Negging is emotional abuse

[bmp2cpm]

All,

A friendly reminder that negging is emotional abuse.

If Your Partner Keeps Comparing You To Other People, You Might Be Getting Negged

Two experts explain.

www.womenshealthmag.com

The media wants men to stop being leaders. The media wants us to stop negging.

The first time I met the woman who was to be my wife, I immediately negged her. I wasn’t even trying to get her. She ended up marrying me, so I don’t think she minded the negging.

Around that time, my soon-to-be wife was getting phone numbers from male passengers every few days. None of them negged her.

Never stop being a man. Never apologize for being a man. Ignore the media’s constant propaganda against men

That is all.

 

[Gamisch]

I once read an interesting article about negging and the so called bad boy. It said that in elementary school the boys don't mind negging the girls and that's where the seed is planted.

It's a thin line between negging and teasing. It can show you won't put her on a pedestal just like that, and when done subtle you can transfer negging into teasing, innuendo.

Basically a little negging can be a move in your arsenal, bit like every move you gotta know when and how to throw it.

I read the article and I feel.like the writer is very negative about it. When women do it it's called testing, amd that can take various forms. Still we as men try to teach each other to stay aloof and accept its female nature.

I think the key word here is "playfully ".

 

[Smok1nAce]

Negging is for weak minded individuals. It’s basically reverse physiology when you feel threatened.

Teasing is ok but should be used sparingly and for sexual escalation.

don’t confuse **** testing with disrespect, if a women is negging you it’s disrespectful and you should walk the other way.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Negging is for weak minded individuals.

It depends on how you use it; If you use it in a teasing fashion it isn't bad and the receiving counter part will also understand it as such.
Thus it will have the desired effect which it is meant to be.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

All,

A friendly reminder that negging is emotional abuse.

If Your Partner Keeps Comparing You To Other People, You Might Be Getting Negged

Two experts explain.

www.womenshealthmag.com

The media wants men to stop being leaders. The media wants us to stop negging.

The first time I met the woman who was to be my wife, I immediately negged her. I wasn’t even trying to get her. She ended up marrying me, so I don’t think she minded the negging.

Around that time, my soon-to-be wife was getting phone numbers from male passengers every few days. None of them negged her.

Never stop being a man. Never apologize for being a man. Ignore the media’s constant propaganda against men

That is all.

Remember the two week shutdown to flatten the curve? 3 ****ing years later.

Double down on the opposite of what mainstream is pedaling.

Btc to 0. Tesla bankruptcy. Sky is falling. Monkey pox.

 

[SW15]

Negging is a technique from "The Game" and "Mystery Method" that has not aged well. Women became too hip to negging and it has lost some amount of effectiveness.

American Girls Are Using Negs Now – Roosh Valizadeh

I remember when I'd never get approached by women, even when I went out four nights a week. I accepted that I was not a good-looking guy whose looks alone could propel a woman to start chasing. I didn't cry about it since I was still able to get laid by approaching, but it did gnaw at me that other

www.rooshv.com

Roosh declared the neg dead in 2011.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Negging is not dead nor is it emotionally abusive. I mean, give me a break. Seriously. You do need to know how to use it properly though as it can create big attraction and give you big separation vs the 99% of the other guys who are basically overly nice guys and as* kissers.

You don't insult her like a jackass, you use it as a playful tease. Examples:

Me: What's your sign? Her: Virgo. Me: Oh, crap. That's a bad sign. And I thought this was going well too. Well, ok. Let me order another drink then. (look down and playfully shake your head in disapproval, then smile).

Me: (To the server) Bring us an order of raw oysters please. (To my date) Oysters, though tasty, are also an aphrodisiac so don't get any ideas. I'm a naïve Midwestern boy...and I see the way you're looking at me. If I have to defend myself, I fight dirty just so you know (then smile).

I have others and many are based on something she says. Humor and playful teasing are big turn on's for most girls as it establishes you as the dominant one and that you DGAF, another big turn on. Use it like hot sauce; a little goes a long way but overdo it and you'll ruin the interaction. Keep in mind the VAST majority of guys are weak, overly cautious simps.

Have some balls and tease her a little.

Ciao.
~Dash

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP's wife is/was a flight attendant. Certain professions take to negging more than others.

 

[zekko]

I think the whole misunderstanding with negging is due to it's name.... It should have just been called playful teasing....

Agree. I think most successful negging is done by guys who aren't even thinking of it as negging. Guys who think about negging are often being too insulting.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

When I first heard negging labeled as such I said to myself “why have they relabeled flirting?!?! - facking millennials…”

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I only neg/tease women who are sassy and sarcastic. And only gently. I learned the hard way to tread very carefully.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

It truly is fascinating that one can parrot back exactly what a woman has said to you and that she gets offended. They really often have zero recall of what comes out of their mouths or how it can affect the listener. Just mind-boggling.

 

[Serenity]

Negging is a complicated topic, there's a lot of nuance as in good and bad ways to go about it. Many guys who just heard about the concept of negging and tries to implement it takes way too far immediately and instead of negging it's just straight up being offensive, rude and insulting.

Negging is a play, it's supposed to be fun, even for the one being negged. It shouldn't be done without decent social calibration.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I agree humor, playful teasing, banter, negging are huge turn ons! But disagree it indicates a DGAF attitude.

It indicates the opposite otherwise you wouldn't be teasing/flirting/negging in the first place. You wouldn't bother.

That's always how I've interpreted anyway, and I've always been right, every single time.

If I were on a date with you, I would do all those things but would do it in a way that conveyed that I wasn’t quite “sold” on you yet. I think the “I’m all-in vibe that most men broadcast is an attraction killer.
The idea is, yes, I’m spending time with you and consider you a possibility, but you need to demonstrate that you’re worth my time. Until then, I’m demonstrating a little reserve.
That has been my formula for success.

 

[Barrister]

Playful teasing is absolute must. It creates strong attraction. If that counts as "negging" - then I am all for it. More intense negging, where it is not completely clear that you are joking, can also work very well on some women and terribly on others. In our society, many women are much more sensitive than they used to be and this can backfire more often than it works. One thing is absolute - never "neg" on a woman's physical appearance. I have never seen this work out favorably even when you are clearly joking.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Negging is a technique from "The Game" and "Mystery Method" that has not aged well. Women became too hip to negging and it has lost some amount of effectiveness.

American Girls Are Using Negs Now – Roosh Valizadeh

I remember when I'd never get approached by women, even when I went out four nights a week. I accepted that I was not a good-looking guy whose looks alone could propel a woman to start chasing. I didn't cry about it since I was still able to get laid by approaching, but it did gnaw at me that other

www.rooshv.com

Roosh declared the neg dead in 2011.

I agree with you but the execution is weak these days.

A neg in 2022 is ghosting after sex or a throater. It was supposed to keep a woman keen acknowledging her **** stinks. Modern women aren't feminine so they are responding in a masculine manner.

Personally I prefer to troll. For example, you run into a fat as ****kkkk skank from the past, say hello. Tell her she looks great. Ask her where is she working out?

Jersey shore talk works. Call her bro. Let her know she's like one of the boys. Act as such. Not acknowledging her on a feminine Level works wonders.

Trolling as a hobby ftw!

 

[Dash Riprock]

The ability to playfully tease your date is either in your DNA or it's not.

I was doing it -- and getting laid a lot -- long before I knew it even had a name. Then, when I started reading from some of the original and early dating coaches like Doc Love, David DeAngelo, and Swingcat, they all touted it and called it by different names; mainly negging and co*cky and funny.

It DOES communicate an IDGAF attitude because even with playful teasing, you run a small risk of her getting her panties in a bind because she has no sense of humor. It's kind of a s*hit test on my end; Let's see how you react to some playful teasing. If she gets all pis*sed off I really DGAF because she's too uptight for me, so it's next batter up girlie.

I have seen guys painfully try to tease a woman when their personality is just not conducive to it. It's like watching a goldfish trying to hit a 90 MPH fastball. Cringe worthy. Most guys who are good at it are naturals and are outgoing, funny, observant, and charismatic.

 

[HaleyBaron]

The media wants men to stop being leaders. The media wants us to stop negging.

The media negs women all the time. They just want a monopoly.

 

[IKO69]

The source is womenshealthmag

The author, Gabrielle, is critical about it because it is the type of tactic that probably works on her, because she has poor self esteem, likely a mental hunchback. I bet the complete opposite of what she is criticizing turns her off and makes her v drier than the sahara.

Negging works if it is witty and funny. They love it when you tease them, they tell you that you are so funny and charismatic.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I’ve always been a little surprised at how my girlfriend (who is now my wife) always loved that playful ****iness and bravado. I guess it works because she knows that in actual fact I’m a very considerate, caring person.
I have found that the two genders (yes, I dare to say there are only two genders) are deeply attracted to that which the other lacks.
Women are by nature insecure and unsure of themselves and very much constrained by the complex social web they find themselves in.
Consequently, they are deeply attracted to our boldness, co ckiness, rejection of social constraints, and penchant for risk-taking.
We, on the other hand, are deeply attracted to their child-like qualities, their gentleness, their weakness, their nurturing ways, and their submissive nature. We are even programmed to love the child’s voice that they maintain throughout life. All of this is of course the direct opposite of us.
My wife barely responds at all to compliments, especially physical ones (she’s very pretty) but even ones regarding character. She appreciates character compliments, sure, but it’s amazing to see how she shifts into that loving, deeply emotional gaze when I say something like “Yeah, of course you do” when she says she loves me. That’s just a random, simple example. You guys know what I mean… when they get that rush of emotion flooding over them and they look at you a certain way and have to touch you or embrace you.
It took me a long time to understand this because I’m by nature polite and respectful (apart from my persona here on SS) and always felt the urge or necessity to extend extreme politeness to women. Bad strategy. Men value consistent politeness, but women are most assuredly turned off by consistent politeness without a healthy dose of co ckiness and boldness and dominance. I believe that nothing excites them more than a dominant man who routinely demonstrates slight detachment and a nuanced air of superiority. Her deepest desire is to submit, and she knows full well that there are few men today whom she can submit to. Because of that, she has to make compromises and consider her man’s partial dominance as “good enough”.
When you are ****y and dominant while also demonstrating that you are deep down a man of caring and respect to the people around you, you’ve got the magic formula for success with women.
It’s a highly nuanced balance that most men can only start to get a handle on in their 40s and beyond. There are exceptions, a few younger ones can get it, but the real nuance to the point that you “flow” with this balance usually comes later in life. Until then it sounds good on paper but you have no idea how to find that balance.
The trick is to assume the role of the servant-leader. You take the lead in all situations by conveying that you lead for the benefit of the people around you. Women pick up on this attitude and are helpless to admire and desire such a man.
Remember that a woman cannot “date down” and be happy. She needs to look up to her man. That’s why I advocate for an attitude of superiority with women, peppered with kindness and concern for others.
Life is paradox.