"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I don't understand "heated discussions." Either we're fighting or we're not.

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Here's how I see things..

I'm not gonna be able to convince you of my side because you're an idiot who doesn't listen.
You're not gonna convince me of your side because you're an idiot who I'm not gonna listen to.

Where does that leave us?

Well you COULD walk away and not question my thought process.. ever.. because you're an idiot. Or I could walk away, which I swore after highschool that I would do everything in my power NOT to do. I can tell you what I think you want to hear so you can screw off and harass someone else.. which I similarly swore off after moving out of my parents' house.

Nowadays, if you and I are having a "discussion," my primary focus is on waiting for you to give me an excuse or opening to swing.

I have a fine that I'm not gonna pay because of this.

People who get into these "conversations," what are you expecting to happen? Most of you couldn't find your asses with both hands and eyes on the backs of your heads. You think your thoughts matter that much that they need to come out of your mouths?

You think you have "status?" Not until you prove you can spell it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Get therapy brother, in my city you'll meet the wrong guy sooner or later . Lots of people carry weapons nowadays. Good luck
 

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Get therapy brother, in my city you'll meet the wrong guy sooner or later . Lots of people carry weapons nowadays. Good luck
Most people are ****ing insects who don't even think about the possibility of the person they're mistreating fighting back. What do you mean "weapons?"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Leprechauns sized skinny dudes wear guns and knifes. All it takes isa small Swiss knive(that how we call em ) to f you up bad...

When I was younger I went to a party with a friend, we were 15, 16 at the time . My homie yelled something at somebody ,pushed him and outta now where we got attacked by a group of some grown ass older man and we got stabbed.

Was a life altering ,for him face chancing beat down we got.

Stay safe
 

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I'm not gonna be able to convince you of my side because you're an idiot who doesn't listen.
You're not gonna convince me of your side because you're an idiot who I'm not gonna listen to.
This perspective is more mutual than you'd think. You view it like this and chances are the other person views you in exactly the same way, both unaware that both are equally idiotic.

It's also totally hypocritical to regard the other person as an idiot for not listening and in literally the next sentence straight up admit you're not gonna listen either because you already deemed the other person an idiot. Once you stop listening you're just as much of an idiot and it's no wonder your opponent will regard you as you regard them.

Well you COULD walk away and not question my thought process.. ever.. because you're an idiot. Or I could walk away, which I swore after highschool that I would do everything in my power NOT to do. I can tell you what I think you want to hear so you can screw off and harass someone else.. which I similarly swore off after moving out of my parents' house.
I imagine a world full of people living by your ideals and what I see is pure chaos, everyone endlessly talking, nobody listening, everyone regarding everyone else as idiots and nothing of value produced by anyone. What do you see?

Nowadays, if you and I are having a "discussion," my primary focus is on waiting for you to give me an excuse or opening to swing.
You must be fun at parties...

You think you have "status?" Not until you prove you can spell it.
You think YOU have status? I can already feel the glow of your entitlement all the way across the Atlantic ocean.

Most people are ****ing insects
This explains a lot.
 

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Damn.
In a previous posting of yours, I put forth some effort to help… because you appeared to be new and needing advice.

I didn’t see it then, but now I do. Your Napoleon complex is showing.
 

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Damn.
In a previous posting of yours, I put forth some effort to help… because you appeared to be new and needing advice.

I didn’t see it then, but now I do. Your Napoleon complex is showing.
Pfft. I'm only 1 inch below the national average.

But seriously. It especially becomes a problem when you see really successful people talking about how they don't listen to people they don't see as credible.

Leaves me wondering why the same mentality doesn't work for me.

When they do it, they get respect.

When I do it, I'm treated like a punk.
 

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when you see really successful people talking about how they don't listen to people they don't see as credible.

Leaves me wondering why the same mentality doesn't work for me.
Successful people may not value others opinions, but the don’t see those others as ****ing insects…
Research The Golden Rule
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It especially becomes a problem when you see really successful people talking about how they don't listen to people they don't see as credible.
It's not really that they're not listening, they always listen and evalute, but that evaluation doesn't always lead to obeying. What they never do however is to give attitude, they're above that. They made their choice and are going their own way, they don't stay to argue as if they're desperately seeking approval for their views from the other person.

When they do it, they get respect.

When I do it, I'm treated like a punk.
It's not about the general idea, it's all about how you execute it. When they do it they don't stick around to try to win you over, they go get sh!t done instead. Your principle of not walking away is a huge disadvantage, literally a waste of time. You could spend that time furthering yourself instead of chaining yourself to people who aren't going to help you do so no matter what.
 

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Successful people may not value others opinions, but the don’t see those others as ****ing insects…
Research The Golden Rule
Your argument is irrelevant simply because I don't show how I see people. My mask is very good.

It's not really that they're not listening, they always listen and evalute, but that evaluation doesn't always lead to obeying. What they never do however is to give attitude, they're above that. They made their choice and are going their own way, they don't stay to argue as if they're desperately seeking approval for their views from the other person.


It's not about the general idea, it's all about how you execute it. When they do it they don't stick around to try to win you over, they go get sh!t done instead. Your principle of not walking away is a huge disadvantage, literally a waste of time. You could spend that time furthering yourself instead of chaining yourself to people who aren't going to help you do so no matter what.
Yeah? And what happens when I DON'T get their "approval," as you call it?

They go and tattle like little snakes and I'm in even deeper ****.

I refuse to believe that employers and authority figures respect competence and efficiency. If they did, workplace violence would be allowed instead of ran from in cowardice.

It's all about their precious ****ing feelings.
 
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