LDR Plates/FWB

[Redarc23]

Hi all,

I was wondering how do you normally keep in touch with plates that live in other cities, and since I will be starting to travel a lot, go visit the city and maybe the FWB would like to hang out.

Slight oneitis post but I met someone that I have been talking for about 3 months that lives in another country. We talked about meeting up but the goal was to never form a relationship since it is impossible due to my responsibilities. Maybe FWB.

Anyways, I think she has a boyfriend now. I have been slipping up lately too contacting her. Basically, she initiated the last 3 text convos, the last one yesterday that left me on read for now after I texted back even though she has been online all day, I was the one who called last week to catch up, and was supposed to call her back on the weekend but got busy. I mean, one of the calls I was like “what are you doing this weekend” and I thought I can’t ask you out because we live far lol

Is there a way to be distant and not be forgotten? Since maybe when I visit my family in August I can be that hot foreign guy that plowes her while she cheats on her boyfriend since I will be unattainable and leave in a week. The last thing I want is to be an emotional/attention drain that would seem like a waste of time when there are men around that can be there.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why are you wasting so much energy on a woman in another country that you likely won't meet?

If you spent half as much energy on women locally your plate would be full and you wouldn't have time for this woman.

 

[Redarc23]

Why are you wasting so much energy on a woman in another country that you likely won't meet?

If you spent half as much energy on women locally your plate would be full and you wouldn't have time for this woman.

I moved out of my home country when I was 11, I am 34 now. I think is nostalgic since it is one of the last connections I have. I wouldn’t mind being her friend to be honest. It is not scarcity mentality since I do get sex around here.

 

[Zimbabwe]

I moved out of my home country when I was 11, I am 34 now. I think is nostalgic since it is one of the last connections I have. I wouldn’t mind being her friend to be honest. It is not scarcity mentality since I do get sex around here.

Unless you or her plan on moving, this whole relationship is pointless

 

[Redarc23]

Unless you or her plan on moving, this whole relationship is pointless

How would you break the connection?

I don’t believe in ghosting, and some DEERing here but the reality is I don’t have the time to talk to her everyday. We have been distancing each other as well, and it is not like we were in a relationship. We are like friends that had cyber sex here and there.