Failed advance of female friend

[ghcortez253]

I have known this female for 5-6 years snd we are purely internet friends, never met in person and probably never will. Still, I enjoy her internet friendship.

It has always been platonic. 1.5 years ago she made a clear offer of sex, which made me uncomfortable and I turned it down. I’m mildly attracted to her, as in she’s not ugly, and I would **** her if we’d never met and I never had to see her again, but given our history I didn’t like the idea, as accepting would have implied that I’d been waiting around, playing “friend” until she decided to pull me up out of the friend zone. I also just wasn’t into her her enough to **** her. She called me her “dream guy” and I told her I was flattered but did not feel the same way.

She stated dating someone else last year and we hardly talked until they broke up.

Recently I started thinking about her in a “more than friend” way, probably because my own sex life is nonexistent. By now had I picked up on the fact that she had lost interest in me. But I thought it would be fun to text her and ask her if she wanted to “hang out.” I was maybe too forward. She was about as interested as I was when she made the pass at me two years ago.

I’m not heartbroken, but feel bad and regret it. I find it impossible and highly undesirable to be friends with women I’m attracted to. So I feel like I really f’d this relationship up by going there with her. What should I do? I decided not to contact her for 1 month to let the sting and humiliation of it dissipate.

 

[Gamisch]

What you should do is learn your lesson: dont ever be friends with women, unless YOU decide to friendzone her. You gave her all she wanted, and that is free attention .

Sexual interactions should established early on. And remember: your attention must= her sexual interaction .

I have to say ,and I see nothing wrong with trying to get her over. If you can ask her to bang in non desperate way..you might have change but I doubt it. Just DONT talk to her like she is a friend anymore, put your energy in other things(like learning bout these skanks what you obviously need).

 

[ghcortez253]

I don’t want to bang her anymore I want to go back to how it was.

 

[Gamisch]

I don’t want to bang her anymore I want to go back to how it was.

??? Why??

So she can ghost you as soon as she has a new bf?? So she can reject again? Does she set you up with her female friends? I dont get it. Grow a pair bro..

But oke..just tell me please, why you want her friendship rather then a Male friend. I dont believe in female friends,maybe you can teach me something.

 

[ghcortez253]

??? Why??

So she can ghost you as soon as she has a new bf?? So she can reject again? Does she set you up with her female friends? I dont get it. Grow a pair bro..

But oke..just tell me please, why you want her friendship rather then a Male friend. I dont believe in female friends,maybe you can teach me something.

I don’t believe in female friends either for this reason but I don’t want to jettison her from my life. She’s cool.

 

[BuckledWheel]

We always consider the one that got away or screwed up. It’s natural. The moment you turned her down the game was over. She’s happy talking to you for attention, but as for intimacy, that shipped has sailed my friend. Drop contact with her completely. There is a lesson here, never refuse the goods when it’s on offer.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Generally speaking do not be platonic friends with women.

Women offer nothing of value to men except for reproductive value and social proof. If she were an HB10 that was helping you get into VIP clubs there could be some value there but that is a fringe example. You are wasting your time desiring her friendship, OP.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I have known this female for 5-6 years snd we are purely internet friends, never met in person and probably never will. Still, I enjoy her internet friendship.

It has always been platonic. 1.5 years ago she made a clear offer of sex, which made me uncomfortable and I turned it down. I’m mildly attracted to her, as in she’s not ugly, and I would **** her if we’d never met and I never had to see her again, but given our history I didn’t like the idea, as accepting would have implied that I’d been waiting around, playing “friend” until she decided to pull me up out of the friend zone. I also just wasn’t into her her enough to **** her. She called me her “dream guy” and I told her I was flattered but did not feel the same way.

She stated dating someone else last year and we hardly talked until they broke up.

Recently I started thinking about her in a “more than friend” way, probably because my own sex life is nonexistent. By now had I picked up on the fact that she had lost interest in me. But I thought it would be fun to text her and ask her if she wanted to “hang out.” I was maybe too forward. She was about as interested as I was when she made the pass at me two years ago.

I’m not heartbroken, but feel bad and regret it. I find it impossible and highly undesirable to be friends with women I’m attracted to. So I feel like I really f’d this relationship up by going there with her. What should I do? I decided not to contact her for 1 month to let the sting and humiliation of it dissipate.

I don't mean to make an example out of you but I will.

This is why I advise men not to commit to intergender platonic relationships if there is any physical/sexual or worse mental attraction on EITHER end. If you are a heterosexual male it is detrimental to your masculine energy. Those types of friendships are ALWAYS conditional and at some point, this condition will arise.

Modern Man Advice

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Generally speaking do not be platonic friends with women.

Women offer nothing of value to men except for reproductive value and social proof. If she were an HB10 that was helping you get into VIP clubs there could be some value there but that is a fringe example. You are wasting your time desiring her friendship, OP.

Facts. Also "HB10" doesn't have to "help" you, she could lower your stock based upon how she acts around you.

 

[Kotaix]

I've done this before myself. You can't go back to the way it was if she's put herself out there and you've rejected her.

 

[ghcortez253]

I've done this before myself. You can't go back to the way it was if she's put herself out there and you've rejected her.

Why

 

[ghcortez253]

I've done this before myself. You can't go back to the way it was if she's put herself out there and you've rejected her.

WHY!!!

 

[Gamisch]

Facts. Also "HB10" doesn't have to "help" you, she could lower your stock based upon how she acts around you.

AaaH, this makes me laugh everytime when I read it ,great underrated comment! I imagine dude(myself) with HB10 in a bar, and all the wolf men are like "wtf is that her bF???. Let's find out..". Nope he is not , no kissing no nothing . You can only save face by treating her like a HB5 ( you dgaf about her), bc if you act beta its obvious you've been friendzoned...even worse whe she is doing everything she can to make it obvious you are NOT her bf, that alone lowers your stock..The effect it has on other women also fades quickly . Now the wolf men are bout to attack, she'll get all the attention and you still have to fight for your meal while being publicly cucked by HB10..not a good look!

WHY!!!

Women honour bro...I recently rejected a woman who told me she liked me ( I was going through another blue pill fase and tried to be loyal to s/o ) ,and never heard from her again. Years of good contact was gone at once. Women will move on to men who can make them feel desired, and you failed to do that by rejecting her.

A woman,s timeline(attraction timeline) is short. If you make her feel insecure, she 's gone. And no, she wont neccesarily desire you more, unless you really were hotter then her from the get go. The dynamic is changed ,and not in her favor. Women cant stand that shyt.

Like someone said before; if a (female) opportunity shows itself, assume there will be only one chance. Dont waste your time on her OP ,plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[Gamisch]

This makes sense... Though it supports the idea to not go out with females period, because if one looks bad due to hb10 behavior. What if you're out with a hb6.5 friend that acts like that also... It would lower one's stock even more.

Most definitely, recently a dude tried to fight me bc his hb5 whale gf was shamelessly hitting on me while he stood 2 feet away from us. Told me to show some respect.. Afterwards she stalked me on fb. Dude had this street vibe on him, now it's hard to take him serious.

On top of that ,even a HB5 will act like a HB10, and cheat / ghost you if you validate her too much . But that topic should be a thread of it's own .

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Most definitely, recently a dude tried to fight me bc his hb5 whale gf was shamelessly hitting on me while he stood 2 feet away from us. Told me to show some respect.. Afterwards she stalked me on fb. Dude had this street vibe on him, now it's hard to take him serious.

On top of that ,even a HB5 will act like a HB10, and cheat / ghost you if you validate her too much . But that topic should be a thread of it's own .

You should have said to show yourself some respect and stop dating landwhales.