Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Kimbo would run unsanctioned (illegal) fights in his mom's backyard. Obviously in Florida no one cares. If you did that in Illinois, the state would come get you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you think that I'm suggesting you run an illegal fighting club then your reading skills suck.
Sanctioning by the state gives an exception to tort law. The rule of civil law is that one may not consent to a tort. So every idiot in Kimbo's back yard could have sued him, his mom, and also their opponent for punching them. I'm pretty sure street beefs guy on YouTube is the same. He probably has nothing to take and would be pointless to sue.
Maybe he should have sanctioned his fights and took the right steps.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No gi is a lot more popular. Something about being choked with your own clothes is off putting to people. I honestly thought they were turning off the lights in the building. The world fills with blackness from the outside inward, until just a little circle of consciousness is left. I reached into that circle from the blackness, tapped out of the choke, and the world filled itself back in, reverse direction of the way it had been leaving.
Do you do sambo or just bjj?
Just bjj and mma, but not for several years. Idk a single move of Sambo, honestly, unless there is overlap with Japanese jiu jitsu, which was my mma trainer's background.