"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ive started suffering from premature EJ any advice?

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IM 39 never had a problem apart from P.I.E.D im currently abstaining from this

basically I last around 3 minutes of a girl riding me and I go hyper excited, never used to be like this

if its my 2nd sex session I last longer but i prefer my erection on the first session

the only things I can think of is my stress levels are a little high at mo, and ive got a habit of twitching my pelvic floor muscle

cheers
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IM 39 never had a problem apart from P.I.E.D im currently abstaining from this

basically I last around 3 minutes of a girl riding me and I go hyper excited, never used to be like this

if its my 2nd sex session I last longer but i prefer my erection on the first session

the only things I can think of is my stress levels are a little high at mo, and ive got a habit of twitching my pelvic floor muscle

cheers
I've been in your situation. It doesn't make sex fun.

In short, your problems are caused by prolonged porn use and it takes time for your brain to readjust. Keep abstaining from porn and things will stabilise.

Porn is literally like crack cocaine and totally messes up your dopamine levels. Dopamine being the main factor in ability to obtain an erection. Prolonged porn use over time leads to desensitisation to dopamine in the brain meaning that it takes more stimulation to get hard i.e. PIED.

But then when you take away porn, your brain jacks up sensitivity to dopamine to get the stimulation back because your are addicted. So the result is an unnatural dopamine spike in response to sexual stimulation. This spike causes premature ejaculation.

If you keep going with abstinence then things will stabilise. This was my experience.
 

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Im completely abstaining from everything , caffeine is being binned today as it deffo keeps me in anxious state. I seemed to have developed some kind of intolerance to it, I used to drink it all day with no probs
 

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Idk if that's correct, but to me it was the opposite, I couldn't c0m, no matter how much I tried I had to think of the movies to c0m, it was crazy cause it wasn't enjoyable having to think in another woman, even though the one I was fvcking was hot.
If dopamine is too high then you will have premature ejaculation, if its too low you will have PIED.

Generally it goes like this in my experience.

Stage 1: first few weeks. Can get an erection, but no where near 100% difficulty finishing without extra stimulation. This is where you are.

Stage 2: Flatline after several weeks. Dopamine drops off a cliff. Low mood, zero desire for sex. Can't even get hard while making out.

Stage 3: Coming out of flatline like 50 days+ of noporn. Feel more balanced. Sex drive returns but not over the top. Maybe a little bit of premature ejaculation at first but things stabilise with regular sex like 2-3 times a week. Erections are like a rock.
 

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If dopamine is too high then you will have premature ejaculation, if its too low you will have PIED.

Generally it goes like this in my experience.

Stage 1: first few weeks. Can get an erection, but no where near 100% difficulty finishing without extra stimulation. This is where you are.

Stage 2: Flatline after several weeks. Dopamine drops off a cliff. Low mood, zero desire for sex. Can't even get hard while making out.

Stage 3: Coming out of flatline like 50 days+ of noporn. Feel more balanced. Sex drive returns but not over the top. Maybe a little bit of premature ejaculation at first but things stabilise with regular sex like 2-3 times a week. Erections are like a rock.
from previous attempts this rings a bell
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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