred talking stance?

Don't do that with ag irl you don't know.. thats mad creepy.. just think about it now.. It's almost like a "you can't leave" type position.. It works nice in the 80s greaser gangster movies but not in real life.. you're not some action hero or gangster..

Leaving one hand on your hip? I dont even know what that means but gives me a visual of a weird gay guy who dresses in old man suits and gucci fashion

Not tryin to roast you but thats just the immediate visuals I get..

When you approach women.. you just need to stand like a normal human being.. Whats more important is that you make eye contact, you smile when appropriate, and you don't have any nervous jitters in your speech. You gotta be direct and humor goes a long way.

It's important not to stand by side of her unless u are walking with her or leaning against someting with her.. Jus stand face to face.

Also never approach a woman from behind.. alot of guys make this mistake at bars/clubs..Women are not used to socializing this way nor are men ..

I'm gonna throw a gem in here for you boys...But if right when you approach her you can get really close proxmiity to her.. like maybe a foot max.. you'll e able to hack a part of the girls brain that immediately trains her into feeling like shes known you forever .. THis is becuase women when they talk with their closest friends adn want their attention they will talk at this range.. You seeit all the time if you pay attention to women in certain scenarios.. Most guys are scared to ever do someting like this.. Guys like me, we're already in romantic range 6 seconds into the interaction... It also helps because then onlookers think u already know each other.. + cant hear what ur saying because u dont need to talk as loud

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additionally. in any social interaction, with men or women, business pitches, etc.. itsimpotant that ur hands are visible..using your hands conveys confidence but it also allows people to feel like they can trust you.. whereas those who arent o be trusted might hidetheir hands.. in pockets, between folded arms, if you naturally dont talk with your hands, its fine.. dont force it but dont hide ur hands either

 

[thermodynamic]

I use very authoritative posture to get her attention (like stopping her when she is walking) but once she stops, I just be very casual. I don't need to prove myself by intimidating the chicks. I already decided 95% are within my league anyhow, since I truly believe this, they will usually eventually respond in kind.

 

[Stanley]

Open and relaxed without forcing or thinking anything about posture. Each situation is different and so is the girl so have to be flexible and read the vibe.

I think the more someone focuses on things like that they begin to become hyper aware of themselves and somewhat disingenuous. Chicks can tell when you're trying too hard or being unnatural, at least the experienced ones can. They key is to learn what bad posture is like slouched shoulders, arms crossed, closed off and avoid them. If you are truly relaxed and being comfortable in your skin it will come across in your stance naturally. I recently had my first photo shoot and my photographer explained how to 'pose' and be attractive. More or less it was don't think about it at all. She made every effort to make me relaxed and natural, that is when you are most attractive...with the assumption you are already at least decent looking.

If you're relaxed then you are open and receptive, women pick up on that. If you are forceful and pushy women also pickup on that, but there is a time and place when it is needed. In some cases remaining aloof intentionally or not has it's uses as well i.e indirect game. I've had more girls approach me by doing essentially nothing aside from big chilling and taking up space then being more authoritative, but that depends on a lot of external factors... A lot of videos on body language and confident posture also make a point to say it isn't something that can be 'taught'. It shows when people are not being natural in their body language and trying to be something else, check out Mark Zuck. I think this is a situation where 'act as if' can be applied to where you actually become the natural confident person and later internalize that posture.

My goal when talking to a new girl is to be charismatic, charming, ****y and funny out the ass which is my natural state. Being dogmatic or assertive (to borderline aggressive) is not what i'm going for on the opener typically. I'm just there to chat and don't care about the outcome really.

 

[Macadellic]

I’m too busy scanning the room, ordering a drink and getting back to my friends.

You know, being a normal human being.

 

[thermodynamic]

I’m too busy scanning the room, ordering a drink and getting back to my friends.

You know, being a normal human being.

exactly. Your inner vibe and true thoughts drive your body language. No need to fake it or act. Truly be the sh*t and your body language will be the right way naturally

 

[bat soup]

I stand on 3 legs, like a tripod.

 

[Murk]

I’ve never thought about it and after right now, probably never will again.

 

[Stanley]

I stand on 3 legs, like a tripod.

That sounds hot tbh. A real power stance that gets the girls going like a waterfall

 

[CollegeMan22]

I stand on 3 legs, like a tripod.

You must have a long c0ck.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think this is a good question. 70% of communication is not verbal. If girls are cats you need to then go in slowly and unthreatening and slowly you get the right to pet the kitty. Start with a side angle and then as the temp warms up you get closer and start eventually literally petting the kitty with Kino.

 

[espanish]

if you are asking this question, you are being too self conscious around the girl.
the correct answer is "who cares?"

 

[bat soup]

You must have a long c0ck.

No, I just have very short legs.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

If I ever see a Chad or ripped black guy talking to woman, they often seem to have one arm or leg resting on something, with their body an open and relaxed, self assured pose. I think the most important thing is to not "fidget" as that makes you look anxious. Be a rock.