"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dating a woman that lives with her boyfriend

Hamurabimbi

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A one-shot fling with an attached woman might be ok. But beyond that. You risk jealous boyfriend gunning for you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dark god

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Screw that noise. I dip if I were you. What if the bf finds out..dood might confront u..might get physical. Find out where u live, work, social media etc. What if ol' boy has a license to a fire arm..he's got years invested with this chick...alot of things could go wrong.
 

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A few years ago I turned down my next door neighbour for very similar reasons. She was hot & wanted it so bad. We were in her car & she more or less offered herself up. We had been mildly flirting up to that point. Her husband was a great guy & after a little soul searching I turned her down & told her why. She has never spoken to me from it. I still kick myself today for not tapping her. You win some you lose some. Spin her as long as possible, if she’s not screwing you, she’s gonna screw someone else. That’s a fact.
Congratulations. You have morals. Sex after a while is just sex. She isn't talking to you because she knows you are better than her. Given the opportunity to do something immoral, you were strong enough to resist. She on the other hand, could not.

Even if you guys had sex. The downsides are huge. Your neighbor could have found out. Your reputation would be killed (assuming you have a good social circle). What is the advantage? What do you gain? So you could get your nuts off with a *****.. lets be honest. she's a *****. Perhaps she is attractive. But a lot of *****s are attractive and they are a dime a dozen. Your reputation is worth more than that.
 

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I started seeing this woman I met on OLD. Her face was covered on her profile pic, which was a red flag I missed. They cover their face so their boyfriends cant find them on there.

Anyway on the 2nd date she tells me she is in a relationship of 12 years that "doesn't work" anymore, but she lives with him. She claimed that she was planning to tell him, but I don't buy it. She is awesome in the sack but it feels wrong to continue sneaking around her man's back.

Looking for advice from others that have been in and gone through something similar.
Well if she is openly cheating on her current boyfriend, then what is stopping her from cheating on you later?
Ejaculate and evaporate... :lol::lol::devil:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BuckledWheel

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Congratulations. You have morals. Sex after a while is just sex. She isn't talking to you because she knows you are better than her.
Thanks bro, it was the right thing to do, although she did have a smoking body lol
 

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This is a classic example of how a true FWB manifests.
If you met her online where married women are a dime a dozen, what did you really expect?
When you meet a chick online and she makes it easy for you, 92% of the time she's still married or still involved in a messy relationship.
If she was truly single, she would make you jump through 50,000 hoops.
The online dating marketplace never favors guys.

If I were you I would take the blue pill to make myself forget about what she just told me.
Imagine if someone gave you $100 and told you to spend it freely with no strings attached.
You spend $20 and then your friend tells you 2 days later that it was drug money.
Are you gonna give $80 back or keep it?
 

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Imagine if someone gave you $100 and told you to spend it freely with no strings attached.
You spend $20 and then your friend tells you 2 days later that it was drug money.
Are you gonna give $80 back or keep it?
And what if you're a recovering addict? Or what if it came from child trafficking? And what if they offered you more money?
 
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