"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DonBud94

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Lately I been thinking about pursuing a girl that called it quits about a year ago I'm stuck weather should I or should I not I can't get her out of my head for some darn reason I need someone to talk me out of it haha naw but I would like to hear some stories where any of you had pursued a girl in a situation like mine and how it went.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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darksprezzatura

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The best way to pursue a girl you used to hang out with is to first explore a lot of options, sleep with a bunch of girls.

If at that point of time she STILL comes into your mind, go shoot her a text, it’s low investment and you won’t be bothered by the outcome.
 

FlexpertHamilton

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I don't think it's possible to get a women back once she completely loses interest, at least not directly. Maybe you can initiate a conversation but do not chase or ask her out. Ideally, just don't do anything and maybe she'll come around. If not, it's honestly not even worth it even if you do change her mind.
 

DonBud94

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I hear what both y'all saying appreciate the advice fellas.
 

Macadellic

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The following has worked for me in the past.

You have to let a period of time pass where she doesn’t see you, hear about you (9-12months).

When you do reappear there has to be something different about you. You lost weight, gained muscle, have a new career, picked up an exciting hobby you are passionate about, etc.

She has to see that you have improved yourself.
And you did this of your own accord, not to get back with her.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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