I don’t want my sex life to be on hold indefinitely.
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Overall, I think this is a case of the man losing frame. If wifey were feeling relationship abandonment dread, she's still be putting out. If I were him, I'd tell wifey I'm going to the nudie bar, in sweat pants, and return with a big wet spot.
The man has zero frame. He's a pansy beta male. She wasn't happy with their sex life before the recent Supreme Court ruling and now she's using it as an excuse to shut down sex. Their home state will have abortion rights in the future and contraception is plentiful.
Their marriage is over. He needs to file for divorce today and start making approaches in order to get laid with new women.
The article below is relevant to this discussion.
Last week many of you emailed and Facebooked me links to a sad yet educational event on Reddit. If you don’t already know what I’m talking about, a husband created a spreadsheet tracking all the times he asked his wife for sex, notating when she...
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"Monogamous women married longer than three years are absolute wizards at coming up with creative and real-sounding excuses to get out of ew-icky sex with their husbands."
This quote is relevant because we have a phony excuse.
"She lives in a married-woman bubble where not having sex with your husband is normal and proper."
Since that wife is trying to get married women in their social circle to do the same, this makes the "married woman bubble" concept relevant.
In most social circles, the people in them are similar ages who all got married within 3-5 years of each other. Most are moving through life's milestones at similar times. Among the friends I've made since moving to Dallas, mostly everyone got married within that same 3-5 year timeline. There was a flurry of marriages in the late 2010s and there has been a flurry of pregnancy announcements and births recently, all educated, privileged, White women having "last call" babies in their 30s.
When there's a married woman bubble of women who have been married 3+ years and part of a relationship with their now husbands 5+ years, you have a situation where a bunch of people have been in long term relationships and have been complacent. Sex frequency drops after time.
This is why I say the shelf life of goodness of a modern romantic relationship is around 5 years. The sex frequency in most relationships drops low enough after 5 years that it's not worth being in those relationships.
The couple in the Slate article is one of those married 3+ years couples with a social circle of married women also in dead bedrooms.
I believe the 40s and 50s would have been a horrible time to live, for men and women both, even without World War Two. I very much doubt I would be able to have the lifestyle I now enjoy, personally, financially and sexually, if I...
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A lot of married men in more recent times are barely having sex more than incels. Incels are jealous of the once or twice a month married man sex, but that's a lousy existence for the married man.
Their husbands are likely terrible in the bedroom which is why it's no real loss to them. It's actually them doing something they aren't really interested in doing when they have sex with them for 5 minutes or less.
I agree that this is relevant. When a man is good at sex, it can extend that shelf life out a little bit. However, men good at sex are often in demand and less monogamous. A lot of those interactions end prior to the 5 year mark.
When I was in my teens and early 20s, I read a lot of sex manuals and learned how to get good at sex. To me, that was foundational pickup work.
