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Alright guys, I am about to go out for some daygame today as well. However, I wanted to celebrate a small victory. I am currently on Day 4 of NoFap and I am sure my friend @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 can relate to the struggles of getting past Day 3. I want to see if I can make it through all of September without nutting as I will also be traveling.

Will let all of you know how the daygame session went.
I was fapping once a week on Sundays and I closed tonight randomly and couldn't finish, so I will be doing a month or two break from fapping.
 

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Oh yeah and for further insight, we can reach out to local mod and East Coast racial dynamics expert @RickTheToad to perhaps check me on some of my stuff. :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
If a person is in NYC long enough, many turn into the typical NYC female that is hard to deal with. Rule of thumb is it's a nice place to experience, but leave while you still have your sanity. Sadly, most don't until it too late.
 

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If a person is in NYC long enough, many turn into the typical NYC female that is hard to deal with. Rule of thumb is it's a nice place to experience, but leave while you still have your sanity. Sadly, most don't until it too late.
NYC is a great place to have your fun in and sow your wild oats in. I give 35 as basically the maximum age you can truly enjoy NYC and when I say enjoy NYC, I solely mean Manhattan and at worst parts of Brooklyn like Williamsburg. Once you get out of Manhattan, NYC becomes a truly miserable place overall. You run into high prices for everything, still deal with the city taxes (on top of state tax), and the people are some of the worst when you get out of Manhattan.

Manhattan is unique in the sense that it is a ton of Middle Americans and fresh out of college types moving there to experience big city life and the whole "Friends" lifestyle or whatever. If it was not for the foreigners and the transplants from outside of NYC, the whole city would be a baby between Detroit and Kentucky.

If you are not living in Manhattan, there is no point to being in NYC or even exploring parts of the city outside of it.

Queens is a mess of ethnic people with an inferiority complex and also violent.

Bronx I won't even get into.

Staten Island, self-explanatory.

Brooklyn outside of the hipster boroughs, really dangerous.

Long Island is basically Alabama with high taxes and without the good college football.

It is a god awful city once you get outside of Manhattan.

CT is a solid place though even though its a blue state.
 

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NYC is a great place to have your fun in and sow your wild oats in. I give 35 as basically the maximum age you can truly enjoy NYC and when I say enjoy NYC, I solely mean Manhattan and at worst parts of Brooklyn like Williamsburg. Once you get out of Manhattan, NYC becomes a truly miserable place overall. You run into high prices for everything, still deal with the city taxes (on top of state tax), and the people are some of the worst when you get out of Manhattan.

Manhattan is unique in the sense that it is a ton of Middle Americans and fresh out of college types moving there to experience big city life and the whole "Friends" lifestyle or whatever. If it was not for the foreigners and the transplants from outside of NYC, the whole city would be a baby between Detroit and Kentucky.

If you are not living in Manhattan, there is no point to being in NYC or even exploring parts of the city outside of it.

Queens is a mess of ethnic people with an inferiority complex and also violent.

Bronx I won't even get into.

Staten Island, self-explanatory.

Brooklyn outside of the hipster boroughs, really dangerous.

Long Island is basically Alabama with high taxes and without the good college football.

It is a god awful city once you get outside of Manhattan.

CT is a solid place though even though its a blue state.
I'm from Queens btw. I would say, 10 years ago and prior was the time to live in the city. Right now, it's just too dangerous. The cops can't protect, you have crazy people all over the place that if you defend yourself, you're going to jail. And the STD transfers in the city because the 20 YOs are so careless are at epic levels. It's going to take a while for things to reset. Some areas of CT are great, but yes, overall, it's deep blue to insanity. It's turning in to North Jersey or the city. With that said, it's the people from the city which are moving here and taking their views with them. Thus, what they escape they recreate in other locations.
 

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I was fapping once a week on Sundays and I closed tonight randomly and couldn't finish, so I will be doing a month or two break from fapping.
I am on Day 5 and have been feeling the rush to fap but am glad to have not came yet. I feel it building up for sure but know that I need to wait it out and really want to last the next few weeks, at least past day 21, to see what the deal is.
 

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I'm from Queens btw. I would say, 10 years ago and prior was the time to live in the city. Right now, it's just too dangerous. The cops can't protect, you have crazy people all over the place that if you defend yourself, you're going to jail. And the STD transfers in the city because the 20 YOs are so careless are at epic levels. It's going to take a while for things to reset. Some areas of CT are great, but yes, overall, it's deep blue to insanity. It's turning in to North Jersey or the city. With that said, it's the people from the city which are moving here and taking their views with them. Thus, what they escape they recreate in other locations.
Well nothing meant to offend you my friend, I have met a lot of good people from Queens.

The COVID hysteria is what drove me out of NYC but before then, it was still doable. However, it made no sense to pay those high prices and still have to deal with the city being closed down. COVID truly tipped things over for the city and De Blasio was one of the worst mayors in city history, new one does not seem that much better.

Game wise though, NYC was bush league compared to Miami. Nightgame in NYC was notoriously easy.
 
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I am on Day 5 and have been feeling the rush to fap but am glad to have not came yet. I feel it building up for sure but know that I need to wait it out and really want to last the next few weeks, at least past day 21, to see what the deal is.
It wasn't worth it lol. It took me forever to find videos and girls get mad when I don't finish because they think it's their fault. I had to tell her that I fapped earlier today and that's why my performance wasn't on peak lol.
 

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September 25th field report.

Met up with my wing again and told myself that today, I am going to be more proactive in doing approaches as opposed to laying back. Wing was on point and boldly approaching almost everything in sight. I am surprised as to how girls took it too because his approaches went for well over five minutes with every interaction.

Two set

After wing had already done 3 approaches, I see a two-set and head over their way. There is one girl with black hair in a ponytail that I really want and I immediately go up to them as we have gotten off the escalators to tell them "you two have the most Manhattan vibe about you". In hindsight, I should have said NYC and then tried to clarify. It goes well with me and the dark-haired girl but her friend (the uglier one) is hesitant. I do not want to leave the friend out of it so I engage them both. My wing has lost me at this point and is probably doing another approach. The dark-haired girl was a Persian girl from Miami. Anyways, it ends abruptly as they have to go shop, she was good but her friend was dragging her away, ugh.

Big sunglasses girl.

I see this blonde with big sunglasses and tell her that she is the most Brazilian looking woman I have seen today. She laughs and says she is actually from Orlando. We stay and we chat for a solid bit. My wing had encouraged me to approach as he saw a girl ahead of her that he liked. We end up talking for a few minutes but then she has to leave. I try to ask for a number but she says she has a boyfriend. One thing I have found is that if you ask for the number close AS they are leaving, it never goes well because they were not that invested in the first place. You have to ask as you are interacting with them and have enough rapport built up.

Argentine blonde and a PUA


So I am about to cross the street and no cars are coming. See this cute older looking blonde and tell her "hey let's jaywalk together". She asks me to clarify and I tell her what that meant. She laughs and responds in a foreign accent, I make an assumption and tell her "France?". She is actually from Argentina and visiting. Somewhere in the set, I did get a bit lost though. It's like I fluctuated between actually being into her versus not. We chat a bit about her yoga hobby but I think I mix up the intent a bit on my end. I ask for the number and she gives it to me though so number close.

Right after I do that, this guy approaches me and my wing and says "nice daygame close". He is into game and apparently took a bootcamp from James Tusk, told us it costs almost 10k. We chat for a bit and I add him to our group. Then we see this really cute older blonde, total pornstar standing around, and he approaches her. It seemed to go well for him.

Mixed set.

Wing runs into a girl that I eventually found he approached a while ago and she recognizes him, she is with a friend. We end up chatting but for a minute, I am confused. Basically, me and the Colombian girl have a good vibe going but I do not want to get crazy with it. For all I know, it could be wing's coworker. Eventually, I insta close and that is that.

Blonde MILF.

Wing is still on fire doing approaches left and right, I know I need to step my game up. I end up approaching this blonde who was older and she was receptive to the approach at first. However, she needs to head into a store and it kind of dies off after that.

Cute girl with glasses and a dog.

I cross the street to approach this cute girl with glasses and a dog, it is a somewhat meh approach overall and she was not into.

Two set, Indian girl and brunette.

I open a two-set and my wing helps me with this one. Tell them that they have the most Aussie vibe about them, they are locals actually going to college. I chat them up a bit but then I notice that the Indian girl is giving my wing pushback. They have to eventually leave.

Blonde I have been wanting to approach.

As I am trying to close out the night, I finally see this blonde I saw outside, she was just sexy. I get ahead of these two ghetto black dudes who I know she is not with and then open her with the line "you are the most Scandinavian looking woman I have seen today, lemme guess? Not Sweden but maybe Finland?". She smiles, took it well, and was actually Serbian. We chatted a bit but I made a mistake, like an idiot, I asked her what part of the city she was at and she called me out for it and said "I do not give that info away that early". I was sloppy in this approach but she was a very cool girl. If I had better game here, I could have made something happen. We talked about the Balkans and how beautiful of a country Croatia is, it was going decent but she said she had to meet with friends. Still tried to go for that close but she said she had a boyfriend (more like my approach was trash).

After that, I closed out my day.
 

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Reflections and improvement points for daygame.

1. I really need to learn how to converse better now. I can open well but my convo topics afterwards are not hitting well enough. Basically, sometimes I go through a wave of rejections that when I do get a girl who is receptive, I end up screwing it up because the rejections really got to me mentally. I need to work on this.

2. Another Daygame obstacle that is a unique one, is that girl hot or not? I feel like at times I want to approach a girl and then back off last second because I see something off. Saw one girl that was sexy from the back and then as soon as I saw her face, she had acne all over it. It is so tough to make that quick read at times in daygame.

3. Need to frame convos better and create more tension during them. I feel like I have improved with small talk at times but I need to create better tension and tease her better. Have gotten better at making assumptions and not asking questions though so that is a point of improvement.

4. Need more purpose. I need more purpose with my daygame at times and play to win. Somehow been in a slump since August so I need to get back in stride.

Positives.

1. New wing has really lifted me up. Dude approaches like a madman and it has gotten me to step my game up. I have been bolder as a result due to the work he has put in right in front of me.

2. Getting the routine going again. So glad that I have it going again, past couple weeks were tough. All of last week I didn't go out due to the god awful rains ruining everything.
 
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1. I really need to learn how to converse better now. I can open well but my convo topics afterwards are not hitting well enough. Basically, sometimes I go through a wave of rejections that when I do get a girl who is receptive, I end up screwing it up because the rejections really got to me mentally. I need to work on this.
It's normal because it is a momentum game. Before I go in to a sales meeting, I make sure I'm not tired, hyped up, and etc or it will go bad lol.
 

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It wasn't worth it lol. It took me forever to find videos and girls get mad when I don't finish because they think it's their fault. I had to tell her that I fapped earlier today and that's why my performance wasn't on peak lol.
Not sure what you are trying to say. Anyways, I am on Day 5 right now of NoFap and good lord I am feeling it like crazy right now. Seriously want to see how it feels like past day 7 since I will be doing some daygame on weekdays too. However, not looking too likely since it is set to rain for the rest of the week :(
 

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I am on Day 5 and have been feeling the rush to fap but am glad to have not came yet. I feel it building up for sure but know that I need to wait it out and really want to last the next few weeks, at least past day 21, to see what the deal is.
So good for your game. Keep going.

1. I really need to learn how to converse better now. I can open well but my convo topics afterwards are not hitting well enough. Basically, sometimes I go through a wave of rejections that when I do get a girl who is receptive, I end up screwing it up because the rejections really got to me mentally. I need to work on this.
This is normal. Also, a lot of women aren't that receptive for a variety of reasons, much of which don't have to do with you. A lot of women simply aren't looking for new penis at a given point in time and you're probably approaching a decent number of these women in non-bar approaching. The main advantage of the bars is that women go to bars to find new penis.
 
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Not sure what you are trying to say. Anyways, I am on Day 5 right now of NoFap and good lord I am feeling it like crazy right now. Seriously want to see how it feels like past day 7 since I will be doing some daygame on weekdays too. However, not looking too likely since it is set to rain for the rest of the week :(
Dude, same chick invited me over and I couldn't climax in sex, and I had to save myself from a bed argument. Fapping on Sunday was a HUGE mistake for me :(
 

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Jesse you should have t-shirts printed up corresponding to which day of no-fap you are on. Day 6, 7, 8, etc. and wear them around town when you day game. They've got sites with rush delivery. It can get expensive, but there's always gofundme. Should make for a nice convo-builder if you run out of material.
 

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Alright you all, especially @Jake_Gyllenhaal69, here is what I found. Yesterday was day 5 and a half or maybe even day 6 of NoFap for me and man it was insane. I had a prolonged erection and felt that I could do a woman all night long. Swore my **** must have also grown just slightly bigger. Being the insecure guy I am, I measured it and it was like 6.1 inches so eh, still a very average size but motion in the ocean and not always size of wave eh.

All that said, man I swear, I had never been hornier this year so far. It is like all I could think of was sex sex sex and then come to find, it was pouring rain outside so forget doing cold approaches. However, I noticed that I got to a point where I was thinking about sex for sure but I think it was more about porn I watched years ago or the last time I got with a hot girl. I have yet to see if I get to the point where I see a hot girl in real life and immediately get aroused.

Did end up rubbing one out late last night though because my body could not deal with it plus I had been going through interview after interview. The rainy weather kept me inside too so recipe for disaster there.

Now I want to try and see if I can make it Day 14, I think that there are some benefits to NoFap.
 

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This is normal. Also, a lot of women aren't that receptive for a variety of reasons, much of which don't have to do with you. A lot of women simply aren't looking for new penis at a given point in time and you're probably approaching a decent number of these women in non-bar approaching. The main advantage of the bars is that women go to bars to find new penis.
I think bars are kind of overrated now too, I see too many girls going to them with a massive group mixed with girls and guys.
 

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I think bars are kind of overrated now too, I see too many girls going to them with a massive group mixed with girls and guys.
What's up with that? I have mostly stayed away from female platonic friendships during the course of my life. While I have messed up a lot of things in my dating and relationship life over time, this has probably been good for me. The downside of no female friends is that I haven't had any social circle setups, which forced me over time to use dating websites/apps and doing stranger approaches.
 
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